January 19, 2018
When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.
Guess what? it is Friday and we are about to complete another work week. For folks like me that just means we made it through another week OK. One thing I have learned over the years is that what appeared to be a major catastrophe was just another temporary part of life. You get to the point where setbacks are just another day at the office.
I think one of the greatest gifts of aging is developing the ability to cope. I recently read A First Aid Kit for When Life Falls Apart written by Helena Önneby that made a lot of sense for me, it might for you as well. Here in part is what she wrote.
Let people in
Who in the world told us that being human in this day and age is easy? Where did we get that crazy idea from? It’s not easy. Not always anyhow. Life can be hard.
Talk to someone that you trust. Remind them in advance that all you need from them is to listen, no advice needed in this stage. Just let it out, all of it. Just having someone to listen can take you a long way.
Remember you’re not alone
Whatever you are feeling or experiencing right now, you are not alone. You are unique and special, but your experiences and emotions are not.
Write it out
Our mind has this nasty habit of getting stuck on repeat. Same thought looping, over and over again. Grab a pen and paper or sit down in front of your computer and write. Let it all out. Don’t censor yourself. Take the pressure off by dumping it all out. Truly cathartic.
Maybe you’re not dying
Our mind sometimes has a tendency to exaggerate, just a little bit. Are you really in mortal danger right now? Is your life about to end or is that just the emotion you’re experiencing? If you’re breathing, your heart is beating, you have two feet on the ground, you are essentially all right. You are okay.
This too will change
This is my favorite mindfulness quote. Being alive is accepting change as the only constant. Know that whatever you are going through right now, it will change. It might not all be good and fine tomorrow, but it will be different, if ever just slightly. Things will change.
Ask for help
Let other people help you. Let other people take care of you. Cry. Scream. Wail. Laugh. Sleep. Close your eyes. Do whatever you need to do. Let it out. And embrace. It will get better. I promise.
In the end, everything will be okay. If it’s not okay, it’s not yet the end.
A daddy was listening to his child say his prayer “Dear Harold”. At this, dad interrupted and said, “Wait a minute, How come you called God, “Harold”?” The little boy looked up and said, “That’s what they call Him in church. You know the prayer we say, “Our Father, who art in Heaven, Harold be Thy name.”
Insanity is my only means of relaxation.
The businessman dragged himself home and barely made it to his chair before he dropped exhausted. His sympathetic wife was right there with a tall cool drink and a comforting word. “My you look tired,” she said. “You must have had a hard day today. What happened to make you so exhausted?”
“It was terrible,” her husband said. “The computer broke down and all of us had to do our own thinking.”
I wonder if Adam ever said to Eve,
“Watch it!!! There are plenty more ribs where YOU came from!”
Two old friends meet passing on the street one day. But one looked forlorn, and almost on the verge of tears. His friend asked, “What had the world done to you, my old friend?”
The sad fellow said, “Let me tell you. Three weeks ago, an uncle died and left me forty thousand dollars.”
“That’s not bad.”
“But you see, two weeks ago, a cousin I never even knew kicked the bucket, and left me eighty-five thousand free and clear.”
“Sounds like you should be grateful…”
“You don’t understand!” he interrupted. “Last week my great-aunt passed away. I inherited almost a quarter of a million.”
Now he was really confused. “Then, how come you look so glum?”
“This week… nothing!”
“Women and cats will do as they please and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.”
Robert A. Heinlein
During an Army war game a commanding officer’s jeep got stuck in the mud. The C.O. saw some men lounging around nearby and asked them to help him get unstuck. “Sorry sir,” said one of the loafers, “but we’ve been classified dead and the umpire said we couldn’t contribute in any way.”
The C.O. turned to his driver and said, “Go drag a couple of those dead bodies over here and throw them under the wheels to give us some traction.”
So often in life a new chapter awaits. You ride off into the sunset and discover it’s the sunrise.
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