June 28, 2018
You can’t always get what you want. But, if you’re lucky, you get what you need.
I have found myself a little overwhelmed in the past few days. The application my healthcare providers implemented to capture my vitals is not working. My body is not moving as fast as I need it to, and my wife’s needs have kept me from my former daily routine.
Since I really don’t like life in the rut I am going to reprogram my activities to bring them into better balance. I may even follow the advice in ther following article.
The Ground of Your Basic Goodness
BY LEO BABAUTA
A lot of the time, life can be pretty stressful:
- You feel like you’re treading water, or drowning from an overwhelming number of things to do.
- You feel bad about yourself because you’re not sticking to things, you’re in debt, you’re overweight, you feel like you keep messing up.
- Your relationships are a mess, you’re fighting a lot, you feel lonely.
- Things suddenly happen to shake up your life, or maybe it’s constantly being shaken up, and you’re facing tremendous change and uncertainty.
- Basically, life can feel groundless – no solid, stable ground under your feet.
And the truth is, that’s almost all the time. Our lives are always groundless, even if we try to get routines and control and stability. Things constantly happen to pull the rug out from under our feet, and that kind of uncertainty can be stressful, disappointing, painful, uncomfortable.
So what can we do? We start by just dropping into the moment. Just notice the particularities of this incredible moment. Start to tenderly feel the moment as it is, right now, without trying to make it any different. Start to feel, with a raw and open heart, the magic of this miraculous moment.
That’s a pretty good start. Then drop into this short meditation:
Pay attention to how your body feels. What does it feel like to be alive right now? It’s a feeling, this aliveness — what does that feel like? Feel that for a minute. Synchronize your mind with your breath. Instead of having your mind doing something else, let it just rest on the sensation of the breath. What is that like? Stay here for a minute. Come back if you start to wander off.
Now just keep an open awareness on your experience. Notice how your heart feels. If there’s any kind of pain, tension, tightness — just notice that. Notice the tenderness under the pain, tension, tightness. That’s your tender heart.
Start to feel the basic goodness inside of you. That includes your tender heart, but also your pain, stress, discomfort, and all the sensations of your breath and body. It includes your ever-present awareness. It includes everything. You don’t have a basic goodness, you are basic goodness.
This is the ground of your existence. It’s not stability in your life, not routines or systems, not a sureness of who you are or what your world is. It’s just awareness of your basic goodness. And you can start to feel it, if you practice the meditation above. You can start to sense it, and trust in it. It’s always there, in the background. It’s the vast blue sky to the clouds of your thoughts and feelings.
Meditation can help us embrace our worries, our fear, our anger; and that is very healing. We let our own natural capacity of healing do the work.
Thich Nhat Hanh
My dentist recently hired a beautiful young blonde as a dental hygienist. We exchanged small talk for a half an hour as she cleaned my teeth and I gazed into her pale blue eyes. When she finished, she smiled and said, “You have the most perfect mouth.”
My heart skipped a beat! Then she continued, “Usually I have a lot of trouble reaching people’s wisdom teeth, but your mouth is so big that I can get both hands in easily!”
“A perfect summer day is when the sun is shining, the breeze is blowing, the birds are singing, and the lawn mower is broken.”
It was Christmas and the judge was in a merry mood as he asked the prisoner, “What are you charged with?”
“Doing my Christmas shopping early,” replied the defendant.
“That’s no offense,” said the judge. “How early were you doing this shopping?”
“Before the store opened,” countered the prisoner.
If you want to hide candy bars so you can eat them after the kids are in bed, put the candy in the freezer in a paper bag labeled “Fish.”
Good Advice About Love:
“Spend most of your time loving instead of going to work.” — Dick, age 7
“Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.” — Lynnette, age 8
“Tell your wife that she looks pretty even if she looks like a truck!” — Ricky, age 7
“Don’t forget your wife’s name. That will mess up the love.” — Erin, age 8
“Sensitivity don’t hurt.” — Robbie, age 8
“Be a good kisser. It might make your wife forget that you never take out the trash.” — Erin, age 8
“Don’t say you love somebody and then change your mind. Love isn’t like picking what movie you want to watch.” — Natalie, age 9
Tell a man there are 300 billion stars in the universe and he’ll believe you. Tell him a bench has wet paint on it and he’ll have to touch to be sure.
Retirement Village activities:
You write thank you notes without being told.
Neighbors borrow your tools.
Others ask for your recipes.
You start Christmas shopping in August.
You don’t drive after dark.
We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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