June 6, 2017
Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.
I know today will be an improvement over yesterday which consisted mainly in my visiting a number of stores to purchase various items that were either out of stock or that they don’t carry locally. It got off on the wrong foot when I visited a local restaurant after my morning exercise to relax, read a book on my tablet and enjoy a light breakfast. The only problem was that I had forgotten to bring my tablet. I was so disappointed in how my day was going after all this that I went home and hibernated for the rest of the day.
Having lots of experience with minor temporary disappointment I knew today would be better and it will be. There is something to be said for having a realistic set of expectations in our lives versus expecting everything to work out perfectly.
Here are some excerpts from How to Live a Happy Life written by Henrik Edberg that I think are worth our consideration. These are a few of the things he said yes to that helped him become happier in his life. He suggests that we focus on making them a part of our life.
Trying to be perfect is setting the bar too high. It will be impossible to reach. And so you’ll lower your self-esteem. You may not feel very happy about how things are going in your life. Even though they might be going very well indeed. Perfectionism is mindset that eats at you and your happiness. Saying yes to being imperfect can turn that around.
How to do it:
◾Realize the costs of buying into myths of perfection. By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection. It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it. But in real life it clashes with reality and it can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because your expectations are out of this world.
◾Go for good enough. Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else very slowly or never being finished. So go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.
Not being able to be yourself, always trying to change for others or censoring yourself don’t feel good at all. It makes life feel so small and limited.
How to do it:
◾Supportive people. Spend more time with the people who support your dreams, values and you. Or are at least neutral. And spend less time with people who always criticize you or you simply aren’t a good fit for.
◾Supportive and life-expanding influences outside of your everyday life. Change your environment not only close to you. Go further and spend more time with sources of information that supports your dreams and can give you information that expands and makes your life happier and more exciting. Find support from people you have never met via books, movies, blogs, forums and music. And spend less time with negative and limiting influences.
If you don’t embrace who you are and accept who you are, you won’t be able to live a happy life. Ciara
Here are some of the questions and the right answers that you might find on the retirement village entrance exam:
Question: When is a retiree’s bedtime? Answer: Three hours after he falls asleep on the couch.
Question: Among retirees what is considered formal attire? Answer: Tied shoes.
Question: Why are retirees so slow to clean out the basement, attic or garage? Answer: They know that as soon as they do, one of their adult kids will want to store stuff there.
Question: What do retirees call a long lunch? Answer: Normal.
Question: Why does a retiree often say he doesn’t miss work, but misses the people he used to work with? Answer: He is too polite to tell the whole truth.
When things go wrong…. don’t go with them.
An 85-year-old widow went on a blind date with a 90-year-old man. When she returned to her daughter’s house later that night, she seemed upset.
“What happened, Mother?” the daughter asked.
“I had to slap his face three times!”
“You mean he got fresh?”
“No,” she answered, “I thought he was dead.”
“I bought some batteries, but they weren’t included.”
This guy goes into a doctor’s office. The doctor says, “Oh, Mr. Jones! We have the results of your test. Do you want the bad news first or the very bad news?”
The guy shrugs and says, “Well I guess I’ll have the bad news first.” “Well the bad news is, you have 24 hours to live,” the doctor replies.
The man is distraught, “24 hours to live? That’s horrible! What could be worse than that? What’s the VERY bad news?” The doctor folds his hands and sighs, “The very bad news is…I’ve been trying to contact you since yesterday.”
“No one appreciates the value of constructive criticism more thoroughly than the one who’s giving it.”
Two guys sat down for lunch in the General Motors office cafeteria. “Hey, whatever happened to Bill in Engineering?” one asked.
“He got this harebrained notion he was going to build a new kind of car,” his co-worker replied.
“How was he going to do it?”
“He took a engine from a Firehawk, 6 sp. transmission from a Corvette, Camaro body, seats from a Blazer, wheels and tires from a Caddy and, well, you get the idea.”
“So what did he end up with?”
“Ten years to life.”
I’m really glad the guy who invented the Ray Gun was named Ray. Being shot with a Fred gun just wouldn’t sound as cool.
At Sea World, our grandson absolutely refused to see the show featuring Shamu the killer whale, but he wouldn’t tell us why. No amount of discussion could get him to change his mind. Later, when we got home, we discovered the reason for his reluctance.
An aunt had told him how exciting the show would be because. . . “They choose children from the audience to feed Shamu.”
“Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.”
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