August 17, 2018
“The future is not a result of choices among alternative paths offered by the present, but a place that is created–created first in the mind and will, created next in activity…. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination.”
Our North Carolina visitors are on their way back home this morning, my wife’s birthday celebration is being interrupted for one day until another that is being hosted by friends tomorrow. Since I have roles to play I am going to send you a Daily from the past that I think still has merit.
Ray’s Daily first published on August 17, 2009
As the years go by I have learned that life is filled with unexpected twists and turns. Economic conditions change requiring adjustments in purchasing plans, vacations, and expensive entertainments. Health issues arise that limit our ability to perform as well as we had in the past. Life partners require more attention and, in some cases, pass on. Job loss, moves, children leaving the nest and so much more can throw us off stride. When we encounter roadblocks and detours some of us just stop and wait for the road to reopen which most times is a futile exercise, others find a different road and move on.
I often spend time with friends who are locked down allowing memories of past accomplishments that can no longer be replicated to block them from moving forward. They often sit in pain believing that their only hope is a miracle that will restore them to what they once were. What concerns me is that they miss so much that they could be doing that often would give them as much pleasure as other activities did in the past. One of the great gifts that life gives us is a lot more things to see, do and learn about than we could absorb in a hundred life times much less one.
I have had enough health and professional challenges to learn that taking a path I have never walked before provides exciting new opportunities, new friendships and added experiences that add to my capabilities. My heroes are the people who remember the good from the past, work to understand what they might do and then expand their horizons. I told a friend the other day that the limits his health has placed on his ability to perform athletically has freed up hours that I would love to have since I could use them to follow other pursuits that would add new meaning to my life.
I actually believe the blind can see; they see through the eyes of others who have left them great novels, reports of the wonders of the world and a wealth of knowledge. They have learned that their limitations open alternative ways to cope that can make up for what was missed. In fact in some respect the sightless see more than those who have isolated themselves within the walls of doing the same thing day, after day, after day…..
Bottom line some of us allow ourselves to be pushed into a rut by events and others of us just live in a rut all the time. Here is something that Michael Bungay Stanier wrote that may help if you if you would like to join with those of us who have decided to follow the yellow brick road to new adventures.
4 steps to find a new groove
Too often our ‘revealed preferences’ reveal a life that’s less than we imagine for ourselves. Follow this exercise and see if you can find a new groove.
- Scan your life and pick a general area where you feel you’ve got into a comfortable rut. There’s plenty of places to look: your role at work; a regular commitment you have to perform; your relationship with your partner, your boss, your kids, your parents; your idea of fun; how you maintain your heath; what you eat; your physical environment. Yep, it’s the whole life, full enchilada scan.
- Now that you’ve picked one of those areas, dig a little deeper. First step is to pick out what you really like, the things you don’t want to change. You might consider not changing: parts of your behavior; the people involved; the location; the ‘things’ – whatever ‘stuff’ is involved.
- Now you’re clear on what you want to keep the same, can you see one thing that you’d like to change? One person, one behavior, one element of the mix that you’d like to be new?
- Pick an action: get rid of it entirely; add something to it; remove something; rearrange it to a different position; do it in a different order; bring in something new; break the rules.
I’m not really asking you to rearrange your entire world here. But perhaps it’s time to step out onto a new path.
“Where the old tracks are lost, new country is revealed with its wonders.”
Bob meets Doug at the bar after his day at divorce court.
“Did the judge split everything fairly when he granted your wife a divorce?” asked Doug.
Bob replies, “Sort of. She got to keep the house, the car, the boat, the furniture and MY dog. I got to keep everything I was wearing.”
The value of a dog is its constant reminder of how much fun it is to act idiotic.
Now These Really Do Ring True!!
- Law of Mechanical Repair – After your hands become coated with grease, your nose will begin to itch.
- Law of the Workshop – Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.
- Law of the Telephone – When you dial a wrong number, you never get a busy Signal.
- Law of the Alibi – If you tell the boss you were late for work because you Had a flat tire, the next morning you will have a flat Tire.
- Variation Law – If you change lines (or traffic lanes), the one you were In will start to move faster than the one you are in now. (works every time)
- Bath Theorem – When the body is immersed in water, the telephone rings.
- Law of Close Encounters – The probability of meeting someone you know increases When you are with someone you don’t want to be seen with.
- Law of the Result – When you try to prove to someone that a machine won’t work, it will.
- Law of Bio-mechanics – The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.
- Theatre Rule – At any event, the people whose seats are furthest from the aisle arrive last
- Law of Coffee – As soon as you sit down to a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will last until the coffee is cold.
- Murphy’s Law of Lockers – If there are only two people in a locker room, they will have adjacent lockers.
- Law of Dirty Rugs/Carpets – The chances of an open-faced jelly sandwich of landing Face down on a floor covering are directly correlated to the newness and cost of the carpet/rug.
If you can’t read this, you’re illiterate.
At the end of the college year, a star football player celebrated the relaxation of team curfew by attending a late night campus party. Soon after arriving, he became captivated by a beautiful young thing and eased into a conversation with her by asking if she met many dates at parties.
“Oh, I have a 3.9, so I’m much more attracted to the strong academic types than to dumb party animals,” she said. “What’s your G.P.A.?”
Grinning from ear to ear, the jock boasted, “I get about 27 in the city and 38 on the highway.
It is not a lucky word, this “impossible”; no good comes of those who have it so often in their mouth.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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