December 22, 2017
Christmas isn’t a season. It’s a feeling.
It will be Christmas in a few days, it is a national holiday here in the US. We will close down the Daily in order to spend time with family and friends. We should be back on the 26th. While it is a season that focuses on celebration reality sometimes dampens the spirit. I just learned that one of my son-ib-laws mother just passed away ill and I grieve for her family’s loss.
My personal auto, an all-time favorite, will soon be sold as my wife’s illness has removed the necessity of our having two cars. I have found that aging is more than just dealing with aches and pains, it also requires a mastery of coping with what goes on around you. This season we will celebrate but also find solace from our loved ones.
That reality triggered my wanting to share the following edited article wit you today.
How to Deal with the Holiday Stress: 5 Timeless Tips
by Henrik Edberg
The holidays are upon us. A time of needed relaxation and more time with the people closest to us. So today I would like to share 5 powerful and timeless tips that can help you to make these holidays a more joyful and peaceful time.
First, slow down. Even if it may feel silly and if you have to force it a bit. Slow down your body, move and walk slowly. Breathe slower and more deeply with your belly (and focus on doing just that for two minutes and see what happens). Slow down your eating (this will not only help you to relax, it will also help you to not eat too much during the holidays since it takes about 20 minutes for your brain to register that you are full). Slow it all down and pay attention to what you are doing. Be here now and focus on doing just one thing at a time. By slowing down, by being here now, by not having your focus split between many things you – your body and your mind – start to relax.
Appreciate the little things instead of focusing on perfection.
Daily happiness is to a large part about appreciating the small things. If you just allow yourself to be happy when accomplishing a big goal or when everything lines up just perfectly then you are making life harder than it needs to be. Instead, focus on appreciating things that you may take for granted.
Give a bit of joy to someone else.
This may sound like an empty cliché but it surely works. One of the best ways to become happier is simply to make others happier. When you make someone else happy you can sense, see, feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you. And since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is another upside. People will feel like giving back to you. Or like paying it forward to someone else.
Focus on what is most valuable.
Instead of focusing on a lot of things focus on what is most important and valuable to you. If you still have Christmas gifts to buy then instead of giving away a lot of expensive stuff it may be better to give one thing that the person you are giving it to will truly appreciate. Or maybe you could skip giving a physical thing altogether. And instead give away an experience that will become a special day and cherished memory for him or her or for the two of you.
Just accept how you feel right now.
Maybe you try some of the tips above. And they still can’t help you to shake that negativity, worries or stress you are carrying around. I would then suggest that you just accept that the feeling is there. Tell yourself: This is how I feel right now and I accept it. By accepting what is you have now freed up energy and your attention so your mind can become more level-headed, open and constructive once again. And you can see more clearly and take focused action towards a solution.
Christmas is most truly Christmas when we celebrate it by giving the light of love to those who need it most.
Ruth Carter Stapleton
A man who is an avid golfer finally gets a once-in-a-lifetime chance for an audience with the Pope. After standing in line for hours, he gets to the Pope and says, “Holiness, I have a question that only you can answer. You see, I love golf, and I feel a real need to know if there is a golf course in heaven. Can you tell me if there is?”
The Pope considers for a moment, and says, “I do not know the answer to your question, my son, but I will talk to God and get back to you.”
The next day the man is called for another audience with the Pope to receive the answer to his question. He stands before the Pope, who says, “My son, I have some good news and some bad news in relation to your question. The good news is that heaven has the most fabulous golf course that you could imagine and is in eternally perfect shape.”
“And what’s the bad news?” asks the man.
“You tee-off tomorrow morning,” the Pope replies.
People will accept your ideas much more readily if you tell them Benjamin Franklin said it first.
David H Comins
A lawyer was cross-examining a witness: “You have just testified that you heard the shot at exactly 11:32 p.m.? How did you know what time it was? Did you look at your watch?”
“No,” the witness said. “I looked at the sundial in the garden.”
“That’s absurd,” screamed the lawyer. “How could you tell time by a sundial at 11:32 at night?”
“I had a flashlight,” the witness said.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
A teenage boy and his grandfather go fishing one day. While fishing, the old man starts talking about how times have changed. The young man picks up on this and starts talking about the various problems and diseases going around.
Teen says, “Grandpa, they didn’t have a whole lot of problems with all these diseases when you were young did they?”
Grandpa replies, “Nope.”
The teen says, “Well, what did you guys use for safe sex?”
Grandpa replies, “A wedding ring.”
The joy of brightening other lives, bearing each others’ burdens, easing other’s loads and supplanting empty hearts and lives with generous gifts becomes for us the magic of Christmas.
W C Jones
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