September 28, 2017
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet. James Openheim
Many of us get a little lost after we retire. We start off our new lives with a burst of enthusiasm and rapidly attack all the items that have accumulated on our things to do someday list. It doesn’t take too long to find the list was not loaded with rewarding activities, so then we are faced with the question of what’s next. Many of us we don’t find any good answers and spend our time just hanging out missing the happiness that would enrich our golden years.
I know far too many people who are suffering from boredom and loneliness as they let the world pass them by. I have learned that it does not have to be that way. Sure I long for some of the good old days and I do have to adjust to the fact I just can’t do some of what I use to be capable of doing, but there is much more I can do and do.
Some time ago Marc Chernoff wrote about ways to simplify your pursuit of happiness and Iwould like to share some of his ideas with you today.
There are specific disciplines and ways of seeing the world that you have to understand before you can awaken to a simpler, happier life. Sometimes we make life more complicated than it is.
Of course, you don’t have to live like this. If you feel like you are, it’s time to simplify things. It’s time to clear the air and get back to the basics.
Here are some ways to do just that:
Lose yourself in something that moves you.
To truly flourish in life you have to let go a little, lose yourself in the moment and become fused with other people, experiences, and tasks. Long-term happiness isn’t just about conscious achievement; it’s also about the unconscious part of your mind naturally intertwining with the ideas, passions, work, people, songs, and stories that move you.
Know what you want and commit to it.
The words ‘aware’ and ‘commit’ are so powerful. It’s amazing what you can do once you’re aware of what you want and you commit to doing it. The more aware you are of life and its difficulties, and the more committed you are about how you handle both good and bad situations, the less stressful life will be in the long-run.
Focus on the way you want to feel.
You will begin to become happier and more successful the minute you decide to be.
Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating these feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.
Maintain a flexible, constructive perspective.
Forget all the reasons it won’t work and figure out the one good reason it will. It’s possible that you won’t get the exact results you had anticipated, but that’s OK – it’s still progress as long as you learn from the results you do get.
We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.
The doctor, who had been seeing an 80-year-old woman for most of her life, finally retired. At her next checkup, the new doctor told her to bring a list of all the medicines that had been prescribed for her. As the young doctor was looking through these, his eyes grew wide as he realized she has a prescription for birth control pills. “Mrs. Cohen, do you realize these are BIRTH CONTROL pills?!?” “Yes, they help me sleep at night.” “Mrs. Cohen, I assure you there is absolutely NOTHING in these pills that could possibly help you sleep!” She reached out and patted the young Doctor’s knee. “Yes, dear, I know that. But every morning, I grind one up and mix it in the glass of orange juice that my 16 year old granddaughter drinks… And believe me …it helps me sleep at night!”
“Either I’ve been missing something or nothing has been going on.”
Karen Elizabeth Gordon
The police recently busted a man selling “secret formula” tablets he claimed gave eternal youth. When going through their files they noticed it was the fifth time he was caught for committing this same criminal medical fraud.
He had earlier been arrested in 1794, 1856, 1928 and 1983.
Courage does not always roar.
Sometimes, it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”.
She said: “I fall in love really quickly and this scares guys away. I’m like, ‘I’m in love with you, I want to marry you, I want to move in with you! I want to bear your kids!’
They usually reply with such bland and unromantic stuff like, ‘Ma’am, just give me the ten bucks for the pizza and I’m outta here.'”
You know, somebody actually complimented me on my driving today.
They left a little note on the windshield, it said ‘Parking Fine.’ So that was nice.
Two elderly gentlemen from a retirement center were sitting on a bench under a tree when one turns to the other and says, “Slim, I’m 83 years old now and I’m just full of aches and pains. I know you’re about my age. How do you feel?”
Slim says, “I feel just like a new-born baby. No hair, no teeth, and I think I just wet my pants.”
On anniversaries, the wise husband always forgets the past…. but never forgets the present.
Q: HOW MANY ZEN BUDDHISTS DOES IT TAKE TO CHANGE A LIGHT BULB?
A: Three. One to change the light bulb, one NOT to change the light bulb, and one to neither change nor not change the light bulb.
Loving your life is about trusting your instinct, taking chances, losing and finding happiness cherishing memories and learning through experiences. It’s long time journey through at the confusion, live consciously in the moment and enjoy your life as it unfold.
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