May 17, 2018
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.
The truly happy people I know seem to be really good at avoiding stress. It is not that challenges don’t arise for them, in that regard they are no different than we are. I think what makes them relatively stress free is how they handle the difficulties they encounter in their lives.
One of my good friends has had more setbacks and problems than most people will ever have to face and yet this friend is always in good spirits. In her case she treats whatever happens as just another day at the office, never losing her positive attitude.
Some time ago Angel Chernoff wrote about the Habits of Happy People where she shared some of their secrets on how to roll with whatever happens. Here are edited tips from her article.
9 Tricks Happy People Use to Stress Less
- Know what you’re trying to achieve and why. – Lack of direction creates stress. And it’s lack of direction, not lack of time, that’s the problem when it comes to personal achievement. Everyone has the same 24-hour days and 7-day weeks.
- Do less by focusing exclusively on what’s important. – The essence of personal productivity is to do the important things rather than the urgent things. In other words, put first things first. Focus on the essential and eliminate the rest.
- Think progress, not perfection. – Don’t worry about perfection; you’ll never achieve it. Instead, focus on the progress you’ve made and the progress you intend to make today.
- Cleanse your heart every night. – Just as your body needs regular washing because it gets dirty every day, so does your heart. Because every day, people hurt you, offend you, forget you, snub you, step on you, or reject you. But if you choose to forgive these people and let these things go at the end of each day, you cleanse your heart. You wake up the next morning refreshed and free of negativity. Refuse to carry old regrets, mindsets, and distractions into each new day.
- Purge untrue thoughts. – Behind every stressful feeling is an untrue thought. Before the thought you weren’t suffering, but after the thought you began to suffer. When you recognize that the thought isn’t true, once again there is no suffering.
- Expect some stress, accept it, and let go of it. – The most important journeys that lead to the most wonderful places are usually the challenging ones you must endure the hard way. You must scale the wall that’s in your way, gathering lessons as you climb, before letting go as you descend to the other side. You will only lose if you never climb or you never let go.
- Be kind to your body. – A good workout is the best stress reducer, and a fit, healthy body is the best fashion statement.
- Do one nice thing for yourself every day. – Put yourself at the top of your priority list. There is no person on Earth who deserves your kindness and attention more than you. When you love yourself first, everything else falls into place. So treat yourself every day. Give yourself something special – like laughter, good conversation, meditation, quiet reading, an hour to work on a passion, a long walk, etc.
- Simplify. – Organize, don’t agonize. Keep your space ordered and your schedule under-booked. Create a foundation with a soft place to land, a wide margin of error, and room to think and breathe…So you have the flexibility to explore the possibilities for happiness in each and every day.
Every day is a new day, and you’ll never be able to find happiness if you don’t move on.
The History of Medicine:
Year 0 – Here, eat this root.
1000 – That root is heathen. Here, say this prayer.
1850 – That prayer is superstition. Here, drink this potion.
1940 – That potion is snake oil. Here, swallow this pill.
1985 – That pill is ineffective. Here, take this antibiotic.
2018 – That antibiotic is ineffective. Here, eat this root.
Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.
Tips from Martha Stewart That Didn’t Work-
Old telephone books make ideal personal address books. Simply cross out the names and addresses of people you don’t know.
Avoid parking tickets by leaving your windshield wipers turned to fast wipe whenever you leave your car parked illegally.
Being a woman is of special interest to aspiring male transsexuals. To actual women it is simply a good excuse not to play football.
A German Shepherd went to a Western Union telegram office, took out a blank form and wrote: “Woof. Woof. Woof. Woof. Woof. Woof. Woof. Woof. Woof.”
The clerk examined the paper and politely told the dog, “There are only nine words here. You could send another “Woof” for the same price.”
“But,” the dog replied, “That would make no sense at all.”
I always wanted to be a procrastinator… never got around to it.
Look what she has on her T-shirts this summer:
So Many Men, So Few Who Can Afford Me
God Made Us Sisters – Prozac Made Us Friends
At My Age, I’ve Seen It All, Done It All, Heard It All . . . I Just Can’t Remember It All
Don’t Treat Me Any Differently Than You Would the Queen
Get a New Car for Your Spouse. It’ll Be a Great Trade.
Adam was the only man who, when he said a good thing, knew that nobody had said it before him.
Two old ladies sat on a bench talking. One said to the other, “Good heavns! Who did your hair? It looks like a wig!” The second lady replied, “It is a wig.” “Really?” exclaimed the first lady, “You could never tell!”
Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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