October 9, 2017
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I am not finding that easy to adjust to a more realistic life. I find that my aged body is not as resilient as I would like it to be limiting my mobility somewhat. That coupled with my periodic health issues and my duties as my wife’s caregiver has really cut into my activities.
I know we have talked about the need to adjust before, I just thought it would be easier than it is. As an example, I enjoy visiting with long time Kiwanis friends at their weekly meetings, but lately when I do so I feel guilty since I am not participating in any of their service activity resulting in a high level of discomfort on my part.
I know hunkering down at home all the time is not going to work so I continue to search for alternatives. Recently Dani DiPirro published an article where she discussed her effort to find new things to do. I thought it was helpful so I wanted to share some of it with you.
It’s hard to try new things, especially if that’s not your inherent nature. I totally understand the discomfort that comes with trying something unfamiliar, of being vulnerable in a different environment or experience, but I highly recommend pondering these questions:
What things have I always wanted to try but haven’t?
What’s on that list that I could actually do this week?
Trying new things increases self-awareness, stimulates creativity, helps overcome fear, increases confidence, provides wisdom, and allows you to see the world from a different perspective, but I know how hard it can be for some people (like me!) to do new things. This week, try to do something you’ve always wanted to, and see how it makes you feel! Here are some ideas for things you could do this week…
- Eat at a restaurant you’ve never tried before
- Drive down a road you’ve always been curious about
- Learn about the trees and plants around your home
- Apply to volunteer at a local organization or charity
- Start a handwritten (gratitude?) journal
- Learn to cook a meal you really enjoy eating
- Tell someone about how you really, truly feel
- Send flowers to someone you love just because
- Adopt a dog or cat (or any other kind of creature)
- Create something you’ve never made before
These are just a few ideas that came to my mind, but hopefully they’ll remind you of something you’ve been wanting to try but never have. It’s never too late to try something new.
You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.
The Father, passing through the son’s college town late one night on a business trip, thought he would pay a surprise visit to the boy. Arriving at the fraternity house, he knocked on the door. After several minutes of knocking, a sleepy voice drifted down from a second floor window.
“Does Jimmy Duncan live here?” asked the father.
“Yeah!” replied the voice. “Dump him on the front porch and we’ll take care of him in the morning.”
Here’s a new invention — a solar-powered clothes dryer. It’s called a clothes line.
David and Bernice had just given their teenage daughter family-car privileges. On Saturday night she returned home very late from a party. The next morning her father went out to the driveway to get the newspaper and came back into the house frowning.
At 11:30am the girl sleepily walked into the kitchen, and her father asked her, “Sweetheart, what time did you get in last night?”
“Not too late, Dad.” she replied nervously.
Dead-panned, her father said, “Then, my precious one, I’ll have to talk with the paperboy about putting my paper under the front tire of the car.”
“Conflict cannot survive without your participation.”
When Is It Okay to Kiss Someone?
“You should never kiss a girl unless you have enough bucks to buy her a ring and her own VCR, ’cause she’ll want to have videos of the wedding.” -Allan, ten years old
“Never kiss in front of other people. It’s a big embarrassing thing if anybody sees you….If nobody sees you, I might be willing to try it with a handsome boy, but just for a few hours.” -Kally, nine years old
The Great Debate: Is It Better to Be Single or Married?
“You should ask the people who read Cosmopolitan” -Kirsten, ten years old
“It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need somebody to clean up after them” -Anita, nine years old
“It gives me a headache to think about that stuff. I’m just a kid. I don’t need that kind of trouble.” -Will, seven years old
Jim: So your blind date had measurements of 39-23-35?
Jeff: That’s right. It’s just too bad they weren’t in that order.
A Sunday school teacher asked her students to draw a picture of their favorite Old Testament bible story. As she moved around the class, she saw many wonderful drawings being created.
Then she came to Little Pauly, who had drawn a bearded old man driving an old car. In the back seat were two passengers, both naked. The teacher said, “It’s an interesting picture, Pauly, but which Bible story does it tell?”
Little Pauly seemed surprised at the question and said, “Well, it says in the bible that God drove Adam and Eve out of the Garden of Eden in a Fury. And THAT is a ’59 Plymouth Fury just like grampa’s! ”
Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.
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