December 5, 2017
You learn more from losing than winning. You learn how to keep going.
If you are like I am you have often stumbled or made mistakes in the past. I know I have made more than my share. Most of the time there was no way for me to stop trying, withdrawing into my shell and hiding out. As I am sure it is the case with you missteps are only temporary setbacks unless you let them take you down.
I have found that the world did not end when I failed and it was forgiving as I restarted. In fact I think now our mistakes sharpen our abilities and lay the foundation for future success.
Here is a piece written recently by Henrik Edberg on his Positivity Blog that offers his thoughts on how to recover from our misteps.
Sometimes we stumble in life. But what do you do then? Let me tell you what I used to do. I used to beat myself up for a day or a week or so. Partly because that seemed like the natural thing to do. No matter if the mistake was quite small. Partly because I thought it would help me to move forward and improve. And partly, simply because of low self-esteem. It wasn’t a very healthy but an extremely common way to handle mistakes, failures or setbacks.
This habit can be hard to stop using because it can indeed help you to improve. And if you don’t know what more positive alternatives you can replace it with then you may get stuck.
So what can you replace that habit with?
Remember: If you want to do something of value in life then you will stumble.
If you want to go outside of your comfort zone, if you want to do things that really
matter then you will stumble.
You will fail or make mistakes from time to time.
It has happened to everyone over the past thousands of years that wanted to do something of value. So it is normal. And it is OK. Even though some people may try to convince you otherwise.
Be your own best friend. When you stumble or have a setback, ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? Then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would.This will keep you from falling into a pit of negativity and help you to be more constructive with your time, energy and with the small steps you can take to move forward once again.
“Even small positive shifts in thinking, create huge results if you are consistent in your efforts”
Here are her shopping secrets for buying for men:
Never buy a man anything that says “some assembly required” on the box. It will ruin his Special Day and he will always have parts left over.
Good places to shop for men include Northwest Iron Works, Parr Lumber, Home Depot, John Deere, Valley RV Center, and Les Schwab Tire. (NAPA Auto Parts and Sears Clearance Centers are also excellent men’s stores.) It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t know what it is. (“From NAPA Auto, eh? Must be something I need. Hey! Isn’t this a starter for a ’68 Ford Fairlane? Wow! thanks.”)
Men enjoy danger. That’s why they never cook – but they will barbecue. Get him a monster barbecue with a 100-pound propane tank. Tell him the gas line leaks. Oh the thrill! The challenge! Who wants a hamburger?”
Tickets to a Colts game are a smart gift. However, he will not appreciate tickets to “A Retrospective of 19th Century Quilts.” Everyone knows why.
It’s hard to beat a really good wheelbarrow or an aluminum extension ladder. Never buy a real man a stepladder. It must be an extension ladder. No one knows why.
Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves for they shall never cease to be amused.
Sitting on the side of the highway waiting to catch speeding drivers, a State Police Officer sees a car puttering along at 22 MPH. He thinks to himself, “This driver is just as dangerous as a speeder!” So he turns on his lights and pulls the driver over.
Approaching the car, he notices that there are five old ladies – two in the front seat and three in the back – wide eyed and white as ghosts. The driver, obviously confused, says to him, “Officer, I don’t understand, I was doing exactly the speed limit! What seems to be the problem?”
“Ma’am,” the officer replies, “You weren’t speeding, but you should know that driving slower than the speed limit can also be a danger to other drivers.”
“Slower than the speed limit? No sir, I was doing the speed limit exactly… Twenty-Two miles an hour!” the old woman says a bit proudly. The State Police officer, trying to contain a chuckle explains to her that “22” was the route number, not the speed limit.
A bit embarrassed, the woman grinned and thanked the officer for pointing out her error. “But before I let you go, Ma’am, I have to ask… Is everyone in this car ok? These women seem awfully shaken and they haven’t muttered a single peep this whole time.” the officer asks.
“Oh, they’ll be alright in a minute officer. We just got off Route 119.”
When you get into court you are putting yourself in the hands of l2 people that weren’t smart enough to get out of jury duty.
A one dollar bill met a 20 dollar bill and said, “Hey, where’ve you been? I haven’t seen you around here much.”
The twenty answered, “I’ve been hanging out at the casinos, went on a cruise and did the rounds of the ship, back to the United States for awhile, went to a couple of baseball games, to the mall, that kind of stuff. How about you?”
The one dollar bill said, “You know, same old stuff. Church, church, church.”
This delivery driver carries no money. His wife has it all.
Mirror, mirror on the wall, Do you have to tell it all?
Where do you get the glaring right To make my clothes look just too tight?
I think I’m fine but I can see you won’t co-operate with me;
The way you let the shadows play, You’d think my hair was getting grey
What’s that, you say? A double chin? No, that’s the way the light comes in;
If you persist in peering so, You’ll confiscate my facial glow,
And then if you’re not hanging straight, You’ll tell me next I’m gaining weight;
I’m really quite upset with you, For giving this distorted view;
I hate you being smug and wise… O, look what’s happened to my thighs!
I warn you now, O mirrored wall, Since we’re not on speaking terms at all,
If I look like this in my new jeans, You’ll find yourself in smithereens!!
“What’s done is done. What’s gone is gone. One of life’s lessons is always moving on. It’s okay to look back to see how far you’ve come but keep moving forward.”
Roy T. Bennett,
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