September 18, 2017
“Don’t let your struggles become your identity.”
Over the last couple of months as my wife struggled to regain her health my life took a radical change of direction. All my time has been pretty much dedicated to what I needed to do to keep my house in decent order. meet mandatory obligations and spending time at my wife’s bedside. For the first time in our lives I had no meetings, no classes and only limited contacts with friends and I found I had to work to keep from slipping into gloom.
If I had succumbed to despair I would have been a detriment to her recovery. While I never was a bundle of joy during her illness I was able to stay relatively positive. I recently read an article written by Garret Kramer that offered tips on how we can keep from misery, here are a few of his suggestions.
Things to remember when your state of mind is low
When you feel low, these reminders will help you get back on the road to the clarity and consciousness that you’re looking for.
Stillpower is always better than willpower.
From a clear mind-set, we see that life is leading us in a productive direction — no matter what obstacles cross our path. From a cluttered mind-set, we feel the urge to will ourselves through the same obstacles. Don’t forget, if you act from a low state of mind, you are giving wayward thoughts the attention and belief they need to grow. When you don’t tend to your lows they wither away on their own.
You must stay in the game.
The human mind is designed to regulate to clarity; to freedom. But only if you stay in the game. If you stop living your life to address negative feelings and moods, you are addressing — and fortifying — problems that don’t really exist.
The potential always exists to see life differently.
No matter how bad life appears, your “issues” will soon look different from a different level of consciousness. Remember, your state of mind is always in flux. It’s a given that, left alone, your feelings and perceptions will improve.
Even when it’s dark the sun is still shining.
In ancient times, people became extremely distraught when nighttime fell. They had no proof that the sun would rise again, so they looked for all sorts of strategies and tricks to help them manage their fear of darkness. Then, an insightful astronomer named Copernicus came along and proved that the sun, not the earth, was the center of the universe — it was a sure thing that the sun would appear every morning. Hence, knowing how the system worked paved the way for contentment and success.
“The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible. ”
Richard M. DeVos
She said: I overheard my father telling a family friend about my newly-assigned mission in the U.S. Coast Guard. I work on a cutter that escorts all cruise ships and international vessels under the bridges in California’s Bay Area.
But what my father told his friend was, “She’s involved in some sort of escort service.”
Being happy doesn’t mean everything’s perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.
A man goes to the doctor with a swollen leg. After a careful examination, the doctor gives the man a pill big enough to choke a horse.
“I’ll be right back with some water,” the doctor tells him.
The doctor has been gone a while and the man loses patience. He hobbles out to the drinking fountain, forces the pill down his throat and gobbles down water until the pill clears his throat. He hobbles back into the examining room.
The doctor comes back with a bucket of warm water. “Ok, after the tablet dissolves, soak that leg for at least 30 minutes.”
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall but winter didn’t look too promising.
A husband and wife were involved in a petty argument, both of them unwilling to admit they might be in error. “I’ll admit I’m wrong,” the wife told her husband in a conciliatory attempt, “if you’ll admit I’m right.”
He agreed and, like a gentleman, insisted she go first.
“I’m wrong,” she said.
With a twinkle in his eye, he responded, “You’re right!”
Death is more universal than life. Everyone dies, but not everyone lives.
A boy is about to go on his first date, and is nervous about what to talk about. He asks his father for advice. The father replies, “Son, there are three subjects that always work. These are food, family, and philosophy.”
The boy picks up his date and they go to a soda fountain. Ice cream sodas in front of them, they stare at each other for a long time, as the boy’s nervousness builds. He remembers his father’s advice, and chooses the first topic.
He asks the girl, “Do you like potato pancakes?”
She says, “No.” And the silence returns.
After a few more uncomfortable minutes, the boy thinks of his father’s suggestion and turns to the second item on the list.
He asks, “Do you have a brother?”
Again, the girl says, “No.” And there is silence once again.
The boy then plays his last card. He thinks of his father’s advice and asks the girl, “If you had a brother, do you think he would he like potato pancakes?”
“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”
William Jennings Bryan
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