“It is the preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else that prevents us from living freely and nobly.”
Here are excerpts from an article written by Angel Chernoff that I think is worth reading before we make our New Year’s resolutions. I fhink we all would be a lot happier if we were not so focused on the acquisition of things and position and spent more time on seeing the value of what is already available to us,
The Search for Happiness Causes Misery
You can’t find something that’s already here with you. Happiness exists in this moment. It’s not something you need to find. That’s like trying to find the oxygen you’re breathing right now.
In reality, it’s the tension of your mind that causes unhappiness. If you’re not happy, it’s because your mind is focused on something that’s making you unhappy. And why is your mind doing this? Because you’re stuck in a vicious cycle of misdirected judgment, productivity and purpose that has you thinking about every imaginable time and place, except right here, right now. The problem occurs when you base your entire reason for living on a point in time – an activity or achievement – that doesn’t yet exist.
When we place all of our happiness on the idea of ‘getting’ something, checking off items on a to-do list, or achieving a future goal, we’re fooling ourselves. And we never stop to think that it might be all the chasing that’s making us miserable. We’re too distracted with trying to win the game. As soon as we beat one level and see some success, we’re instantly in a hurry to upgrade our search and move on to the next level. We never stop to think that it’s not the failure to win the game that causes our grief, but the game itself.
We neglect to realize that sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem. Sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to simply stand still and breathe.
◾The smartest way to be happy with the place you live is to stop chasing the mansion you see on HGTV with five bedrooms, a pool, a fireplace, and a three-car garage.
◾The best way to solve the problem of not having lots of friends is to stop worrying about having more, and instead appreciate the few good ones you do have.
◾The simplest way to be content with yourself is not to achieve high admiration and praise from others, but to accept yourself fully for who you are now.
◾The quickest route to happiness is to stop the pursuit of finding happiness and start the process of being happiness.
By letting go a little we immediately release ourselves of the grasping tension of the mind. But it’s not easy to stay in this mindset (the mind loves to hold on); it’s something we have to constantly cultivate.
It’s especially difficult when society tends to place more value on things and status, than on experiences. We are told to value what we do more than how we feel. This is complete nonsense when you think about it. The way you feel is far more important than what you own or how others perceive you. Isn’t the purpose of everything you do to feel good? Isn’t the purpose of that new gold watch, that important job title, or college degree to give you a feeling of accomplishment? Aren’t these things supposed to make you happy?
The problem with this is we’re basing our happiness on fleeting things and events. We’re deriving our joy from an acquisition or an achievement. This isn’t true, lasting happiness; it’s an addiction. We get a short burst of endorphins to our bloodstream from our new big screen TV, or new iPhone, or new title on our business cards, and then what happens? It disappears. It leaves us feeling empty and we begin looking for our next fix.
“To be content with little is difficult; to be content with much, impossible.”
Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach
“Hey, Judi, how’d your ski weekend go?” Monika asked.
“The good news was I shared the cabin with these two drop dead gorgeous men!”
“Oooo! That must have been wonderful! What’s the bad news?”
“They were engaged to each other.”
Do nothing, and nothing happens. Do something, and something happens.
Max had lived in the city all his life, but tired of the rat race, decided he was going to give up the city life, move to the country, and become a chicken farmer
Turns out that his next door neighbor was also a chicken farmer. The neighbor came for a visit one day and said, “Chicken farming isn’t easy. Tell you what. To help you get started, I’ll give you 100 chickens.”
Max was thrilled. Two weeks later the new neighbor stopped by to see how things were going.
Max said, “Not too good. All 100 chickens died.”
His neighbor said, “Oh, I can’t believe that. I’ve never had any trouble with my chickens. I’ll give you 100 more.”
Another two weeks went by and the second 100 chickens died too.”
Astounded, the neighbor asked, “what went wrong? What did you do to them?”
Well, says Max, “I’m not sure whether I’m planting them too deep or not far apart enough.”
Law of the Workshop: Any tool, when dropped, will roll to the least accessible corner.
She said: When my son graduated from high school, he had to give a speech. He began by reading from his prepared text. “I want to talk about my mother and the wonderful influence she has had on my life,” he told the audience. “She is a shining example of parenthood, and I love her more than words could ever do justice.”
At this point he seemed to struggle for words. After a pause, looking up with a sly grin he said, “It’s really hard to read my mom’s handwriting.”
Before I met my husband, I’d never fallen in love. I’d stepped in it a few times.
Lunching with a friend in a fast-food restaurant, I was telling her about a teenager who had rear-ended my car. The teen blamed me for the accident. “She even called me every dirty name in the book!” I said.
Just then I looked over to the next table where two nine-year-old boys had apparently been paying close attention to my story. One said to the other, “There’s a book?”
While we ponder when to begin, it becomes too late to do.
“Simplicity involves unburdening your life, and living more lightly with fewer distractions that interfere with a high quality life, as defined uniquely by each individual.”
Linda Breen Pierce.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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