Friends are the siblings God never gave us.
James Kiberd and Ray
I heard the other day from my two favorite New York actors, James Kiberd and Susan Keith-Kiberd. They said they would be coming through Indianapolis today and offered to stop for a short visit. Unfortunately I am tied up all day and had to let them know I couldn’t do it.
This was a big disappointment to me because they are two of the best people I know. I met them about twenty years ago when I would occasionally travel with James promoting a UNICEF/Kiwanis global public health project. Besides James being one of Americas most popular TV personalities he also used his artistic talent to paint a picture that helped in our fundraising efforts. I met Susan the first time when she attended a college level Kiwanis convention with James, she was also a popular TV actress and the two of them raised funds for our project as kids bid to dance with them.
I have not seen them since our UNICEF days but we have kept in touch over the years via the internet and occasional phone calls. Yesterday I wrote in the Daily how important it is that we maintain active friendships as we age. While I never get to see the Kiberds these days I feel that we are even closer than we once were. It is like with so many of you, I seldom see you anymore but the internet keeps you in my heart.
Here is what the Mayo Clinic has to say about the importance of friendships.
What are the benefits of friendships?
Good friends are good for your health. Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship, too. Friends can also:
- Increase your sense of belonging and purpose
- Boost your happiness and reduce your stress
- Improve your self-confidence and self-worth
- Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one
- Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking or lack of exercise
Friends also play a significant role in promoting your overall health. Adults with strong social support have a reduced risk of many significant health problems, including depression, high blood pressure and an unhealthy body mass index (BMI). Studies have even found that older adults with a rich social life are likely to live longer than their peers with fewer connections.
I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun.
Charles R. Swindoll
I used to work for a large company; they often tried to do special things for us to make work a little more enjoyable. Below is a series of memos I found on my desk one week. Thought I would pass then on…..
Casual Day Memo No. 1: Effective immediately, the company is adopting Fridays as Casual Day so that employees may express their diversity.
Memo No. 2: Spandex and leather micro-miniskirts are not appropriate attire for Casual Day. Neither are string ties, rodeo belt buckles or moccasins.
Memo No. 3: Casual Day refers to dress only, not attitude. When planning Friday’s wardrobe, remember image is a key to our success.
Memo No. 4: A seminar on how to dress for Casual Day will be held at 4 p.m., Friday in the cafeteria. Fashion show to follow. Attendance is mandatory.
Memo No. 5: As an outgrowth of Friday’s seminar, a 14-member Casual Day Task Force has been appointed to prepare guidelines for proper dress.
Memo No. 6: The Casual Day Task Force has completed a 30-page manual. A copy of “Relaxing Dress Without Relaxing Company Standards” has been mailed to each employee. Please review the chapter “You Are What You Wear” and consult the “home casual” versus “business casual” checklist before leaving for work each Friday. If you have doubts about the appropriateness of an item of clothing, contact your CDTF representative before 7 a.m. on Friday.
Memo No. 7: Because of lack of participation, Casual Day has been discontinued, effective immediately!
Our only security is our ability to change.
My brother, a strict vegetarian, travels abroad for long periods on business. When he got back from Europe one time, he called our parents’ home and told Dad he was about to pay them an unexpected visit.
Dad hung up. “The prodigal son is returning!” he called to my mother. “Kill the fatted zucchini!”
“Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment.”
She said: At the company water cooler, I bragged about my children’s world travels: one son was teaching in Bolivia, another was working in southern Italy, and my daughter was completing a yearlong research project in India.
One co-worker’s quip, however, stopped me short. “What is it about you,” he asked, “that makes your kids want to get so far away?”
Nothing is impossible if you don’t have to do it yourself.
Tired of having to balance his wife Cindy’s checkbook, Mike made a deal with her; he would only look at it after she had spent a few hours trying to wrestle it into shape. Only then would he lend his expertise.
The following night, after spending hours poring over stubs and figures, Cindy said proudly,
“There! I’ve done it! I made it balance!”
Impressed, Mike came over to take a look.
“Let’s see…mortgage 550.00, electricity 70.50, phone 35.00.”
His brow wrinkled as he read the last entry.
“It says here ESP, 615.00. What is that?”
“Oh,” said. “That means….. ‘Error Someplace’ ”
We must believe in free will. We have no choice.
After a long life of unselfish service, Father John O’Malley died and went to heaven. St. Peter met him at the gate and said: “John, you did such a wonderful job for us on earth, we’d like to do something special for you. You name it; it’s yours.”
John thought for a moment and said: “I’d like a private audience with the Holy Mother.” St. Peter told him it would be arranged.
On the appointed day, St. Peter escorted John to the Holy Mother’s sanctuary. John went before Her, knelt, and said: “Holy Mother, I’ve always looked to You for guidance, and You have granted me peace and serenity through some difficult times. But I have one question that has nagged me during my whole time on earth. In all the paintings that were done of you, and in all the sculptures that were carved of you, you always looked so sad. Why is that?”
Mary thought for a moment, pursing her lips. She said: “I always wanted a girl.”
Surely I deserve some kind of recognition for all the bad things I haven’t done.
Little Morris, 4 years old, walked down the beach, and as he did, he spied a matronly woman sitting under a beach umbrella on the sand. He walked up to her and asked, “Are you Jewish?”
“Yes.” she replied.
“Do you know the Ten Commandments?”
She nodded her head, “Yes.”
“Do you pray often?” the boy asked next, and again she answered, “Yes.”
Do you keep Kosher ?, Morris asked.
“I do.” said the elderly lady.
With that he asked his final question, “Will you hold my dollar while I go swimming?”
True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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