January 15, 2018
Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
Robert H. Schuller
I stumbled across an article the other day that got me thinking about problems and my past activities. Almost all of my working life and much of my personal life has been spent problem solving. It was what I did and what I enjoyed doing.
Years ago a respected friend told me he would never take a job running a highly successful organization for at best he could keep it going and at worst he could mess it up, He wanted jobs that needed his building skills. I was lucky enough to have been given a multitude of opportunities during my lifetime similar to those my friend sought.
Without problems my life would have been empty. Here is the article written by Danielle Laporte that reminded me of why I liked problems
Can you love the problems that come with your good choices?
I’m in the middle of a grinding conversation with publishing collaborators: “If we do A, then B happens, so what if we do X instead?” Brows are furrowed. We’re workin’ this problem like a piece of gum. Silent pauses. We’re thinking…thinking. Arguing our points. It’s tense and kind of wonderful.
“Hey, by the way everyone,” I raise my hand for pause, “I just want you to know, I LOVE this stuff. This is my idea of fun.” And on we plod.
I can respect the challenges because I know they’re part of my calling. I’m on my path, there will be problems, and complaining about the inevitable is a ridiculous waste of energy. I know that, and I mean this in the most pragmatically joyous sense, life is just one damn thing after another.
If you’re intentional about your choices you may as well approach obstacles as opportunities to get more creative, innovative, stronger, and closer to what you want and the people you want to be with. (If you’re not intentional about your choices then…then that’s a “real” problem. Fix that first and then come back and read this. I’m cheering you on.)
Love your problems — really love them, and the solutions appear.
Do you love the kind of problems that you have in your relationship? Like, can you love the fact that your “work” as a couple is to deepen intimacy? That’s some hard work. But can you honor that that’s your work to do?
Can you love the problems inherent in your industry? The challenges that come with the goals you’ve set? The hoops you have to jump through to get what you want the most? If you can’t love the hassles, maybe you’re in the wrong place. Pick the battles that are for your cause, your higher good — it will bolster your strength instead of wearing you down.
If you can’t love the challenges that come with your territory, you should consider moving elsewhere. Move to where you find problems that are more loveable and satisfying — because there are plenty of them, and they need your willingness to be solved.
“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.”
A woman goes to her lawyer to ask about getting a divorce. The lawyer asks, “Does he beat you?”
“No, he does not.”
“Does he keep you short of money?”
“No, he does not.”
“Is he a perpetual drunkard?”
“No, he is not.”
“Is he unfaithful to you?”
“Ahhh, we’ve got him there. He was not the father of my last child.”
A clear conscience makes a soft pillow.
Top 10 Signs That Your Presidential Candidate is Under-Qualified:
- Promises to improve foreign relations with Hawaii.
- Runs a series of attack ads against Martin Sheen’s character on “The West Wing.”
- His #1 choice to work on his cabinet is “That Bob Vila guy.”
- Outstanding record as Governor of Rhode Island nullified by the fact that no one really cares.
- Got his degree in Political Economics by bribing Sally Struthers with a chocolate donut.
- Anybody mentions Washington, he asks, “The state or the DC thingie?”
- At the debates, answers every question with a snarled, “You wanna wrestle?!?”
- Vows to put an end to the war in Pokemon and free the Pikachu refugees once and for all.
- Says the Pledge of Allegiance as quickly as possible, then shouts, “I win!”
- On the very first question of the debate, he attempts to use a LIFELINE.
For people who like peace and quiet – a phoneless cord.
She tells me that the difference between her and me is:
When I get angry it’s because I’m ill-tempered…It just happens that her nerves are bothering her.
When I don’t like someone it’s because I’m prejudiced…She just happens to be a good judge of human nature.
When I compliment people it’s because I use flattery to get my way… She only encourages people.
When I take a long time to do a job it’s because I’m unbearably slow and pokey… She takes a long time because she believes in quality workmanship.
When I spend my paycheck in 24 hours, it’s because I’m a spendthrift… When she does, it’s because she’s generous.
When I stay in bed until 11 A.M., it’s because I’m a lazy good-for-nothing… When she stays in bed a little longer, it’s because she’s totally exhausted.
“It’s okay. I didn’t believe in reincarnation last time either.”
Two girls board a crowded bus and one of them whispers to the other, “Watch me embarrass a man into giving me his seat.”
Pushing her way through the crowd, she turned all of her charms upon a gentleman who looked like he might embarrass easily. “My dear Mr. Wilson,” she gushed, “fancy meeting you here on the bus. Am I glad to see you! Why you’re almost a stranger. My, but I’m tired!”
The sedate gent looked up at the girl. He had never seen her before but he rose and said pleasantly, “Sit down, Mary, my girl. It isn’t often I see you on washday. No wonder you’re tired. Being pregnant isn’t easy. By the way, don’t deliver the wash until Thursday. My wife is going to the District Attorney’s office to see whether or not she can get your husband out of jail.”
Creativity is not just for artists. It’s for businesspeople looking for a new way to close a sale; it’s for engineers trying to solve a problem; it’s for parents who want their children to see the world in more than one way.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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