October 15, 2018
Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness.
I recently read an article published in INC magazine about how we can find long-term happiness. As I read the article I realized that the traits they describe were not just the behaviors of happy people they also the traits that I have found in the truly successful people I know. I think that personal integrity is the cornerstone of a happy person’s foundations.
Here are excerpts from the article for your revue.
Want to Find Long-Term Happiness?
By Marcel Schwantes
I’ve learned to adapt these nine principles found in people who are generally at peace and in a state of happiness — the same habits commonly found in people of character who value the humanity of others.
- Happy people avoid arrogance.- People with a happiness advantage don’t trample over their colleagues to get what they want at the expense of relationships; they humbly acknowledge that they don’t have all the answers and will ask for feedback from trusted sources.
- Happy people avoid gossip. – Happy people will walk away the moment they pick up gossipers on their radar; it’s in the gossiper’s DNA to dig up things about other people and spread rumors like a tumor. Happy people take the higher road by not associating with such people because it will save them in the long run.
- Happy people gauge their emotions and that of others – Because they’re highly empathic, happy people are typically great listeners, self-reflective, and curious about the lives of others, according to research.
- Happy people walk in integrity – As the famous saying goes, “do the right thing, even when no one is looking,” isn’t always easy. However, when you walk the talk like most happy people, the benefits are tremendous.
- Happy people focus on what they can control – Take a hint from the happiest of people: relax, slow down, take one thing at a time, and then focus again on what’s immediately in front of you. This will help to ease your anxiety.
- Happy people practice mindfulness – A growing body of research in neuroscience suggest that mindfulness is one of the best-kept secrets to help manage anxiety. All you need to do to is sit down for five minutes and pay attention to the present moment, without judgment, accepting whatever thoughts and sensations you’re experiencing as you breathe in and out.
- Happy people admit their mistakes – Happy people are radically honest people; they show their likable humanity when the chips are down, rather than letting hubris rear its ugly head. When they make mistakes, they will admit them.
- Happy people are assertive when managing conflict – Courageously run toward the eye of the storm because assertively cutting through a conflict to resolve a problem with respect, dignity, and good listening skills is much, much easier than the negative consequences of running away from a conflict.
- Happy people speak their truth – Happy people are authentic; they don’t say things to sugarcoat or try to please others or look good in front of their peers. Speak clearly, honestly, and with integrity.
True happiness arises, in the first place, from the enjoyment of one’s self.
A four-year-old was showing a little friend the family photos that covered one wall in their basement. Out of sight but not out of earshot, her mother overheard her say, “Here’s a picture of my mommy when she was a little girl. I wasn’t there, but people say she used to be nice.”
It’s easy to identify people who can’t count to ten. They’re in front of you in the supermarket express lane
Obrien and Nealy were getting well on in years, and Obrien was in the hospital in his last days.
Obrien reached out his hand to his friend and said, “Me friend, we’ve been pals since we were wee lads, and I haven’t got much more time left of this earth. When I’m gone, would you do me the biggest of favors?”
To which Nealy replied, “Why of course my good friend … anything you’d ask of me.”
Obrien asked, “When I’m well planted, please pour a bottle of the very best Irish whiskey on my grave.”
Nealy’s response … “Of course my good friend but … would you be offended if I was to strain it through me kidneys first?”
Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.
“That was nice of you to set up a blind date for your ex-boyfriend.”
“I know, but I don’t hold any grudges.”
“I’m surprised he trusted you enough to agree to go out with her.”
“Well, I had to swear to him she’s Jennifer Lopez’s double.”
“Wow! Is that true”?
“I wouldn’t lie. She’s twice her weight and twice her age!”
Veni, Vidi, Velcro. (I came, I saw, I stuck around)
He said: I’ve sure gotten old. I’ve had two By-pass surgeries. A hip replacement, new knees. Fought prostate cancer, and diabetes. I’m half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine, take 40 different medications that make me dizzy, I’m winded, and subject to blackouts.
I have bouts with dementia. Have poor circulation, hardly feel my hands and feet anymore. Can’t remember if I’m 85 or 92. Have lost all my friends.
But… Thank God, I still have my Florida driver’s license.
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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