“Live your life without ever having to ask, ‘What if?”
When you get to be my age you learn how true the old adage “time flies” really is. Too many of us just let it keep going doing what we have always done only to find it is too late to make some positive change. I have found that it is not too late to create a happier life but you have to do it to find it.
It is not easy to break old habits but if they lock you in a place you would be better off leaving then why stay. Here is an edited article that I got from Marc Chernoff some time ago that’s worth considering if you want to take the road to a happier life.
7 Things You Really Need to Stop Putting Yourself Through
Pause for a moment and think about how much effort you put into certain routines, habits, situations and people that are not actually benefiting your life in any way. It’s time for a change. And positive change can happen in YOUR life. As they say, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
Here are seven crucial things you need to stop putting yourself through:
- Stop holding on to negative thoughts from your past. – It’s often our own thinking that hurts us. There’s no reason to imprison yourself. Don’t think outside the box; think like there is no box. And never regret your past mistakes, because they gave you strength. The one who falls and gets up is much stronger than the one who never fell.
- Stop attaching yourself to what’s not meant to be. – We all have this idea in our heads of how things are supposed to be, but sadly this is why we end up disappointed. Expect less. Enjoy more.
- Stop letting the same people take advantage of you. – Sometimes people don’t notice the things we do for them until we stop doing them. This is NOT right! Realize this. You deserve better. You deserve to be with people who make you smile – friends who don’t take you for granted – friends who won’t leave you hanging.
- Stop hurting yourself by hating people. – As Gandhi once said, “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” Regardless of how despicable another has acted, never let hate build in your heart. Fighting hatred with hatred only hurts you more.
- Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
- Stop letting fear run your life. – Are you doing what you’re doing out of fear, or love? Think about it. Every human thought, word and deed is based on fear or love. Fear is an inner energy that contracts, closes down, draws in, hides, hoards and harms. When you live through fear, you pull back from life. Love, on the other hand, is an inner energy that expands, opens up, sends out, reveals, shares and heals. When you live through love, you open to all that life has to offer with presence and acceptance.
- Stop telling yourself that you don’t have what it takes. – As Abraham Lincoln so profoundly said, “We are just about as happy as we make up our minds to be.” Happiness is the result of personal choice and effort.
“Find your passion and live it.”
Lailah Gifty Akita,
I don’t know who sent this to me, but I like it, it brings back old memories.
“Fender skirts!” What a great blast from the past! I hadn’t thought about fender skirts in years. When I was a kid, I considered it such a funny term. Made me think of a car in a dress.
Thinking about fender skirts started me thinking about other words that quietly disappear from our language with hardly a notice. Like “curb feelers” and “steering knobs.”
When did we quit calling them “emergency brakes?” At some point “parking brake” became the proper term. But I miss the hint of drama that went with “emergency brake.”
Here’s a phrase I heard all the time in my youth but never anymore – “store-bought.” Of course, just about everything is store-bought these days. But once it was bragging material to have a store-bought dress or a store-bought bag of candy.
“Coast to coast” is a phrase that once held all sorts of excitement and now means almost nothing. Now we take the term “worldwide” for granted. This floors me.
On a smaller scale, “wall-to-wall” was once a magical term in our homes. In the ’50s, everyone covered their hardwood floors with, wow, wall-to-wall carpeting! Today, everyone replaces their wall-to-wall carpeting with hardwood floors. Go figure.
When’s the last time you heard the quaint phrase “in a family way?” It’s hard to imagine that the word “pregnant” was once considered a little too graphic, a little too clinical for use in polite company.
So we had all that talk about stork visits and “being in a family way” or simply “expecting.”
Apparently “brassiere” is a word no longer in usage. I said it the other day and my daughter cackled. I guess it’s just “bra” now. “Unmentionables” probably wouldn’t be understood at all.
It’s hard to recall that this word was once said in a whisper -“divorce.” And no one is called a “divorcee” anymore. Certainly not a “gay divorcee.”
Here’s a word I miss – “percolator.” That was just a fun word to say. And what was it replaced with? “Coffeemaker.” How dull. Mr. Coffee, I blame you for this.
I miss those made-up marketing words that were meant to sound so modern and now sound so retro. Words like “DynaFlow” and “ElectraLuxe.” Introducing the 1963 Admiral TV, now with “SpectraVision!”
Food for thought – Was there a telethon that wiped out lumbago? Nobody complains of that anymore. Maybe that’s what castor oil cured, because I never hear mothers threatening their kids with castor oil anymore.
Some words aren’t gone, but are definitely on the endangered list. The one that grieves me most – “supper.” Save a great word. Invite someone to supper. Discuss fender skirts.
Let us be thankful for the fools. But for them the rest of us could not succeed.
While waiting in line at the bank, a coworker developed a very loud case of hiccups. By the time he reached the teller’s window, the hiccups seemed to have worsened.
The teller took my friend’s check and proceeded to run a computer verification of his account. After a minute she looked up from her terminal with a frown and said that she would be unable to cash his check.
“Why not?” my friend asked incredulously.
“I’m sorry, sir,” she replied, “but our computer indicates that you do not have sufficient funds to cover this amount. As a matter of fact,” she continued, “our records show your account overdrawn in excess of $5000!”
“It CAN’T be!” he cried. “You have GOT to be kidding!”
“Yeah……I am,” she answered with a big smile, counting out his cash.
“But did you happen to notice that your hiccups are gone?”
The supermarket is where you spend 30 minutes hunting for instant coffee.
Walter, who is quite elderly is resting peacefully on the front porch of a nursing home in the country, when he sees a cloud of dust up the road. He watches a farmer approaching, with a wagon. “Good afternoon!” hollers out Walter.
“Afternoon,” says the farmer.
“Where you headed?” asks Walter.
“What do you have in the wagon?” Walter continued.
“Manure, eh? What do you do with it?”
“I spread it over my strawberries,” the farmer says matter-of-factly.
“Well,” says Walter, “you should come over here for lunch someday. We use whipped cream.”
“If life is a movie, most of us are watching the boring and talked over! Well, it’s still not too late; drop it.. and start afresh with a new and exciting one. Remember, there’s only one climax waiting to be experienced!”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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