June 22, 2018
As time passes, we like to simplify our lives.
Hubert de Givenchy
I had breakfast with an old friend yesterday. She is a highly regarded university professor who also has made significant contributions to global health. I have always enjoyed our periodic get togethers as she filled me in on her efforts. She is a good example of what smart folks with good hearts can do,
My only concern has been that she, like so many others like her, has said yes too many times, I was pleased to learn that she has slowed down and is spending some time on herself.
I know that the sure way to drop the ball is by trying to juggle too many of them at one time, I know that my friend will have many happy years balancing her service with her personal enjoyment.
I recently read an article written by Krissy McNeill that reminds me of my friend’s current life changes. Here it part is what she wrote.
City Simplified: Slowing Down While Living Fast
- Sit at coffee shops with nothing but your coffee.
This one is my favorite because that is how I let myself finally come to the realization that I could live both ways. Take in the souls around you, take in the rushed orders and the baristas ready to pull their hair out. Watch as people hit fast forward while you sit right in the live moment. Sip your coffee slow, put your phone away and let your mind wander with nowhere to be.
- Accept that you want to live slower.
In order to be better, you need to become better, and in order to become better, you need to tell yourself that you are capable. The first thing you need to let yourself do is accept, because if you can’t accept, you’ll never get there. It’s ok to want to slow down in such a rushed area. It’s ok to want to take it all in for a minute. It’s ok to find a quiet park and lay there with only yourself. It’s ok to walk slower as people are shoulder checking you. It’s all ok, and you need to let yourself know that.
- Clean out your closet.
Get rid of what you don’t need, what hasn’t been worn within the last year, and what you will never wear again. If you forgot you had it, you probably won’t wear it again, or you need to remove all the clothes that were hiding that specific piece. If you want to live a minimalist lifestyle in a fast-moving city, get ready to remove clutter. Once you remove unnecessary pieces, you will instantly feel more free and more calm, and much more ready to live this life you’ve chosen.
- Find your quiet spot.
I’m telling you, it’s out there. No matter what city you are in, you can find a spot where you are able to sit and breathe with no one there to bother you. Walk around and look for it, then go to this spot regularly. Read a book, magazine, your phone even, whatever you want. Just make sure you find your spot, it’ll come in handy at just the right times.
- You can live the city life tomorrow.
It’s important to let yourself know that you can still live this fast-paced lifestyle whenever you please, but for today, you are going to let yourself live slower. You are going to more minimalistic in this city, because you need it. Even if you only do this for 24-hours out of an entire month, that’s ok. Once you realize that the city is still right in front of you, that this lifestyle isn’t going anywhere, you will be able to slow down easier. You don’t have to give it all up, you just need to let your mind know that.
The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.
She said: My husband and I were watching some TV show the other night where the wife hired a private detective to follow her husband to see if he were in fact “cheating” on her. My husband asked me if I would ever do that.
I said, “Well not so much to find out who the other woman was, but to see if I could find out what she saw in you.”
According to a new poll, women are much better liars than men.
At least that’s what THEY say… but they could be lying.
A man is lost in the desert. He used up the last of his water three days ago and he’s lying, gasping, on the sand, when in the distance he suddenly hears a voice calling “Mush! Mush!”
Not trusting his ears he turns his head and there it is again, closer this time — “Mush! Mush!”
Propping himself up on one elbow he squints against the sun and sees, of all things, an Eskimo in a fur coat driving a sled with a team of huskies across the dunes. Thinking that it’s a hallucination, he blinks and shakes his head, but it’s for real! He painfully lifts one arm and in a cracked voice calls, “He-elp!”
The Eskimo pulls the sled up by him, the huskies panting in the heat, and he says to the Eskimo, “I don’t know what you’re doing here, or why, but thank God you are! I’ve been wandering around this desert for days, my water’s all gone and I’m completely lost!”
The perspiring Eskimo looks down at him and says, “You think YOU’RE lost!”
Sometimes the majority only means that all the fools are on the same side.
“What happened to you?” asked the bystander of the man lying on the sidewalk outside of the beauty parlor. The man shook his head groggily and rubbed his bruised chin.
“Last thing I remember was my wife came out of the beauty salon. I took a look at her and said, ‘Well, Honey, at least you tried,’ and then it was lights out.”
She said: – Do Not Start With Me. You Will Not Win.
On the “CycleAware” helmet-mounted mirror: “Remember: Objects in the mirror are actually behind you.”
On a large folding cardboard sunshade for car windscreens: “Do not attempt to operate vehicle with sunshade in place.”
On a car lock which loops around both the clutch pedal and the steering wheel: “Warning – Remove lock before driving.”
In the instructions for a Korean kitchen knife: “Keep out of children.”
On a packet of juggling balls: “This product contains small granules under 3 millimeters. Not suitable for children under the age of 14 years in Europe or 8 years in the USA.”
On a packet of Nytol sleeping tablets: “Warning: may cause drowsiness.”
On a packet of peanuts served on an internal flight in China (written in both English and Chinese): “Open packet and eat contents.”
On 500g packets of Sainsbury’s peanuts: “Contains nuts.”
Simplicity of living, if deliberately chosen, implies a compassionate approach to life. It means that we are choosing to live our daily lives with some degree of conscious appreciation of the condition of the rest of the world.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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