January 12, 2018
“When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are.”
I have been saddened over the years by meeting so many folks that did not realize just how good they really were. Far too many of us fail to give ourselves credit for who we are and what we do. We don’t all have to be super stars, just being ourselves is our reward.
If you pay attention you will find that some of the kindest and most pleasant people often have the most menial jobs. It is a shame that we often don’t let them know how much we appreciate them, but that is not nearly as bad as us not appreciating ourselves.
I recently read 9 Beliefs You Have to Let Go If You Want to Find Inner Peace written by Benjamin Fishel in which he offered tips on how we can relax and enjoy who we are. I have included some of his thoughts below.
You Have to Let Go If You Want to Find Inner Peace
“I need to be doing something right now.” – Though our ego tricks us into believing we need this feeling to get things done, when we can let it go we see a lot of our anxiety dissolves and our relaxation deepens. We’re also much more likely to enjoy what we need to do without the constant internal pressure of feeling that what we’re doing in this moment is never enough.
“When I get what I want I will be happy.” – To overcome this, we need to be mindful of when we have the feeling that we need something before we can be happy. When we see we’re doing this we can practice letting go of that need, even if only for a brief moment. The more capable we become at doing so, the more we will naturally experience happiness in the present, and the less our minds will fixate on ideas of the future for fulfillment.
“If I express my emotions honestly people will think I’m weak.” – We’re often taught, as we grow up, to keep a lid on our emotions. The irony in this is that as everyone is dealing with the urge to be authentic, those that actually do so are often met with respect and admiration.
“I should be happier right now.” – When we don’t feel good, we look at what we have and feel guilty for not being happy enough. Happiness isn’t something you need to have all the time; it comes and goes, like any experience, but it’s not a prerequisite for being human.
“Not being the best me isn’t good enough.” – Most people don’t feel they need to better themselves out of a genuine need to improve their community, but out of the feeling that they’re not good enough in the first place. When you can strip yourself of this idea you’ll soon realize that the chase to being your best self is infinite and anxiety-inducing. You’ll see that you can love and appreciate yourself now, as you are, without needing to be someone else before feeling okay.
“There was a time in my past that absolutely sucked.” – Often we become so identified with bad times in our past that they get in the way of us enjoying the present. We define ourselves with these past experiences and feel we need to share them with everyone we know before they know the real us. But when we come to realize that they are far less significant than we initially thought, we stop feeling like imposters and we let old memories fall away.
“Self appreciation is a sign of maturity, seeking appreciation is a sign of immaturity”
Recently in Traffic Court a man who received an expensive parking ticket testified that a uniformed Policeman had given his OK for the man to park there.
The Judge asked the man if he would recognize the Officer if he ever saw him again, and the man replied that he would.
The Judge then said, “Good. When you see the Officer again, tell him he owes you $57. Next…”
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Boudreaux, a Cajun highlander from Rapides Parish in central Louisiana, was an older, single gentleman, who was born and raised a Baptist, now living in South Louisiana. Each Friday night after work, he would fire up his outdoor grill and cook a venison steak. Now, all of Boudreaux’s neighbors were Catholic… and since it was a few years ago, they were forbidden from eating meat on Fridays.
The delicious aroma from the grilled venison steaks was causing such a problem for the Catholic faithful that they finally talked to their priest. The priest came to visit Boudreaux, and suggested that Boudreaux convert to Catholicism.
After several classes and much study, Boudreaux attended Mass…and as the priest sprinkled holy water over him, he said, “You were born a Baptist and raised a Baptist, but now you are Catholic.”
Boudreaux’s neighbors were greatly relieved, until Friday night arrived, and the wonderful aroma of grilled venison filled the neighborhood. The priest was called immediately by the neighbors and, as he rushed into Boudreaux’s yard, clutching a rosary and prepared to scold him, he stopped in amazement and watched. There stood Boudreaux, clutching a small bottle of water which he carefully sprinkled over the grilling meat, and chanted: “You wuz born a deer, and you wuz raised a deer, but now you a catfish.”
Those who live by the sword get shot by those who don’t.
Each one of us is a mixture of good qualities and some perhaps not so good qualities. In considering our fellow man, we should remember his good qualities and realize that his faults only prove that he is, after all, a human being. We should refrain from making harsh judgment of a person just because he happens to be a dirty, rotten, no-good son-of-a-bitch.”
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A man and his wife are dining at a table in a plush restaurant and the husband keeps staring at a drunken lady swigging her gin as she sits alone at a nearby table.
The wife asks, “Do you know her”?
“Yes,” sighs the husband. “She’s my ex-wife. She took to drinking right after we divorced seven years ago and I hear she hasn’t been sober since.”
“My God!” says the wife, “Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long”?
“Simply give to yourselves that which you need – which is love and appreciation without judgment.”
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