July 30, 2018
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
As my wife and I continue the process of selecting a retirement facility with the assistance of our children I find that thinking too much about the past or speculating too much about the future is a waste of time. Not only that, losing touch with today’s reality does little good.
When we honestly evaluate our past we see that we have done pretty well doing what needed to be done, so why should now be any different. We are still together and have each other as we move on to the next phase of our lives. I look forward to discovering all that the future holds.
I think Edberg’s tips in the following article will help keep us focused
3 Simple Habits for Daily Mindfulness
by Henrik Edberg
One of the most common habits that make life miserable is to not be where you are.
What do I mean by that?
That your body is right here, right now. But that your thoughts are elsewhere in time and space.
And the more time you spend in the future or past, the more you – in my experience – tend to also:
◾Be ineffective. Making decisions becomes very hard if you second-guess yourself all the time or become paralyzed by all the possible outcomes. And overthinking zaps so much energy that you lose motivation to take action.
◾Miss life as it happens. If you are not fully here in this moment then it is very easy to miss and to not fully enjoy a victory or simply a beautiful, fun or small moment in life.
Maybe you cannot spend all of your time in the now. Because there are things you can learn from reexamining your past. And there are things you sometimes need to plan for in your future.
But the kind of obsessive or addictive way to spend so much time in a regular week in the past or future can be replaced with something smarter, more helpful and happiness-friendly.
Three habits that have helped me a lot to make that shift into being much more mindful are to:
- Slow down. – Start your day with doing whatever you do first in your morning slowly.
This will make it easier and more natural to keep a slower pace and to focus fully on what you are doing for the rest of your morning. And starting your day in this way will often prevent you from going into your own most common thought loops that cause worry, anger or sadness.
- Tell yourself: Now I am… – I often tell myself this silently in my mind: Now I am X. And X could be that I am brushing my teeth. Doing the dishes. Taking a walk and listening to the sounds around me. Just reminding myself of this helps my mind to stop wandering and it brings my focus back to just that one thing I am doing right now and nothing else.
- Disrupt your thoughts + quickly reconnect with the here and now. – When you catch yourself going somewhere else in the past or future with your thoughts then – in your mind – shout: STOP! Or: No, no, no, we are not going down that road again!
Then, right away after you have disrupted those thoughts find your way back to the present moment by either focusing only on what is going on around you right now with all your senses – the sights, the sounds, the smells and so on – or by focusing 100% on your breaths going in and out of your body.
“The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness. Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing.”
When I stopped to visit a friend, I found her on the phone with a real estate agent. “That’s a little high!” she exclaimed. “What can I get for less than $500 a month?” The reply was evidently not to my friend’s liking. “I see,” she said abruptly, and hung up.
“What did the agent say you could get?” I asked.
Never date a woman whose father calls her “Princess”. Chances are she believes it.
The psychiatrists were attending their first seminar on emotional extremes.
“Just to establish some parameters,” said the leader, “Mr. Nichols, what is the opposite of joy?”
“Sadness,” said the student.
“And the opposite of depression, Ms. Biggs?”
“And you sir, how about the opposite of woe?”
Bubba replied, “I believe that would be giddyup.”
She said: A man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do. And a woman’s gotta do what he can’t.
Although fun to visit, zoos do pose certain perils. But to whom? A sign posted in the Knoxville Zoo in Tennessee cautioned visitors:
“Please be safe. Do not sit, climb, or lean on the zoo fences. If you fall, animals could eat you, and that would make them sick.”
If God had intended women to exercise, he’d have put diamonds on the floor.
In the admitting office of our hospital, some patients were filling out forms, others were being interviewed and still others were being escorted to their rooms.
An elderly woman hesitantly entered my cubicle. She had completed her admitting forms and, upon my request, handed me her insurance cards. I typed the necessary information and then asked her the reason for her coming to the hospital.
“Just to visit a friend,” she said, “but this had taken so long, I’m not sure I have time now.”
Hospital is a place where they wake you up to give you a sleeping pill.
A man returns from vacation and is feeling very ill. He goes to see his doctor and is immediately rushed to the Hospital to undergo a barrage of tests.
After the tests, he wakes up in a private room at the hospital and the phone by his bed rings.
“This is your doctor. We got the results back from your tests and we discovered that you have a very nasty virus that is extremely contagious!”
“Oh my gosh,” cried the man, “What are you going to do, doctor?”
“Well, we’re going to put you on a diet of pizza, pancakes, and pita bread.”
“Will that cure me?” asked the man.
The doctor replied, “Well no, but…it’s the only food we can get under the door.”
You are a success when you have made friends with your past, are focused on the present, and are optimistic about your future
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Back issues are posted at http://rays-daily,com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.