January 8, 2018
The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.
It has been a challenging time for me. The frigid arctic weather has kept me from much of my normal activities. My wife has needed my assistance a little more than she usually does and I was so distracted that I spaced out on a luncheon appointment with one of my best friends. While I have been forgiven I will have to wait weeks for another opportunity to meet,
Today does not appear like it will be much better as they are predicting icy roads and hazardous drivng conditions so I again will be hibernating. At least by being locked in I won’t have the opportunity to mess up. The good news is that tomorrow will be another day and it is bound to be better than the last few have been.
I recently read A First Aid Kit for When Life Falls Apart written yy Helena Önneby. I have extracted some of her thoughts to ponder as I await a better day.
- Feel your feelings. – If you’re a highly sensitive person, like me, you’re likely aware of your emotions. You know you have them. They never leave your side and you’re constantly reminded of what state you’re currently in. So, how do you deal with this fact?
- Well, one solution is to embrace it. Be with your feelings. Sit down, welcome any emotion that needs to come forth, and feel it. You don’t always need to understand. You don’t need to analyze. You don’t need to fix anything, just be with it.
- Let people in. – Who in the world told us that being human in this day and age is easy? Where did we get that crazy idea from? It’s not easy. Not always anyhow. Life can be hard.
- Talk to someone that you trust. Remind them in advance that all you need from them is to listen, no advice needed in this stage. Just let it out, all of it. Just having someone to listen can take you a long way.
- Remember you’re not alone. – Whatever you are feeling or experiencing right now, you are not alone. You are unique and special, but your experiences and emotions are not. You didn’t invent the feeling you’re experiencing right now. Someone else, somewhere in the world, is experiencing exactly what you’re experiencing right at this very moment. It may be triggered by different things, but the emotion is the same. You’re not alone.
- This too will change.- This is my favorite mindfulness quote. Being alive is accepting change as the only constant. “Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now without wishing it were different; enjoying the pleasant without holding on when it changes (which it will); being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way (which it won’t).” ~James Baraz” Know that whatever you are going through right now, it will change. It might not all be good and fine tomorrow, but it will be different, if ever just slightly. Things will change.
Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and repeat to yourself, the most comforting words of all; this, too, shall pass.
* In primitive society, when native tribes beat the ground with clubs and yelled, it was called witchcraft; today, in civilized society, it is called golf.
* The man who takes up golf to get his mind off his work soon takes up work to get his mind off golf.
* Golf was once a rich man’s sport, but now it has millions of poor players!
* The secret of good golf is to hit the ball hard, straight and not too often.
* Many a golfer prefers a golf cart to a caddy because it cannot count, criticize or laugh.
* Golf is a game in which the slowest people in the world are those in front of you, and the fastest are those behind.
* Golf got its name because all of the other four letter words were taken.
My mechanic told me, “I couldn’t repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder.”
A young lady came home from a date looking rather sad. She told her mother, “Arthur proposed to me an hour ago.”
“Then why are you so sad?” her mother asked.
“Because he also told me he was an atheist. Mom, he doesn’t even believe there’s a hell.”
Her mother replied, “Marry him anyway. Between the two of us, we’ll show him how wrong he is.”
Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.
A zoning board had just been set up in a new community. A householder went to the office to request permission to build a small toolshed in his backyard.
“Have you a plan?” asked the director.
“Oh, yes,” said the householder, who showed him a map of his neighborhood, the dimension of his yard, and a sketch of the shed.
“That looks fine,” said the director. He pulled out a piece of paper, wrote a few words on it, Xeroxed it, and said, “Here’s your permission.”
A month later, a neighbor in almost exactly the same situation also wanted permission for a shed in her yard. She went to the director, got as far as a secretary, and made her request. “Thank you, Mrs. Smith,” said the secretary, taking the documents. “Telephone me in two weeks and I’ll let you know what the director’s decision is, or what further steps are necessary.”
“But,” groaned Mrs. Smith, “a month ago my neighbor got permission right away.”
“Oh, yes,” said the secretary, “but that was before we finally got organized.”
Some days are like this. And the only way to get through them is to remember that they are only one day, and that every day ends.
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