August 21, 2017
The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.
These last few weeks as my wife fought to regain her health have been the most difficult time in my life. At times all that kept me going was hope and the care of my family and friends. I wish there was more I could do for her comfort but the most I have been able to do is cheer her on.
My family spends time each day helping which allows me time to recharge. It is their help and the support of so many of you that have kept me up for the challenges, I am grateful to you all.
I recently read an article entitled How Can We Build and Nurture Our Circle of Support? written by Caren Osten Gerszberg. Here in part is what she wrote. It has meaning for me as I share her experience.
Research shows that relationships are the number one predictor of well-being.
Last April, my brother passed away suddenly after being in an accident. He was 55 years old and my only sibling. In the days and weeks that followed, I subsisted in a foggy state—unsure how to process the events and unable to make even the smallest decision. And everywhere I turned, there was a friend, a family member, or someone from one of my micro-communities—neighbors, members of my meditation group, people from my synagogue—stopping by to lend an ear and maybe a shoulder, cook a meal for my family, and check in to see if there was something I needed.
Those people—the ones who both held me up and held my hand during those dark, incomprehensible days—are my choir. They are the same people with whom, in happier times, I can dance, share a bottle of wine, talk politics, walk my dog and do yoga. I have never been so grateful to have them.
It is our relationships, according to results from a nearly 80-year study done at Harvard, that are the number one predictor of our well-being—both emotionally and physically. More than money. More than fame. “The surprising finding [from the study] is that our relationships and how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health,” said Robert Waldinger, director of the study, a psychiatrist and a professor at Harvard Medical School. “Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation.”
You don’t need to wait until something tragic happens to notice, nurture and appreciate the relationships that enhance your life from day to day—it may be a gym friend, a work colleague or a cousin who lives far away; your spouse, a church member, or someone you befriended on the internet.
Try asking yourself who’s in your choir, and consider how you can nurture those relationships.
I will always be there for you until the very end, wiping all your tears away, being your best friend, and a companion for the life.
Anurag Prakash Ray
When one wishes to unlock a door but has only one hand free, the keys are in the opposite pocket. (Von Fumbles Law)
A door will snap shut only when you have left the keys inside. (Yale Law of Destiny)
When one’s hands are covered with oil, grease, or glue, your nose will start to itch. (Law of Ichiban)
Your insurance will cover everything but what has happened. (Insurance So Sorry Law)
When things seem to be going well, you’ve probably forgotten to do something. (Cheney’s Second Corollary)
When things seem easy to do, it’s because you haven’t followed all the instructions. (Destiny Awaits Law)
If you keep your cool when everyone else is losing his, it’s probably because you have not realized the seriousness of the problem. (Law of Gravitas)
Most problems are not created or solved; they only change appearances. (Einstein’s Law of Persistence)
You will run to answer the telephone just as the party hangs up on you. (Principle of Dingaling)
Whenever you connect with the Internet, the call you’ve been waiting for all day will arrive. (Principle of Bellsouth)
“My Dad used to say ‘always fight fire with fire’, which is probably why he got thrown out of the fire department.”
Jim needs a job, and has no qualms about inventing the necessary qualifications. He reasons that once he finds work, he will impress the boss so much that everything will be forgiven.
After a successful initial interview at the Encyclopedia of American History, he is called back to meet the sales manager.
“You say you have experience selling books?”
“Lots of it,” replies Jim.
“And you have a Master’s in American history from the University of Michigan?”
“Correct,” replies Jim. “History is my field of study.”
“Well then,” says the sales manager, “As soon as I can complete this form, we can get you started in the firm.”
While the sales manager is making a few notations, Jim, obviously pleased with himself, begins to whistle. Looking around the room, he notices pictures of Washington and Lincoln on the walls.
Pointing to the portraits, he turns to the sales manager and says, “Fine looking men. Your partners?”
She asked: My husband has suggested a candlelight dinner at home for our anniversary. Is he being romantic or just cheap?
Billy’s dad was away on a business trip. So he wanted to sleep with his mother. The first night she refused. The second night she refused again. On the third night she decided to let him lay there for a while and take him to bed when he fell asleep.
So Billy put on his pajamas and jumped into bed on his father’s side. With both his hands behind his head, he said to his mother just before she fell asleep: “With Christmas approaching, don’t you think it would be a good idea if we buy Billy a bicycle?”
“The greatest joys in life are found not only in what we do and feel, but also in our quiet hopes and labors for others.”
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