August 13, 2018
Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
I have spent a lot of time with people my age and older over the years and I have found that the most debilitating problem for the elderly is lonesomeness. We lose the socialization from the workplace when we retire, friends pass away or move on and soon the chairs around us empty and lonesomeness starts to creep in.
It really does not have to be that way. My wife and I have found that the people we have met in our later years, some in their nineties, have become good friends. We have also found that spending time with them, our family and our remaining old friends is therapeutic and does more for us than all our medications.
I recently read an article, I have included an excerpt below, that reminded me that it is the barriers we build that too often isolate us from folks that could be our friend.
Some folks have wondered why I am so open in the Daily, I tell them I don’t really have a lot of secrets and this is as good as I get, I am just glad that that has been good enough for so many of you who have become my friend.
Loneliness is contagious – and here’s how to beat it
To overcome loneliness and improve our mental health, there are certain things we can do. Research has looked at the different ways of combating this condition, such as increasing the number of people you talk to, improving your social skills, and learning how to compliment others. But it seems the number one thing is to change your perceptions of the world around you.
It’s realizing that sometimes people aren’t able to meet up with you, not because there is something inherently wrong with you, but because of other things going on in their lives. Maybe the person that you wanted to have dinner with wasn’t able to accept your invitation because it was too short notice for them and they had already promised someone else they would have drinks. People who aren’t lonely realise this and, as a consequence, don’t get down or start beating themselves up when someone says no to their invitations. When you don’t attribute “failures” to yourself, but rather to circumstances, you become much more resilient in life and can keep going.
Getting rid of loneliness is also about letting go of cynicism and mistrust of others. So next time you meet someone new, try to lose that protective shield and really allow them in, even though you don’t know what the outcome will be.
If you are afraid of being lonely, don’t try to be right.
Waiter to blonde customer: “How do you want me to slice your pizza? Into six or twelve slices?”
Blonde: “SIX!!!! Gosh sakes, I could *never* eat 12 slices!”
An Irish girl went to London to work as a secretary and began sending home money and gifts to her parents. After a few years they asked her to come home for a visit, as her father was getting frail and elderly.
She pulled up to the family home in a Rolls Royce and stepped out wearing furs .and diamonds As she walked into the house her father said “Hmmm, they seem to be paying secretaries awfully well in London”.
The girl took his hands and said, “Dad, I’ve been meaning to tell you something for years but I didn’t want to put it in a letter I can’t hide it from you any longer. I’ve become a “prostitute”.
Her father gasped, put his hand on his heart and keeled over. The doctor was called but the old man had clearly lost the will to live. He was put to bed and the priest was called.
As the priest began to administer Extreme Unction, with the mother and daughter weeping and wailing, the old man muttered weakly, “I’m a goner, killed by me own daughter! Killed by the shame of what you’ve become”.
“Please forgive me,” his daughter sobbed, “I only wanted to have nice things! I wanted to be able to send you money and the only way I could do it was by becoming a “prostitute”.
Brushing the priest aside the old man bolted upright in bed, smiling.
“Did ye say prostitute? I thought ye said “PROTESTANT !!”
Did any of you married people out there ever wonder whether it’s better to have loved and lost, than to have loved and won?
I was listening to a lady who called a radio pastor. The pastor was a wise, grandfatherly gentleman who has that calm reassuring voice that can melt all fear. The lady, who was obviously crying, said, “Pastor, I was born blind, and I’ve been blind all my life. I don’t mind being blind but I have some well meaning friends who tell me that if I had more faith I could be healed.” The pastor asked her, “Tell me, do you carry one of those white tipped canes?” “Yes I do,” she replied. “Then the next time someone says that, hit them over the head with the cane,” He said. “Then tell them ‘If you had more faith that wouldn’t hurt!'”
In your heart, keep one still, secret spot where dreams may go and be sheltered so they may thrive and grow.
A man was filling out a job application. When he came to the question, “Have you ever been arrested?”
He wrote, “No.”
The next question, intended for people who had answered in the affirmative to the previous question, was “Why?”
The applicant answered it anyway: “Never got caught.”
Don’t play stupid with me…. I’m better at it!
- Muslims do not recognize Judaism as a religion.
- Jews do not recognize Jesus as the Messiah.
- Protestants do not recognize the Pope as the leader of the Christian faith.
- Baptists do not recognize each other at Hooters.
“All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”
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