June 13, 2017
Put your future in good hands — your own
I have a friend who is a high achiever. The thing I find interesting is that he often sounds as if he lacks self-confidence and sometimes seems to be in a state of high anxiety. It got me wondering if folks like my friend do so well in part because they have a fear of failure and go the extra mile to make sure that nothing is overlooked.
My friend is really good at what he does and is recognized publicly for his skills. I think his history of successes provides an adequate foundation for optimism and personal self-confidence. I also think that too many of us are too serious and would benefit by lightening up and reducing the pressure we put on ourselves.
Here are some self-esteem tips I picked up from an article by Jae Song:
Tips to Building Self-Esteem
In order to build your self-esteem, you must establish yourself as the master of your own life. Every single minute of your life is a moment you can change for the better.
The following are tips to help build continuous upward momentum towards higher self esteem.
- Start Small – Start with something you can do immediately and easily. When we start with small successes, we build momentum to gain more confidence in our abilities. Each completed task, regardless of how small, is a building block towards a more confident you.
- Create a Compelling Vision – Use the power of your imagination. Create an image of yourself as the confident and self-assured person you aspire to become. When you are this person, how will you feel? How will others perceive you? What does your body language look like? How will you talk? See these clearly in your mind’s eye, with your eyes closed. Feel the feelings, experience being and seeing things from that person’s perspective.
- Socialize – Get out of the house or setup a lunch date with a friend. Socializing with others will give us opportunities to connect with other people, and practice our communication and interpersonal skills.
- Do Something that Scares You – As with all skills, we get better with practice and repetition. The more often we proactively do things that scare us, the less scary these situations will seem, and eventually will be rid of that fear.
- Do Something You Are Good At – What are you especially good at or enjoy doing? Regularly doing things that you are good at reinforces your belief in your abilities and strengths.
- Set Goals – By setting goals that are clear and actionable, you have a clear target of where you want to be. When you take action towards that goal, you’ll build more confidence and self-esteem in your abilities to follow through.
- Get Motivated – Read something inspirational, listen to something empowering, talk to someone who can uplift our spirits, who can motivate us to become a better person, to live more consciously, and to take proactive steps towards creating a better life for ourselves and our families.
It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
Attributed to Hanoch McCarty
A farmer lived on a quiet rural highway. But, as time went by, the traffic slowly built up at an alarming rate. The traffic was so heavy and so fast that his chickens were being run over at a rate of three to six a day. So one day he called the sheriff’s office and said, “You’ve got to do something about all of these people driving so fast and killing all of my chickens.”
“What do you want me to do?” asked the sheriff.
“I don’t care, just do something about those drivers.”
So the next day he had the county go out and put up a sign that said: SLOW: SCHOOL CROSSING.
Three days later the farmer called the sheriff and said, “You’ve got to do something about these drivers. The ‘school crossing’ sign seems to make them go faster.”
So, again, the sheriff sends out the county and they put up a new sign: SLOW: CHILDREN AT PLAY. And that really sped them up. So the farmer called and called and called everyday for three weeks. inally, he asked the sheriff, “Your signs are doing no good. Is it all right for me to put up my own damned sign?”
The sheriff told him, “Hell, yes, put up your own sign.”
He was going to let the farmer do just about anything in order to have him stop calling. Well, the sheriff got no more calls from the farmer. Three weeks after the farmer’s last call, the sheriff decided to call him.
“How’s the problem with those drivers. Did you put up your sign?” “Oh, hell yes. And not one chicken has been killed since then. I’ve got to go. I’m very busy.” And he hung up the phone.
The sheriff though to himself, “I’d better go to that farmer’s house and look at that sign. There might be something there that WE could use to slow down drivers…” So the sheriff drove out to the farmer’s house, and he saw the sign. It was a whole sheet of plywood. And written in large yellow letters were the words: SLOW: NUDIST COLONY.
There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.
A really huge muscular guy with a bad stutter goes to a counter in a department store and asks, “W-w-w-where’s the m-m-m-men’s dep-p-p-partment?”
The clerk behind the counter just looks at him and says nothing. The man repeats himself: “W-w-w-where’s the m-m-m-men’s dep-p-p-partment?”
Again, the clerk doesn’t answer him. The guy asks several more times: “W-w-w-where’s the m-m-m-men’s dep-p-p-partment?”
And the clerk just seems to ignore him. Finally, the guy storms off in anger. The customer who was waiting in line behind the guy asks the clerk, “Why wouldn’t you answer that guy’s question?”
The clerk answers. . . “D-d-d-do you th-th-th-think I w-w-w-want to get b-b-b-beat up?!!”
Killing two birds with one stone often ends with hate mail from the humane society.
A fellow in a bar notices a woman, always alone, come in on a fairly regular basis. After the second week, he made his move. “No thank you.” she said politely. “This may sound rather odd in this day and age, but I’m keeping myself pure until I meet the man I love.”
“That must be rather difficult.” the man replied.
“Oh, I don’t mind too much.” she said. “But, it has my husband pretty upset.”
Time is just nature’s way to keep everything from happening at once.
I walked into the post office yesterday and there was this middle-aged, balding man standing at the counter methodically placing “Love” stamps on bright pink envelopes with hearts all over them. He then took out a perfume bottle and sprayed scent all over them. My curiosity got the best of me, so I went over and asked him what he is doing.
The man said, “I’m sending out 1,000 ‘I Love You’ cards signed, ‘Guess who?'”
“But why?” I asked.
“I’m a divorce lawyer,” the man replied.
I quit being afraid when my first venture failed and the sky didn’t fall down.
Allen H. Neuharth
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