At last. I finally have rebuilt Ray’s Daily’s distribution list. I hope I have it right. If you had canceled before my computer crash let me know and I will take you back off. I am sorry it took so long but the computer crash, a hospital stay and other distractions slowed me down.
“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”
Here is a piece I picked up from the PickThe Brain posting that I think is appropriate to consider when things go wrong.
7 Things Highly Resilient People Don’t Do
- They don’t feel shy about asking for feedback or help.
Research has shown that having social support is an innumerable advantage during tough times. Instead of facing it alone, it is easy to cope with a failure or setback when we have the support of our peers, community or family.
- They don’t waste energy on things they cannot control:
Everyone’s life has certain aspects that are out of control. Resilient people accept this inevitable fact instead of wasting time and energy on things that are out of their control. We cannot change or control what has happened to us. The past is unchangeable. Instead of brooding over it, resilient people focus on how to move forward.
- They don’t attempt to numb the pain.
Somehow, Resilient people have a better endurance to pain. They choose to learn a lesson from the incident instead of letting the situation to make them feel hopeless.
- They don’t let a tragedy paralyze them
Tragedies and painful situations happen to almost all people. During such times, it is natural to feel dejected and be upset. Even highly resilient people face these situations but they don’t allow themselves to be stuck in such a negativity for longer periods. They look for ways to come out of the situation and move forward.
- They don’t blame themselves.
Hard times sometimes destroy people’s self-esteem. Many go blaming themselves for almost everything that happens to them. This is a huge challenge. Sometimes you may be responsible for a failure, other times it may have nothing to do with you. Resilient people understand the difference between blame and responsibility. They do take responsibility for their actions but don’t waste their time in blaming themselves.
- They don’t base future decision on bad days.
Weak people base their decisions on a single bad incident and tend to quit their goals or shut themselves off completely. However, highly resilient people understand that it’s okay to have tough times. After all, expecting life to be wonderful all the time is foolish.
- They Don’t wallow in self-pity.
Self-pity is a destructive mindset. Dwelling on negative events and feeling excessively sorry for yourself is the surest way to misery. While it’s totally okay to cry our hearts out, feel hopeless and lost, but you should be able to shake it off at one point and move forward.
“One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.”
Alain de Botton
RULES OF THE AIR (from Australian Aviation magazine):
- Every takeoff is optional. Every landing is mandatory.
- If you push the stick forward, the houses get bigger. If you pull the stick back, they get smaller. That is, unless you keep pulling the stick all the way back, then they get bigger again.
- Flying isn’t dangerous. Crashing is what’s dangerous.
- It’s always better to be down here wishing you were up there than up there wishing you were down here.
- The ONLY time you have too much fuel is when you’re on fire.
- The propeller is just a big fan in front of the plane used to keep the pilot cool. When it stops, you can actually watch the pilot start sweating.
- When in doubt, hold on to your altitude. No-one has ever collided with the sky.
- A ‘good’ landing is one from which you can walk away. A ‘great’ landing is one after which they can use the plane again.
- Learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t live long enough to make all of them yourself.
- You know you’ve landed with the wheels up if it takes full power to taxi to the ramp.
- The probability of survival is inversely proportional to the angle of arrival. Large angle of arrival, small probability of survival and vice versa.
- Never let an aircraft take you somewhere your brain didn’t get to five minutes earlier.
- Stay out of clouds. The silver lining everyone keeps talking about might be another airplane going in the opposite direction. Reliable sources also report that mountains have been known to hide out in clouds.
- Always try to keep the number of landings you make equal to the number of take offs you’ve made.
- There are three simple rules for making a smooth landing. Unfortunately no one knows what they are.
- You start with a bag full of luck and an empty bag of experience. The trick is to fill the bag of experience before you empty the bag of luck.
- Helicopters can’t fly; they’re just so ugly the earth repels them.
- If all you can see out of the window is ground that’s going round and round and all you can hear is commotion coming from the passenger compartment, things are not at all as they should be.
- In the ongoing battle between objects made of aluminum going hundreds of miles per hour and the ground going zero miles per hour, the ground has yet to lose.
- Good judgment comes from experience. Unfortunately, the experience usually comes from bad judgment.
- It’s always a good idea to keep the pointy end going forward.
- Keep looking around. There’s always something you’ve missed.
- Remember, gravity is not just a good idea. It’s the law. And it’s not subject to repeal.
- The three most useless things to a pilot are the altitude above you, runway behind you, and a tenth of a second ago.
- There are old pilots and there are bold pilots. There are, however, no old, bold pilots.
“Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.”
“When a man’s best friend is his dog, that dog has a problem.”
An old man was relaxing at his hundredth birthday party when a reporter went up to him.
“Sir, what is the secret of your long life?”
The man considered this for a moment, then replied “every day at 9 PM I have a glass of port. Good for the heart I’ve heard.”
The reporter replied, “That’s ALL?”
The man smiled, “That, and canceling my voyage on Titanic.”
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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