August 16, 2018
“Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness.”
Today is my wife’s birthday and my family is going to make it special. Next year we will celebrating her day in our new residence, We are adjusting to the changes in our lives with positive attitudes. When I read the following article, I had to edit it for space, by Travis Bradberry it reminded me of how important it is to eliminate the barriers to happiness in our lives.
9 traps you fall into that limit your happiness
Some habits lead to unhappiness more than others do. These traps are easily avoided once you’re aware of them.
Holding your feelings in – One of the great misconceptions concerning emotional intelligence (EQ) is that it is about repressing our feelings and holding them in. Emotional intelligence means honoring your feelings and allowing yourself to experience the catharsis that comes from embracing them for what they are.
Numbing yourself with technology – Everyone deserves the opportunity to binge-watch a TV show now and then or to switch on your Kindle and get lost in a book. When your escape becomes a constant source of distraction, it is a sure sign you have fallen into the trap of too much of a good thing.
Spending too much time and effort acquiring “things” – There’s an ocean of research that shows that material things don’t make you happy. When you make a habit of chasing things, you are likely to become unhappy because, beyond the disappointment you experience once you get them, you discover that you’ve gained them at the expense of the real things that can make you happy, such as friends, family, and hobbies.
Waiting for the future – Telling yourself, “I’ll be happy when … ” is one of the easiest unhappy habits to fall into. Don’t spend your time waiting for something that’s proven to have no effect on your mood. Instead focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future.
Fighting change – Change is an inevitable part of life, and those who fight it do so because they are struggling to remain in control. The problem with this approach is that fighting change actually limits your control over the situation by putting up a barrier between yourself and the actions you need to take to improve your situation.
Pessimism – Nothing fuels unhappiness quite like pessimism. The problem with a pessimistic attitude, beyond it being hard on your mood, is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you expect bad things, you’re more likely to get bad things.
Trying to keep up with the Joneses – Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, so if you’re constantly comparing yourself with others, it’s time to stop. Be wary of this kind of thinking as it won’t make you happy and, more often than not, has the opposite effect.
Staying home – When you feel unhappy, it’s tempting to avoid other people. This is a huge mistake as socializing, even when you don’t enjoy it, is great for your mood. Recognize when unhappiness is making you antisocial, force yourself to get out there and mingle, and you’ll notice the difference right away.
Bringing it all together – Changing your habits in the name of greater happiness is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. But it’s also important for another reason — taking control of your happiness makes everyone around you happier.
To stay happy, we must stop complaining about the troubles we have and learn to be thankful for the troubles we don’t have.
FATAL THINGS TO SAY IF YOUR WIFE IS PREGNANT
“I finished the Oreos.”
“Not to imply anything, but I don’t think the kid weighs forty pounds.”
“Y’know, looking at her, you’d never guess that Pamela Lee had a baby.”
“I sure hope your thighs aren’t gonna stay like that!”
“Well, couldn’t they induce labour? The 25th is the Super Bowl.”
“Are your ankles supposed to look like that?”
“Get your own ice cream.”
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life. It goes on.”
Jolene had been wanting new kitchen cabinets for a long time, but her husband insisted they were an extravagance. She went to visit her Mother for two weeks, and when she returned, she was overjoyed to find that beautiful new cabinets had been installed.
A few days later a neighbor came over to visit and after admiring the new cabinets, the neighbor added, “All of us were so glad that the fire your husband had while you were gone was confined to the kitchen.”
True friends are those who really know you but love you anyway.
“So,” the woman asked the detective she had hired, “did you trail my husband?”
“Yes ma’am. I did. I followed him to a bar, to an out of the way restaurant and then to an apartment.”
A big smile crossed the woman’s face, “Aha!! Then I’ve got him!” she said, gloating.” Is there any doubt what he was doing?”
“No ma’am.” replied the sleuth, “It’s pretty clear that he was following you!”
“Everybody needs his memories. They keep the wolf of insignificance from the door.”
Early in their marriage, the old perfesser did something really stupid. Doesn’t matter what it was, for the sake of this story, just trust me… it was stupid.
Mrs Perfesser chewed him out for it. Knowing it was really dumb, he sensibly apologized, and they made up.
However, from time to time, Mrs Perfesser reminds him what a dolt he had been on that occasion.
“Honey,” the old perfesser finally said one day, “why do you keep bringing that up? I thought your policy was ‘forgive and forget’?”
“It is,” said Mrs Perfesser. “I just don’t want you to forget that I’ve forgiven and forgotten.”
You’re only young once, but you can be immature forever.
Miss Figpot was quizzing her third-grade students on their spelling words. She asked Little Johnny to spell “straight.” Johnny did so without error.
“Now,” said the teacher, “what does it mean?”
Johnny replied, “Without water.”
“Life is a journey, and if you fall in love with the journey, you will be in love forever.”
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