February 26, 2018
“To be content means that you realize you contain what you seek.”
I had a pretty good weekend, I hope you did too. My wife was in good spirits. My daughters came by amd helped do what needed to be done. And I have healed to the point where I slept in a bed for the first time in more than six weeks. I plan on restarting my daily workouts at the YMCA on Wednesday..
The highlight of the weekend was hearing from an old UNIVAC colleague who I have not seen since 1969. His wife was also a talented computer professional and I really liked them both. I am at the age where I lose too many friends so rediscovering one is a special blessing.
I just read the following article that I have edited slightly. It hit home for me as I often think we are our worst enemies when we focus only on the negative.
4 Simple Questions to Uncovering Happiness
By Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
It’s no secret, life is full of 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows and the brain is wired in a way where the sorrows are stickier than the joys. This wiring has been reinforced so that we can pay quicker and more focused attention to the potential threats that have come our way in the past and survive. After all, we’re wired to survive, not be happy, but that doesn’t mean a more enduring core sense of well-being isn’t possible.
One key to overcoming this negativity bias and uncovering happiness is learning to recognize and get space from the self-critical mind and also encourage the positive beliefs about ourselves that the critical mind has buried.
Four simple questions can open us up to and encourage our positive beliefs in ourselves and also install them in the brain creating positive neuroplasticity. In doing this we can become more confident in ourselves and ultimately more resilient (and definitely happier).
Four Questions for Uncovering Happiness
From time to time, you might notice a nourishing thought arise, such as “I’m good enough,” “Life is fine as it is,” “I’m worthy of love,” or “What a beautiful moment.” Be on the lookout for these thoughts and when you notice them fan the flame as you play with the following four questions:
“Is it true?” Because of the strength of our inner critics, our minds are often quick to dismiss positive thoughts, so you may notice a quick “No, it’s not true. I’m not really beautiful, worthy of love, good enough [and so on…”
“Is it possible that it’s true?” Here is where we open the door a bit and ask if there is any possibility that it’s true, no matter how small our minds may say it is. The answer inevitably here is “Yes, I guess there is a possibility.”
“If you step into that possibility for a moment, how does that make you feel?” Two things can happen here. You may find that fear arises: the fear of the unknown. This can be an opportunity for self-compassion.
What would life be like if I stepped into this light? Remind yourself that it doesn’t serve you or the world to be in your small self. However, you might also experience a positive emotion such as joy, contentment, or confidence.
“Can I allow myself to linger in this feeling for a few moments?” When we allow ourselves to savor what’s good, our “good-feeling” neurons fire together. What would the days, weeks and months ahead be like if you were more open to this possibility? Try this on right now with any potential positive belief about yourself and see what you notice.
“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”
A visitor to Israel attended a recital and concert at the Moscovitz Auditorium. He was quite impressed with the architecture and the acoustics. He inquired of the tour guide, “Is this magnificent auditorium named after Chaim Moscovitz, the famous Talmudic scholar?”
“No,” replied the guide.
“It is named after Sam Moscovitz, the writer.”
“Never heard of him. What did he write?”
“A check”, replied the guide.
For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
A tourist on his way to Tuscaloosa came to a fork in the road and stopped. There was no sign indicating which route went where. Spotting Little Johnny by the road, he yelled out, “Hey, kid, does it matter which road I take to Tuscaloosa?”
“Not to me it don’t.” replied Little Johnny.
I am dangerously under-medicated.
A fellow is getting ready to tee-off on the first hole when a second fellow approaches and asks if he can join him. The first says that he usually plays alone but agrees to let the second guy join him.
Both are even after the first couple of holes. The second guy says, “Say, we’re about evenly matched, how about we play for five bucks a hole?”
The first fellow says that he usually plays alone and doesn’t like to bet but agrees to the terms. Well, the second guy wins the rest of the holes and as they’re walking off of the eighteenth hole, and while counting his $80.00, he confesses that he’s the pro at a neighboring course and likes to pick on suckers.
The first fellow reveals that he’s the Parish Priest at the local Catholic Church to which the second fellow gets all flustered and apologetic and offers to give the Priest back his money. The Priest says, “No, no. You won fair and square and I was foolish to bet with you. You keep your winnings.”
The pro says, “Well, is there anything I can do to make it up to you?”
The Priest says, “Well, you could come to Mass on Sunday and make a donation. Then, if you bring your mother and father by after Mass, I’ll marry them for you.”
“In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy.”
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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