May 2, 2017
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.
Those of you who know me know I learned a long time ago that worry was of little value. You have heard me many times say that I don’t worry until it is too late and then it becomes time to deal with reality. The best thing is that I don’t agonize over what seldom happens.
What brought this to mind this morning was how my blood pressure problem is being handled. I have experienced high blood pressure since me last hospital stay and the resultant changes in my medications. Since then my hospital has put me on a monitoring program and reports my blood pressure reading to my cardiologist. She then communicates corrective med changes to me via a patient portal. So you see I don’t need to worry, she does it for me.
I know it is usually foolhardy to tell folks not to worry. But if you worry too much here is something that may make life easier for you.
The Things You Can’t Control: The Best Tool I Know to Overcome Pointless Worry
Not being able to predict how something will turn out—a job, a relationship, a health concern, etc.—is stressful and sometimes paralyzing. As a patient of mine explained, “It’s the not knowing that makes me miserable and keeps me up at night.”
Learning to let go of the things that are beyond your personal control is easier said than done. Telling someone to “stop worrying so much” is useless advice.
Here is a tool that can help—the Responsibility Transfer. Taken from The Charisma Myth, it is the best strategy I know to alleviate the discomfort of uncertainty.
- Sit down or lie down in a quiet place and close your eyes.
- Take three deep breaths. As you inhale, imagine drawing clean air toward the top of your head. As you exhale, let the air whoosh through you, washing away all worries and concerns.
- Pick an entity—Fate, the Universe, God, whatever best suits your beliefs–that you imagine to be benevolent.
- Imagine lifting the weight of everything you are worried about—that meeting tomorrow, the interaction with your boss this morning, a health concern—off your shoulders and placing it on the entity you have chosen. Now, the entity is in charge.
- Visually lift everything off your shoulders and feel the difference as you are now no longer responsible for the outcome of any of these things. Everything is taken care of.
The unproductive worry that accompanies uncertainty can leave many of us feeling like Atlas buckling under the weight of the world on our shoulders. After this exercise, I guarantee you will feel lighter, stronger and worry-free.
Dr. Samantha Boardman
Worry is interest paid on trouble before it comes due.
William Ralph Inge
Decoding the Bureau
FROM: Director, C.I.A.
TO: All C.I.A. Employees
In the weeks and months ahead, some of you may find yourselves talking to F.B.I. employees for the first time. To prevent possible errors in communication, here is a guide to common F.B.I. phrases, complete with their English-language translations:
F.B.I.: We have noticed “increased chatter” in recent weeks.
Translation: We’ve been intercepting conversations that could be useful if someone here knew Arabic.
F.B.I.: Here is a list of suspects for you to track.
Translation: This ought to keep you busy while we look for the suspects on the real list, which is safe in our files.
F.B.I.: I am still studying the document you shared with me.
Translation: I’ve been trying to open your e-mail attachment for two days. Are you guys on PC’s or Macs?
F.B.I.: We both have the same goal.
Translation: If we put our heads together, I’ll bet we can shift the blame to the Bureau of Labor Statistics and the National Park Service.
F.B.I.: Please get back to me at your earliest convenience.
Translation: There is an excellent chance that you or I will be forced to resign by the end of the day.
F.B.I.: Please share this document on a need-to-know basis only.
Translation: If you leak this one to Time, we’ll leak the next one to Newsweek.
Embrace your uniqueness. Time is much too short to be living someone else’s life.
TOP TEN REASONS HURRICANE SEASON IS LIKE CHRISTMAS
- Decorating the house (boarding up windows).
- Dragging out boxes that haven’t been used since last season (camping gear, flashlights).
- Last minute shopping in crowded stores.
- Regular TV shows preempted for “specials”.
- Family coming to stay with you.
- Family and friends from out-of-state calling.
- Buying food you don’t normally buy, and in large quantities.
- Days off from work.
1 And the number one reason Hurricane Season is like Christmas: At some point you know you’re going to have a tree in your house!
I don’t think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains.
The first-time father, beside himself with excitement over the birth of his son, was determined to do everything right. “So tell me, Nurse,” he asked as his new family headed out the hospital door, “what time should we wake the little guy in the morning?”
When you don’t know what you are talking about, it’s really hard to know when you are finished.
An amateur photographer was invited to dinner with friends and took along a few pictures to show the hostess. She looked at the photos and commented, “These are very good! You must have a good camera.”
He didn’t make any comment. As he was leaving to go home, he said, “That was a really delicious meal! You must have some very good pots.”
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
Dalai Lama XIV
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