Ray's musings and humor

It’s not that important

Ray’s Daily

November 2, 2018


The trick in life is learning how to deal with it.

Helen Mirren

Don't worry

If you are like I am you sometimes get upset because of a rwel or imagined insult or slight. Usually what happened is not all that important. In fact most of our self-imposed stress is not because of something that happened rather it is because how we dealt with it. One of the advantage of aging is we learn that much of what has got us down in the past really was not that important.

Angel Chernoff recently wrote an article that talked about . Here in part is what she said.putting events into perspective

Choose to remind yourself of the truth…

You are not what happened to you. — You are not your past experiences.  You are not your scars.  You are not what someone else once said about you.  You are what you choose to become in this moment.  Let go, breathe, and begin again today.

You are more than that one broken piece of you. — We all have this image in our minds of ourselves—this idea of who we are.  And when this idea gets chipped or broken in some small way, we tend to broadly internalize it.   Realize this.  It’s easy to feel like everything—ALL of you—is broken along with that one small piece of you.  But that’s not true.

Other people’s opinions of you are rarely accurate. — People may have heard your stories, but they can’t feel what you are going through today.  They aren’t living your life!  So, let go of what they say about you.

You are as worthy as you believe yourself to be. — You will never find your worth in another human being—you find it in yourself, and then you will attract those who are worthy of your energy.  Accept and acknowledge your own worth today.  Stop waiting for others to tell you how important you are.

The best time to be extra kind to yourself is when you don’t feel like it. — Because that’s when doing so can make the biggest difference.  Truly, it’s not what you say to everybody else that determines your life; it’s what you whisper to yourself every day that has the greatest power.

It’s not too late.  You aren’t behind. — You are exactly where you need to be.  Every step is necessary.  Don’t judge or berate yourself for how long your journey is taking.  We all need our own time to travel our own distance.

You have come a long way. — The trick is to embrace life today.  Don’t wish it away waiting for better days ahead.  Just appreciate where you are.  You’ve come a long way, and you’re still learning and growing.  Give yourself credit for your resilience, and step forward again with grace.

You need to distance yourself to see your situation clearly. — Step back.  Give yourself space.  Sometimes the most important thing you do in a whole day is the short rest you take between two deep breaths.  Just let go for a moment and remind yourself that the strongest sign of your growth is knowing you’re slightly less stressed by the hard realities that used to absolutely overwhelm you.

You are a work in progress. — It’s wild how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn’t live without, and then we fall in love with what we didn’t even know we wanted.  Life keeps leading us down paths we would never travel if it were up to us.  Don’t be afraid.  Have faith.  Trust the journey.  Be a work in progress today, and celebrate the fact that you are!


Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.

Marcus Aurelius


To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam.

To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one hour: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

To realize the value of one minute: Ask the person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize the value of one second: Ask a person who has survived an accident.

To realize the value of one millisecond: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics.

Time waits for no one.  Treasure every moment you have.  You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.


I’ve seen the future.  I can’t afford it.


“All Nurses Go To Heaven”

Three nurses went to heaven, and were awaiting their turn with St. Peter to plead their case to enter the pearly gates.

The first nurse said, “I worked in an emergency room. We tried our best to help patients, but occasionally we did lose one. I think I deserve to go to heaven.”

St. Peter looks at her file and admits her to heaven.

The second nurse says, “I worked in an operating room. It’s a very high stress environment and we do our best. Sometimes the patient is too sick and we lose them, but overall we try very hard.”

St. Peter looks at her file and admits her to heaven.

The third nurse says, “I was a case manager for an HMO.”

St. Peter looks at her file. He pulls out a calculator and starts punching away at it furiously, constantly going back to the nurse’s file. After a few minutes St. Peter looks up, smiles, and says, “Congratulations! You’ve been admitted to heaven … for five days!”


If the shoe fits, put it in your mouth.


“My wife and I were in a church service. There was an older gentleman in the audience near the front who would periodically interject a ‘Praise God’ or ‘Amen, brother’.

During the sermon, the pastor began speaking about Solomon and mentioned his 700 wives and concubines when the old man said ‘Lord have mercy’.”


“I hate when people honk at me. Unless I’m taking a left turn – then I like it, because that’s how I know it’s time to turn.”

Rita Rudner


A noted psychiatrist was a guest at a chic gathering, and his hostess naturally broached the subject in which he was most at ease.  “Would you mind telling me, Doctor,” she asked, “how you detect a mental deficiency in somebody who appears completely normal?”

“Nothing is easier,” he replied.  “You ask him a simple question which everyone should answer with no trouble.  If he hesitates, that puts you on the track.”

“What sort of question?”

“Well, you might ask him, ‘Captain Cook made three trips around the world and died during one of them.  Which one?’ ”

The hostess thought a moment, then said with a nervous laugh, “You wouldn’t happen to have another example would you?  I must confess I don’t know much about history.”


Lighten up, just enjoy life, smile more, laugh more, and don’t get so worked up about things.

Kenneth Branagh


Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Comments on: "It’s not that important" (1)

  1. good to remember, ray –

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