May 21, 2018
If you do not believe you can do it then you have no chance at all.
Too many of us let ourselves and others down by our reluctance to do what we are capable of doing. Most of the time we resist only because we don’t have confidence in ourselves. I have learned that if I do try something and fail folks appreciate that I made an effort rather than criticize. You know what is even better, most of the time I don’t fail. I know we will never succeed if we never try.
I just read an article about thinking too small written by David Sack, M.D here are excerpts from his article:
Are you giving yourself the chance to be your best and to experience all that you can? Or are you living a miniature life? Here are five signs you’re living too small for your inherent bigness:
You wait to be asked …… to speak in the meeting, to go to the movies, to have a turn with the karaoke mic, to join the conversation at a party, to share your opinion. Putting yourself forward is just not in your DNA.
The reality: If you wait to be asked, the invitation may never come. Yes, that might mean you sometimes avoid embarrassment, but it also means you are going to miss chances to grow, learn, and just have fun.
You’ll do anything to avoid confrontation. No matter how big or legitimate your complaint, you can’t bring yourself to actually confront a person with your grievance.
The reality: It can be hard to stand up for yourself, but doing so in a diplomatic way is more respectful to everyone involved than venting behind someone’s back. It’s also your best hope for bringing about real change. Give the person a chance to make things better or explain. You will both be better off for it.
You make room for the little stuff in your life before the big. Life seems full of minutia—errands, chores, email, to-do lists. The point is not that there’s a way to squeeze everything into your life, but you should prioritize the things that really matter.
Criticism lays you low rather than helping you grow. When discouraging words come your way, you see it as confirmation of what you suspected all along—I’m a loser. And it doesn’t even need to be words. A single disgusted look can make you wither.
The reality: People usually mean a lot less by their criticism than we hear. Pay attention to your reaction the next time you are at the receiving end of a negative comment. Try to stop yourself and listen as though you were taking notes for another person. Is the criticism valid? Is there something to learn from it? If so, great! You’ve had a positive experience, albeit a painful one. If not, say, “I see your point but I disagree, and here’s why.” Then move on.
You plan more than you produce. You have ideas, maybe lots of them. But when push comes to shove, you find a million reasons not to do them.
The reality: Yes, it would hurt if your brainchild were met with indifference or derision, but what’s the alternative? Never taking a chance? Never seeing what you can really do? Even if nothing turns out as you planned, you’ll learn plenty about what to do next time. At the very least, you’ll be able to look yourself in the mirror and say, “I gave it my best shot.”
The most important thing for success is self belief and confidence. Believing you deserve it, believing you can do it, and you will get it.
Bernie was unfortunate enough to be hit by a 10 ton truck and landed up in hospital in intensive care. His best friend Morris came to visit him. Bernie struggles to tell Morris, “My wife Sadie visits me three times a day. She’s so good to me. Every day, she reads to me at the bedside.”
“What does she read?”
“My life insurance policy.”
“A computer lets you make more mistakes faster than any invention in human history — with the possible exceptions of handguns and tequila.”
With only two tellers working at the bank, the line I was standing in was moving very slowly. As I waited, I began to fill in my withdrawal slip. Not sure of the date, I turned and asked the woman behind me. “It’s the fifth,” she replied. From the back of the line a man advised, “Don’t write it in yet!”
Discover wildlife! Have kids!
My boss’ wife Sherry was exasperated with her younger sister, who bought an unreliable car and called for a ride every time it broke down. One day Sherry got yet another one of those calls. “What happened this time?” she asked. “My brakes went out,” her sister said. “Can you come to get me?” “Where are you?” Sherry asked. “I’m in the drugstore,” her sister responded. “And where’s the car?” “It’s in here with me.”
Murphy’s Technology Law #2:
Logic is a systematic method of coming to the wrong conclusion with confidence.
A DC-10 had an exceedingly long rollout after landing with his approach speed a little high. San Jose Tower: “American 751 heavy, turn right at the end of the runway, if able. If not able, take the Guadalupe exit off Highway 101 and make a right at the light to return to the airport.”
A woman sees a beautiful tennis bracelet in a jewelry store window. She goes in and asks the clerk if a small deposit will hold it until her husband does something unforgivable.
“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.” –
“How long have you been driving without a tail light?” asked the policeman after pulling over a motorist.
The driver jumped out, ran to the rear of his car, and gave a long, painful groan.
He seemed so upset that the cop was moved to ease up on him a bit.
“Come on, now,” he said, “you don’t have to take it so hard. It isn’t that serious.”
“It isn’t?” cried the motorist. “Then you know what happened to my boat and trailer?”
Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.
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