May 10, 2017
There is no exercise better for your heart than reaching down and lifting others up.
The people I respect the most are those unselfish folks who really care for others. These are people who seem to be able to avoid focusing in on our flaws but see in us things we sometimes miss ourselves. It is their empathy and kindness that can brighten the days of the people they meet. They are a pleasure to be around and that is why I like being with so many of you.
A few years ago I got an article written by Angel Chernoff that I liked. Here is an edited version that includes highlights of her message.
Things Extraordinary People Give to Others
Reliable, sincere support. – The closest thing to being cared for is to care for others. We are all in this together and we should treat each other as such. The very demons that torment each of us, torment others all over the world. It is our challenges and troubles that connect us at the deepest level.
Undivided attention and focus. – There is greatness and beauty in making time, especially when it’s inconvenient, for the sake of someone nearby. You don’t have to tell people that you care, just show them. In your relationships and interactions with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention. Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of results is the ultimate compliment. It is indeed the most valued gesture you can make to another human being.
The freedom to be themselves. – Life’s greatest privilege is to become who you truly are. You have to dare to be yourself, one hundred percent, however anxious or odd that self may prove to be. The people who support you in doing so are extraordinary. Appreciate these people and their kindness, and pay it forward when you’re able.
Their willingness to be open-minded and wrong. – The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed. It’s okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by others. But that doesn’t give you the right to immediately reject any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don’t like what they are thinking and saying. Learn to recognize the beauty of different ideas and perspectives, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable.
A voice of inspiration and positivity. – If you attach to the negative behavior of others, it brings you and everyone close to you down to their level. Stay positive when negativity surrounds you. Smile when others frown. It’s an easy way to make a difference. Every time words are spoken, something is created. Be conscious of what you say and how you say it. Use words that build up, appreciate, encourage and inspire.
Recognition and praise. – A brave, extraordinary soul recognizes the strength of others. Give genuine praise whenever possible. Doing so is a mighty act of service. Start noticing what you like about others and speak up. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are is extremely rewarding.
Gentleness and consideration. – Be gentle and compassionate with those around you. Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds. Let this be a reminder not to be forceful with those around you, but to simply give them enough light and love, and an opportunity to grow naturally.
Ultimately, how far you go in life depends on your willingness to be helpful to the young, respectful to the aged, tender with the hurt, supportive of the striving, and tolerant of those who are weaker or stronger than the majority. Because we wear many hats throughout the course of our lives, and at some point in your life you will have been all of these people.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it’s at the end of your arm, as you get older, remember you have another hand: The first is to help yourself, the second is to help others.
Why Did the Chicken Cross the Road?
- Dr. Phil: The problem we have here is that this chicken won’t realize that he must first deal with the problem on “this” side of the road before it goes after the problem on the “other side” of the road. What we need to do is help him realize how stupid he’s acting by not taking on his “current” problems before adding “new” problems.
- Oprah: Well, I understand that the chicken is having problems, which is why he wants to cross this road so bad. So instead of having the chicken learn from his mistakes and take falls, which is a part of life, I’m going to give this chicken a car so that he can just drive across the road and not live his life like the rest of the chickens.
- Anderson Cooper, CNN: We have reason to believe there is a chicken, but we have not yet been allowed to have access to the other side of the road.
- Judge Judy: That chicken crossed the road because he’s guilty! You can see it in his eyes and the way he walks.
- Martha Stewart: No one called me to warn me which way that chicken was going. I had a standing order at the Farmer’s Market to sell my eggs when the price dropped to a certain level.
- Dr. Seuss: Did the chicken cross the road? Did he cross it with a toad? Yes, the chicken crossed the road, but why it crossed, I’ve not been told.
- Grandpa: In my day, we didn’t ask why the chicken crossed the road. Somebody told us the chicken crossed the road and that was good enough.
- Aristotle: It is the nature of chickens to cross the road.
- Bill Gates: I have just released eChicken2017, which will not only cross roads, but will lay eggs, file your important documents and balance your checkbook. Internet Explorer is an integral part of eChicken. The platform is much more stable and will never ever, ever reboot.
- Colonel Sanders: Did I miss one?
“I’m always amazed to hear of air crash victims so badly mutilated that they have to be identified by their dental records. What I can’t understand is, if they don’t know who you are, how do they know who your dentist is?”
Scott and Peter had applied for jobs at a large company and had to take an intelligence test. Though both of them found the test a breeze, except that they admitted to being momentarily stumped by the final question: “Name a 14 letter word for someone in charge of a plant.”
“How did you answer that last one?” asked Scott. “I thought it was tough at first … then I thought of Superintendent.”
“I think I got it right too,” Pete said. “But I wrote down Horticulturist.”
“I didn’t attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it.”
In my English-as-a-second-language class, I explained the difference between a watch and a clock. I told the students that when it was a large timepiece on a wall and not attached to your body, it was called a clock. When it was worn on your body, it was called a watch.
A few days later we had a power outage, and our classroom clocks had not been reset. I asked Luis, who was wearing a wristwatch, for the time. Luis looked at his wrist, and then confidently announced, “It is exactly ten o’watch.”
Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.
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