January 17, 2018
“Action may not bring happiness but there is no happiness without action.”
The other day I suggested that letting go can be fun and rewarding. Yoday I want to share with you the edited thoughts of Marc Chernoff on how letting go cn also be the key to finding happiness. Here are his thoughts
Ways to Grow Your Happiness by Letting Go
Happiness in all walks of life is often more about stopping than starting. More about subtracting than adding. More about letting go than holding on. Consider, for example, what happens when you stop, subtract or let go of…
- Criticizing everyone and everything. – Life isn’t perfect. People make mistakes. Let go of unfair expectations. Stop criticizing yourself and others for being human. If you feel like everyone is judging you all the time, realize that human beings often feel this way when they are too busy judging themselves.
- Believing that you have all the answers. – Criticizing has a big brother: the know-it-all-syndrome. The older you grow, the higher you rise in your chosen field, and the more you achieve, the more likely you are to think you know it all. When you catch yourself thinking and speaking with intense finality and little tolerance for new ideas, stop yourself and take a deep breath. If you do not, you will alienate the world around you and become more and more disconnected from reality with each passing day.
- Trying to control everything. – Craving control leads to anger and unhappiness. Life is to be lived, not controlled. Powerful, positive change will occur in your life when you decide to take control of yourself instead of craving control over everyone and everything else.
- Dwelling on what used to be. – When something negative happens, view this circumstance as a chance to learn something you didn’t know. Don’t wish it never happened. Don’t try to step back in time. Take the lessons learned and step forward. You have to tell yourself, “It’s OK. You’re doing OK.”
- Wanting everything you don’t have. – Life is NOT short if you spend every waking moment appreciating it. It’s just that by the time most of us catch up to appreciating what we have, we’ve already squandered our time and left life at least halfway behind us. The key is being thankful for what you have NOW.
- Whining and doing nothing about it. – Complaining does not work as a strategy. Those who complain the most, accomplish the least positive results. When you spend time fretting and complaining, you’re simply using your imagination to create things you don’t want.
- Fearing everything for any reason at all. – Sometimes we’re afraid we’ll fail. Sometimes we’re subconsciously afraid we’ll succeed, because then we’d have to deal with all the disruption (growth) and change that follows success. And other times it’s our fear of rejection or simply our fear of looking like a fool. So it’s easier to hesitate, to wait for the perfect moment, to decide we need to think a bit longer or do some more research or explore a few more unnecessary alternatives. Meanwhile days, weeks, months, and even years of our precious lives pass us by. And so do our dreams.
- Spending time with people who drain you. – It’s not always where you are in life, but who you have by your side that matters most. Some people drain you and others provide soul food. Don’t jeopardize your dignity and self-respect by trying to make someone accept, love and appreciate you when they have proven that they are incapable of doing so.
“You just have to do your own thing, no matter what anyone says. It’s your life.”
There was a snail crosses the road to go to his brother’s house. He was in the middle of the road when he was run over by a turtle!
When he came to the doctor and his brother were standing over him.
The doctor asked “Mr. Snail. Are you ok?”
His brother said “What happened brother?”
The snail sat up and said “Yes doctor. I’m fine. I don’t know what happened…it all happened so fast.”
“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.”
e e cummings
Two old guys are pushing their carts around Wal-Mart when they collide.
The first old guy says to the second guy, “Sorry about that. I’m looking for my wife,
and I guess I wasn’t paying attention to where I was going.”
The second old guy says, “That’s OK. It’s a coincidence. I’m looking for my wife, too. I can’t find her, and I’m getting a little desperate.”
The first old guy says, “Well, maybe I can help you find her. What does she look like?”
The second old guy says, “Well, she is 27 yrs old, tall, with red hair, blue eyes, long legs, big busted, and is wearing short shorts. What does your wife look like?”
To which the first old guy says, “Doesn’t matter, — let’s look for yours.”
“It is impossible to defeat an ignorant man in argument.”
William G. McAdoo
A friend of mine, who stuttered rather badly, went to a specialist and after ten difficult weeks was able to say quite distinctly: “Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers.” I congratulated him on his achievement.
Frowning, he replied doubtfully, “B-b-but it’s s-s-such a d-difficult remark to w-w-w-work into a c-c-conversation.”
“If your parents never had children, chances are you won’t, either.”
The only cow in a small town in Alberta, Canada, stopped giving milk. The people did some research and found they could buy a cow up in Melfort, Saskatchewan, for $200. They bought the cow from Saskatchewan and the cow was wonderful. It produced lots of milk all of the time, and the people were pleased and very happy.
They decided to acquire a bull to mate with the cow and produce more cows like it. They would never have to worry about their milk supply again.
They bought a bull and put it in the pasture with their beloved cow. However, whenever the bull came close to the cow, the cow would move away. No matter what approach the bull tried, the cow would move away from the bull and he could not succeed in his quest.
The people were very upset and decided to ask the local veterinarian, who was very wise, what to do. They told the vet what was happening.
“Whenever the bull approaches our cow, she moves away” they said. “If he approaches from the back, she moves forward. When he approaches her from the front, she backs off. An approach from the side and she walks away to the other side.”
The veterinarian thinks about this for a minute and asks, “Did you buy this cow in Saskatchewan?”
The people were dumbfounded, since they had never mentioned where they bought the cow. “You are truly a wise Vet,” they said. “How did you know we got the cow in Saskatchewan?”
The veterinarian replied, with a distant look in his eye, “My wife is from Saskatchewan.”
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”
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