October 11, 2018
“Doing your best is more important than being the best.”
If there is one key behavior I have found to be important these days it is to be OK with my limitations and to just do the best I can. I can’t see as well as I did but I can still see, I can’t hear as well as I did but I can still hear, I can’t walk as far but I can still walk. All-in-all I am doing much better than many of my contemporaries and I am grateful for that as it is more than enough.
I recently read an article written by Sara Fabian entitled When I Stopped Competing, I Set Myself Free that reminded me of the value of being happy with what you can do. Here are excerpts that I would like to share with you today.
Stop competing against myself.
Perfection is nothing but pure fiction, an illusion created by our minds. It’s also a learned practice. Most of us were raised to constantly strive to become better people—to focus on our flaws and perceived limitations—and we either take our strengths for granted or aren’t even aware of them.
While we are all learning from our experiences and mistakes, we also need to be aware of our gifts and talents. We need to celebrate our uniqueness and detach ourselves from the toxic habit of comparing ourselves to others.
Why turn my life into a never-ending competition? True friendship is not about competing against each other. It’s about support and collaboration. Why act as my competitor when I can be my own best friend?
As the Chinese proverb says, “Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
Since I changed my perspective, I’ve stopped beating myself up. I now talk to myself kindly. I treat myself with dignity and respect. I know I am worthy of the best things life has to offer, and it is my birthright to be happy. My happiness is nothing to compete or fight for.
I’ve learned to forgive myself for my mistakes in the same way I forgive others, knowing I am also human. As a student at the school of life, I will sometimes rise and sometimes fall, and that is okay. I no longer strive to become the best version of myself. Instead, I always do the best I can. When I know I’ve done the best I could, there’s no room for regrets. Whenever I know better, I do better. The day I stopped competing against myself and others, I set myself free.
Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Don Miguel Ruiz
The kids said:
“If you want to be loved by somebody who isn’t already in your family, it doesn’t hurt to be beautiful.” — Anita, age 8
“Beauty is skin deep. But how rich you are can last a long time.” — Christine, age 9
“It isn’t always how you look. Look at me. I’m handsome like anything, and I haven’t got anybody to marry me yet.” — Brian, age 7
The Trouble With the Gene Pool Is That There’s No Lifeguard
A guy is walking down the street with his friend. He says to his friend, “I’m a walking economy.”
His friend replies, “How’s that?”
“It’s like this: My hair line is in recession, my stomach is a victim of inflation, and the combination of these factors is putting me into a deep depression.”
A man went to the Police Station wishing to speak with the burglar who had broken into his house the night before.
“You’ll get your chance in court,” said the Desk Sergeant.
“No, no, no!” said the man. “I want to know how he got into the house without waking my wife. I’ve been trying to do that for years!”
An insurance agent was teaching his wife to drive when the brakes suddenly failed on a steep, downhill grade.
“I can’t stop!” she shrilled. “What should I do?”
“Brace yourself,” advised her husband, “and try to hit something cheap.”
Adults are just kids who owe money.
As I was driving home from work one day, I stopped to watch a local Little League baseball game that was being played in a park near my home. As I sat down behind the bench on the first-baseline, I asked one of the boys what the score was.
“We’re behind 14 to nothing,” he answered with a smile.
“Really,” I said. “I have to say you don’t look very discouraged.”
“Discouraged?” the boy asked with a puzzled look on his face. “Why should we be discouraged? We haven’t been up to bat yet.”
“I just recently had my Visa card stolen … Right now it’s everywhere I want to be.”
A guy had been feeling down for so long that he finally decided to seek the aid of a psychiatrist.
He went there, laid on the couch, spilled his guts then waited for the profound wisdom of the psychiatrist to make him feel better.
The psychiatrist asked me a few questions, took some notes then sat thinking in silence for a few minutes with a puzzled look on his face.
Suddenly, he looked up with an expression of delight and said, “Um, I think your problem is low self-esteem. It is very common among losers.”
“At the end of the day, remind yourself that you did the best you could today, and that is good enough.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.