July 10, 2018
There is nothing permanent except change.
As my wife and me start to plan to move to a more supportive living environment we are faced with the reality of downsizing and selling our home that has served us well for about 30 years. The thought of leaving a great place in a premiere location is not easy. We just had the home inspected to see what needs to be done to offer it for sale and it appears that we will have to invest thousands to do what is needed. I am glad our family is helping us deal with it all.
While there is some trauma associated with moving the results will be better for us in the years ahead. I recently read an article on the Top Life Results blog on handling change, here are some excerpts from the piece that I will need to focus on.
Face Your Aversion to Change As You Overcome Anxiety
The concept of “change” can be a rather overwhelming undertaking.
Recognize that a Positive Attitude Towards Change will Help You (and not Hinder You)
If you’re beginning a journey of personal transformation, the concept of change can be rather scary proposition. When we make personal changes – and start to become less anxious about life, it requires us to take an adventure into the “unknown.”
Once you have a positive attitude towards change, you will be more likely to tell yourself “This change in my life will help me.”
Recognize That Change Involves Stepping Outside Of Your Comfort Zone
Growth involves facing our fears, taking action – knowing that we’ll survive things like disappointment, failure, disapproval, and rejection. These experiences help us learn about the power of perseverance, courage, and of the will to succeed.
Realize that Making Changes in Life Can Be Rewarding
In summary, here are my three ideas about personal change:
◾A positive attitude towards change will help you (and will not hinder you).
◾Making a meaningful change means stepping outside of your comfort zone.
◾Making changes in life can be difficult but ultimately rewarding.
Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
George Bernard Shaw
She said that now that they are retired, her mother and father are discussing all aspects of their future. “What will you do if I die before you do?” Dad asked Mom.
After some thought, she said that she’d probably look for a house-sharing situation with three other single or widowed women who might be a little younger than herself, since she is so active for her age. Then Mom asked Dad, “What will you do if I die first?”
He replied, “Probably the same thing.”
Vital papers will demonstrate their vitality by moving from where you left them to where you can’t find them.
A young couple decided they needed an au pair, and arranged for a girl to come over from Northern Finland. When she arrived, the wife asked, “Can you cook?”
“No,” said the girl, “My mother always did that.”
“Can you do housework?” asked the wife.
“No, my oldest sister always did that.”
“Well,” said the wife, “You’d better just look after the children.”
“I don’t know how,” said the girl. “My youngest sister always did that.”
“What can you do, then?” asked the wife, in desperation.
“Well,” said the Finnish girl brightly, “I can milk reindeer.”
On a scale of 1 to 10, 4 is about 7.
Up at the head table in the cafeteria, one of the nuns had placed a big bowl of bright red, fresh, juicy apples. Beside the bowl, she placed a note which read, “Take only one. Remember, God is watching.”
At the other end of the table was a bowl full of freshly baked chocolate chip cookies, still warm from the oven.
Beside the bowl, a little note scrawled in a child’s handwriting which read, “Take all you want. God’s watching the apples.”
BATHROOM: a room used by the entire family, believed by all (except Mom) to be self-cleaning.
“Thanks for the harmonica you gave me for Christmas,” little Joshua said to his uncle the first time he saw him after the holidays. “It’s the best Christmas present I ever got.”
“That’s great,” said his uncle. “Do you know how to play it?”
“Oh, I don’t play it,” the little fellow said. “My mom gives me a dollar a day not to play it during the day and my dad gives me five dollars a week not to play it at night.”
“Hope for the best, expect the worst. Life is a play. We’re unrehearsed.”
My tennis partner, Peter, is responsible for alumni relations at his high-school alma mater. Last fall, a member of the Class of 1986 returned the standard alumni questionnaire with this response:
Marital Status – Not good
Wife’s Name – Plaintiff
“I’d like two pork chops,” said the patron to her butcher, “and make them lean.”
“Yes ma’am,” said the obliging butcher, standing them on end. “Which way?”
Change can be frightening, and the temptation is often to resist it. But change almost always provides opportunities – to learn new things, to rethink tired processes, and to improve the way we work.
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