August 1, 2018
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.”
One of the things I am not looking forward to when my wife and me move to a new residence is the leaving of so many long-time acquaintances. Folks who grew from being neighbors to being friends, trades people who have always been good at offering a welcome greeting and of course the many friends in the organizations that have kept me engaged and busy.
I know I will miss them all. I know my wife and I will find new friends and participate in other activities in the months ahead but that does make saying goodbye any easier. Years ago I saved the following that helped when I left my career behind. I am sure it will help again.
4 Tips for Saying Farewell
- Focus on the positive. Looking back at the time spent with colleagues, it’s oddly tempting to zero in on the people who were not positive, who made working with them difficult and irritating. It might be a trick of the mind that urges us to look at what we won’t miss so we don’t feel so down about what will miss, but don’t forget to focus on the positive. Think of the good times you had with those you’re saying goodbye to and remind them of those positive experiences when you go.
- 2. Embrace the present. Saying goodbye often causes us to think back on the past — both the good and the bad — and dwell on it. We want to cling to the good times or feel slighted by the bad times. But life — and goodbyes — is too short for that. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on what was. Instead, focus on what is. Be grateful for where you are today and encourage others to do the same. It’s tempting to focus on the negative people and situations, but don’t go there. Instead, wish everyone — yes, everyone — well in this present moment.
- 3. Share your sadness. It’s okay to be sad about leaving. Don’t feel like you have to keep all of this to yourself. Find a colleague or friend you can talk to and express how you’re feeling. Change of any kind can be intimidating, but we don’t have to face it alone. Don’t underestimate or ignore your emotions. Embrace them, address them, and share them in order to overcome them.
- 4. Exit with grace. Over the years, I’ve seen a lot of people come and go in the workplace. Most people do it with grace, but there are a few that have left angrily, quickly, harshly. No matter what your situation don’t leave in anger. Don’t leave a sour taste in the mouths of those you are saying farewell to. Instead, leave with grace. Say goodbye to those who meant the most to you. Move forward to the present and do not dwell on negative interactions you have had in the past. This is the last time you will see many of these people so leave them with a positive impression of you.
Don’t be dismayed by good-byes. A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.
20 Worst Things To Hear At A Nuclear Power Plant
Fission shmission, relax, I’ll increase the water level after my coffee break.
Was that “Open valve A and close valve B” or was it the other way round?
This whole plant will be running under Windows tomorrow.
HEY! Is smoke coming out of the core normal?
Who forgot to pay the water bill?
We got 12 seconds to WHAT????
Meet your new plan superintendent: Bozo the clown.
A leak? Can’t you fix it with duct tape or something?
Oh yeah! 50 bucks says I can make it blow.
It’s Russian technology.
Move over Three Mile Island – here we come!!!
Sniff, sniff…. you smell that?
I used to work at Chernobyl.
All the way to the RIGHT, not LEFT you dummy!
It’s your turn to wax the core.
How come all the big shots are leaving?
Is that a 60 minute film crew out there?
Is this part really necessary?
OF COURSE I went to high school. Didn’t finish it, though.
Look at the good news: we are going to find out whether people actually glow in the dark.
Life isn’t a matter of milestones, but moments.
There was a very gracious lady who was mailing an old family Bible to her brother in another part of the country.
“Is there anything breakable in here?” asked the postal clerk.
“Only the Ten Commandments.” answered the lady.
“I’m not sure I want popular opinion on my side
I’ve noticed those with the most opinions often have the fewest facts.”
She said: Stopping to pick up my daughter at kindergarten, I found out that the topic of show and tell that day had been parents’ occupations.
The teacher pulled me aside. Whispering, she advised, “You might want to explain a little bit more to your daughter what you do for a living.”
I work as a training consultant and often conduct my seminars in motel conference rooms.
When I asked why, the teacher explained, “Your daughter told the class she wasn’t sure what you did, but said you got dressed real pretty and went to work at motels.”
A seminar on time travel will be held two weeks ago.
Tom, Glenn, and Scott were working on a high rise building project. Glenn fell off and was instantly killed. As the ambulance took the body away, Scott said, “Someone should go and tell his wife.”
Tom says, “OK, I’m pretty good at that sensitive stuff, I’ll do it.”
Two hours later, Tom came back carrying a 6-pack. Scott asked, “Where did you get that, Tom?”
“Glenn’s wife gave it to me.”
“That’s unbelievable, you told the lady her husband was dead and she gave you the beer?”
Tom said, “Well not exactly. When she answered the door, I said to her, ‘You must be Glenn’s widow.'”
She said, “‘No, I’m not a widow.”
And I said, “Wanna bet me a six-pack?”
“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.”
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