August 21, 2018
Take time to be friendly, It is the road to happiness. Take time to love and be loved, it is a privilege of the Gods. Take time to share, life is too short to be selfish.
I read an article written by Prakhar Verma yesterday reporting on the skills used by successful people. I think what he wrote is good advice for people like my wife and me as they move into a new environment. All of us benefit when we don’t hold ourselves back when we enter new social settings. One of the greatest rewards in life are the gifts of friendship that we are given when we sincerely care for others.
Here is an abridged copy of what Verma wrote.
5 Secrets Skills Of Highly Successful People That Has Nothing To Do With Talent
It’s true that some people have unique talents and genetic gifts that contribute to their success. But most successful people are not born genius. They are people like you and me who developed the two kinds of skills — industry-specific skills and emotional intelligence. Don’t believe me? Let’s take a closer look.
Secret #1: Self-Awareness – If you look on the internet, you will find a lot of people teaching you how to become self-aware. But you want to know the plain truth? No one can teach you to become self-aware. People may give you the tactics, but it’s only you who can teach yourself to become self-aware.
Secret #2: Self-Management – Self-awareness is the first step. But what do you do after that?
The ability to manage oneself is the next step in personal evolution. If you can’t manage yourself, you can’t run a business, give your best at work or be a good partner or parent.
Reading self-help books may help you gain knowledge, but to turn it into wisdom, you need to put down that book and do something with each lesson you learn.
Secret #3: Motivation – Self-motivation is the key to getting things done. Productivity hacks may work, but they are secondary. First, you must operate from your inner drives and develop intrinsic motivation to become unstoppable.
Benjamin P. Hardy is one of the top motivational writers who talks about the difference between pull and push motivation. He says: “Push motivation is rough. It’s exhausting, depleting, and requires constant willpower, which quickly burns-out. Pull motivation is much more powerful. It draws you forward, and actually gives you more energy while you’re doing it.” It requires a lot of digging before you find the rope that pulls you towards your goals. Emotionally intelligent people understand which rope to hold on to and which rope to let go of.
Secret #4: Empathy – All successful relationships and businesses are built on empathy. Empathy helps you connect with the other person on a level that most people never even come close to. If you want to excel on this planet (professionally or personally), you need empathy. And much like other “secrets”, it’s a skill you can develop. You don’t learn it just by reading more about it.
Secret #5: Social Skills – Whether you call it charm, charisma or likability; it’s the “luck” factor that most successful people have. I use the word “luck” because most people keep wondering why these people get all the opportunities while only they know that’s because of their relationships and their ability to communicate well.
Great social skills come from confident and confidence comes from great social skills. It’s a loop and you sure can enter it, but the only way is to put in the work to develop the skills. I don’t care if you call yourself an introvert or an extrovert, you can get better at this. Naturally, I am an introvert but I recognize that fact and I push myself to do the uncomfortable.
Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone about you, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead.
Charles M. Schwab
As the storm began to rage, the absent minded blonde professor started outside when his wife stopped him, asking, “Hey, where do you think you’re going, George?”
“I’m going out to water the flowers,” replies the professor.
“But… dear, it’s raining outside!” replies his wife.
“You’re right,” says the professor, closing the door and now walking to the closet…..”I’d better take my umbrella.”
Make new friends and keep the old; one is silver, the other gold.
“Take a pencil and paper,” the teacher said, “and write an essay with the title ‘If I Were a Millionaire.’ ”
Everyone but Philip, who leaned back with arms folded, began to write furiously.
“What’s the matter,” the teacher asked. “Why don’t you begin?”
“I’m waiting for my secretary,” he replied.
“The reason grandchildren and grandparents get along so well is because they share a common enemy.”
A Catholic boy was bragging to his Jewish friend. “My priest knows more than your rabbi.”
“Of course he does,” said the Jewish boy. “You tell him everything.”
A friend of mine was visiting a college which had those security call boxes every few hundred feet. If you were wandering around the campus at night and felt uneasy about somebody following you, for instance, you could hit the button and have a security officer investigate immediately.
On one of these phones hung a sign that said, “Out of Order.”
Underneath it someone had scrawled, “Keep Running.”
A careful study of economics usually reveals that the best time to buy anything is last year.
Rabbi Sam Wolfson was giving his speech to the Jewish federation about the ” Tragedy of Jewish Inter-Marriage ” with non-Jews. Toward the end of his long speech the Rabbi clapped his hands…waited 10 seconds…and clapped his hands again. The Rabbi then explained that every time he clapped his hands some Jew married a non-Jew.
Immediately Morris jumped up from his seat in the audience and shouted, “So Stop With Your Clapping!”
I implore you to see the universe as a warm and supportive one because you’ll look for evidence to support this view. When you anticipate that the universe is friendly, you see friendly people. You look for circumstances to work in your favor. You anticipate good fortune flowing into your life.
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