May 23, 2017
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.
If you are like I am you appreciate happy people. I know I gravitate towards those I know who spend their days concentrating on the bright side of life. Yesterday, like most days was made better by the warmth of the people I encountered as the day went on.
I was greeted at the gym early in the morning by my favorite gate keeper who has been blessed with a warm smile. I stopped at one of my usual restaurants where my friendly server shared both a smile and a picture of her beautiful children. And later I got a call from one of my nurse monitors to check on how I was doing and to wish me well, I have never met her in person but her smile comes through whenever she calls.
If you learn to be happy you too can infect your world with good feelings. A while ago Angel Chernoff wrote a piece on finding happiness, here in part is what she said.
Healthy Habits of Happiness
Savor the joy of simple pleasures. – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love.
Perform random acts of kindness on a regular basis. – Pay for a stranger’s coffee in line at Starbucks. Buy the office receptionist flowers just to say, “Thank you.” Help an elderly lady with her groceries. There’s nothing more rewarding than putting smiles on the faces around you.
Help others when you’re able. – In life, you get what you put in. When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life. Do something that’s greater than you – something that helps someone else to be happy or to suffer less.
Share time with people you care about, and experience life together. – The quality of our personal relationships correlates directly with our overall sense of worth and happiness. Sometimes in the midst of life’s chaos we forget to do the little things that remind us we’re part of something greater than ourselves. We need a certain amount of meaningful contact with other people to feel fully alive. There are few things more satisfying than recounting the greatest moments of your life with your family and closest friends who lived these moments alongside you.
Accept things when they are less than perfect. – If you find yourself at a point of intense decision making where you’re caught in a spiral of over-analysis and you’re making no progress, take a deep breath, break the spiral, make an educated guess on the next logical step, and take it. Remember, the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done.
Invest a little time, energy and money into yourself every day. – Happiness comes as a side-effect of learning new skills and challenging yourself. Read, listen, adapt and stretch to accommodate new ideas and new information. You are simply the product of what you know. The more time, energy and money you invest acquiring pertinent knowledge, the more control you have over your life.
“Count your age by friends, not years. Count your life by smiles, not tears.”
Tips from the kids:
HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY? You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming. — Alan, age 10
WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED? Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.– Camille, age 10
HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED? You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.– Derrick, age 8
WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR? I’d run home and play dead. The next day I would call all the newspapers and make sure they wrote about me in all the dead columns.– Craig, age 9
WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE? When they’re rich.– Pam, age 7
IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED? I don’t know which is better, but I’ll tell you one thing. I’m never going to have sex with my wife. I don’t want to be all grossed out.– Theodore, age 8
It’s better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them.– Anita, age 9
HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN’T GET MARRIED? There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn’t there?– Kelvin, age 8
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked anyway, the good fortune to run into the ones I do, and the eyesight to tell the difference.
One of those physical fitness club franchises was preparing to enter the international market. They placed ads in newspapers all over the county for people who could represent them on a tour. The ad said: We’re looking for five men in peak physical condition. Must be able to speak Spanish, French, Chinese, or Japanese. Must be knowledgeable about weights, aerobics, and at least two major sports.
The day after the ad appeared, a heavy man of about 70 appeared in the offices of the fitness club. “I’m here about the ad,” he said.
The bronzed Adonis behind the desk looked surprised, but decided to be polite. “Do you speak Spanish or French?” he asked.
“Nope,” the old man said.
“No, both times.”
“Know anything about weights or aerobic exercises?”
“Only that I wouldn’t be caught dead with either one.”
“How about sports?”
“I’ve never played anything more taxing than checkers.”
“I see,” the young man said. “Tell me something. Why did you come here?”
“To tell you to count me out.”
“Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.”
James Matthew Barrie
The young rancher came running into the store and said to his buddy, “Bubba, somebody just stole your pickup from the parking lot!”
Bubba replied, “Did you see who it was? The young rancher answered, I couldn’t tell, but I got the license number.”
“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
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