August 22, 2017
A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside.
There have been times during my wife’s difficult illness when I reminded myself that no matter how tired or distressed I was letting down was not the answer. Today I stopped at the office of a senior organization where I was greeted by friends who reminded me that isolation was not going to do me any good either. After I realized how good it felt to spend a little time in a more normal environment I went on to the gym for a short workout.
If I let my spirits wane I will be letting my wife down so I am not going to let that happen. So I will again tomorrow be with her cheering her on.
The other day I read an article written by Emily Jacobs that makes sense to me. I have heavily edited the article in order to highlight things I feel are important to my life these days.
Things to Do When Your Life Goes Off Track
Fortunately, even when life doesn’t go according to plan, there are ways to make the most of it.
Nurture relationships with people.
Difficult life phases can be isolating, so friends are more important than ever.
When your life takes detours, be open and honest about it. You don’t have to bare your soul to everyone; share your struggles with a few trustworthy, compassionate people. Don’t be afraid to let on that life isn’t going how you originally planned.
They may reciprocate and share some of their own difficulties, and you’ll both feel less alone. (After all, no one’s life is perfect, however it looks!)
Live outside yourself.
There are benefits to mindfulness, introspection, and self-care. However, they also make it easy to be self-absorbed and to wallow in your disappointment.
It’s time to get out of yourself.
Volunteer at a local nonprofit, invite a neighbor over for coffee, or email a friend you haven’t seen in awhile.
You don’t have to ignore problems or live in denial. Just give your brain a break. This can help ease anxiety, reduce stress, and give you a chance to make life better for someone else.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Future Novelists… These are actual analogies and metaphors found in high school essays
• Her face was a perfect oval, like a circle that had its two other sides gently compressed by a thigh master.
• His thoughts tumbled in his head, making and breaking alliances like underpants in a dryer without Cling Free.
• The revelation that his marriage of 30 years had disintegrated because of his wife’s infidelity came as a rude shock, like a surcharge at a formerly surcharge free ATM.
• The little boat gently drifted across the pond exactly the way a bowling ball wouldn’t.
• From the attic came an unearthly howl. The whole scene had an eerie surreal quality, like when you’re on vacation in another city and Jeopardy comes on at 7 pm instead of 7:30.
• John and Mary had never met. They were like two hummingbirds who had also never met.
• He fell for her like his heart was a mob informant and she was the east river.
• “Oh, Jason, take me!” she panted, her breasts heaving like a college freshman on $1-a-beer night.
• The Ballerina rose gracefully en pointe and extended one slender leg behind her, like a dog at a fire hydrant.
• He was deeply in love when she spoke, he thought he heard bells, as if she were a garbage truck backing up.
• She was as easy as the TV guide crossword.
• It hurt the way your tongue hurts after you accidentally staple it to the wall.
“I have an inferiority complex, it’s just not a very good one.”
A young man who wants to see the world signs on to a tramp steamer to be trained as a helmsman. He masters the classroom instruction, then starts his practical training on the wheel of the vessel. In his first lesson, the mate gives him a heading, and the young fellow holds to it.
Then the mate orders, “Come starboard.”
Pleased at knowing immediately which way starboard is, the young man leaves the helm and walks over to his instructor.
The mate has an incredulous look on his face as the helm swings freely. Then, rather gently considering the circumstance, he asks politely, “Could you bring the ship with you?”
Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time.It is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.
Sydney J. Harris
An 80-year-old- couple are having problems remembering things, so they decide to see their doctor to find out if anything is wrong with them. They see the doctor and tell him about the memory problems they’ve been having. After a check-up, the doctor tells them that they are physically fine but might want to start writing things down to help them remember things. They thank the doctor and leave.
Later that night while watching TV, the old man gets up from his chair. “Where are you going?” asks his wife. “To the kitchen,” he replies.
“Will you get me a bowl of ice cream?” she asks. “Sure,” he says. She says, “Maybe you should write it down so you’ll remember.” “I’ll remember,” he says “Well, I would also like some strawberries on top,” she says. “You had better write that down cause I know you’ll forget.”
“I can remember that,” he says, as he begins to loose his patience. “You want a bowl of ice cream with strawberries.”
“I would also like whip cream on top,” she adds, “I know you will forget that so you better write it down.” Hopping mad he says, “I don’t need to write that down! I will remember just fine.” He fumes into the kitchen to get the food.
After about 20 minutes he returns from the kitchen and hands her a plate of bacon and eggs. She stares at the plate for a moment and says, “You forgot my toast.”
Earlier today I was trying to daydream, but my mind kept wandering.
“I had the toughest time of my life. First, I got angina pectoris and then arteriosclerosis. Just as I was recovering from these, I got tuberculosis, double pneumonia and phthisis.
Then they gave me hypodermics. Appendicitis was followed by tonsillectomy. These gave way to aphasia and hypertrophic cirrhosis. I completely lost my memory for a while.
I know I had diabetes and acute ingestion, besides gastritis, rheumatism, lumbago and neuritis. I don’t know how I pulled through it. It was the hardest spelling test I’ve ever had.”
I think one of the most important things in a relationship is caring for your significant other through good times and bad.
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