July 6, 2018
Cherish all your happy moments; they make a fine cushion for old age.
I know that most of the readers of Ray’s Daily are a lot younger than I am. Some, including my own kids are in those mid-life years. I am glad that they, and many of my friends don’t seem to suffer from any midlife crisis but I know that some other folks do. My memory is not good enough to remember if I did or not, I think I was too busy to notice.
We live so long these days that I am not even sure what the midlife years are anymore.. What got me thinking about this was a long article written by Jill Suttie that talks about midlife blues. In it she writes about the positives that come from old age, and I think her conclusions are accurate, at least they were for me. Here is what she had to say.
Excerpts from How to Survive Your Midlife Blues
Here are some of the benefits of coming out of our midlife slump.
Stress tends to decline. It seems intuitive—after all, we probably have fewer work or family stressors as we get older and our careers stabilize or our children leave home. But, in fact, researchers have found that even holding other things constant, stress still tends to go down as we age, and this downward curve in stress seems to be tied to our increased happiness.
Emotional regulation improves. Not only do older adults tend to experience less intense emotions than younger adults, they also seem to handle emotions better in general. After listening to taped recordings of people making disparaging remarks about them, older adults responded with less negative feedback toward the critics and more detachment around the situation, suggesting greater emotional regulation.
Older people feel less regret. Stephanie Brassen and her colleagues found that when people made the wrong choice and lost all of their winnings in a game, older participants experienced less regret than younger adults—a finding also reflected in their distinct brain activity patterns.
Older people are less depression-prone. According to research, depression becomes less common as we get older. This may be because older adults seem to have a greater optimism bias—the feeling that things will work out—and more positivity—a focus on the positive rather than the negative in life—than younger people.
I will never be an old man. To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am.
A recent bride called her mother one evening in tears. “Oh, Mom, I tried to make Grandmother’s meat loaf for dinner tonight, and it’s just awful! I followed the recipe exactly, and I know I have the recipe right because it’s the one you gave me. But it just didn’t come out right, and I’m so upset. I wanted this to be so special for George because he loves meat loaf. What could have gone wrong?”
Her mother replied soothingly, “Well, dear, let’s go through the recipe.
You read it out loud and tell me exactly what you did at each step, and together we’ll figure it out.”
“OK,” the bride sniffled. “Well, it starts out, ‘Take fifty cents worth of ground beef’ …”
Talent is only the starting point.
One morning I was called to pick up my son at the school nurse’s office. When I walked through the main entrance, I noticed a woman, curlers in her hair, wearing pajamas.
“Why are you dressed like that?” I asked her.
“I told my son,” she explained, “that if he ever did anything to embarrass me, I would embarrass him back. He was caught cutting school. So now I’ve come to spend the day with him!”
When all other means of communication fail, try words!
“Congratulations my boy!” said the groom’s uncle. “I’m sure you’ll look back and remember today as the happiest day of your life.”
“But I’m not getting married until tomorrow,” protested his nephew.
“I know,” replied the uncle, “that’s exactly what I mean.”
Live each day as if it were your last … someday it will be.
A bible-thumping preacher was really getting it going one Sunday, and in the heat of the Gospel, an attractive lady leaned out of the balcony a little too far, and fell over the railing.
As she passed the chandelier on the way down, the hem of her dress caught on part of the fixture, and she hung there with her dress pulled clear over her hips for everyone’s viewing pleasure!
The preacher, a sensitive sort, cried out, “Any man who dares to look shall be struck blind!”
An old fellow in the front row nudged his friend and said, “I’m gonna chance it. This left eye ain’t worth a damn, anyway!”
The trouble with class reunions is that old flames have become even older.
Panicking when her toddler swallowing a tiny magnet, my sister rushed him to the emergency room.
“He’ll be fine,” the doctor promised her. “The magnet should pass through his system in a day or two.”
“How will I be sure?” she pressed.
“Well,” the doctor suggested, “you could stick him on the refrigerator. When he falls off, you’ll know.”
Old age may have its limitations and challenges, but in spite of them, our latter years can be some of the most rewarding and fulfilling of our lives.
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