Gratitude turns what we have into enough.
Now my new week starts and I get to go back to my normal routine. Soon I will be off to the YMCA for my morning workout. My computer is back working so this week I will be able to stay in touch with you and others on a daily basis. My health is pretty good and my family is reasonably well. I truly have a lot to be thankful for.
I have found as my wife and I have shifted to a less active life style that I have learned to appreciate the little things in life that are often overlooked. My food seems to taste better, my reading is more rewarding and I find I really appreciate the kindness of others.
Recently I received an article written by Marc Chernoff that talks about the value of being grateful for all we have. I like it so much I want to share some of it with you today. Here is what he had to say:
How to Force Yourself to Be More Grateful
In the end, the secret to being grateful is no secret. You choose to be grateful. Then you do it again and again. If you forget, begin again.
There are, however, three specific gratitude strategies that Angel and I often cover with our students and coaching clients. We’ve literally seen these strategies work wonders for people over the past decade (and we practice them ourselves too). I encourage you to implement them, gradually, one at a time, into your life. And if you need further assistance, we’re here.
- Practice a private, evening gratitude ritual.
Every evening before you go to bed, write down three things that went well during the day and their causes. Simply provide a short, causal explanation for each good thing.
If you begin this ritual this evening, you just might be looking back on today many years from now, as the day when your whole life changed.
- Practice giving thanks publicly.
Although gratitude comes from within, the public expression of gratitude is important too. In his best selling book, “Authentic Happiness,” the renowned positive psychologist Martin Seligman gives some practical suggestions on how to do this. He recommends that we ritualize the practice of expressing gratitude in letters to friends, family, coworkers, and other people who we interact with in our community.
- Practice reflecting on the little things you are grateful for.
It’s fairly easy to remember to be grateful for the big and obvious things that happen — a new addition to the family, a great promotion at work, a significant business breakthrough, etc. But the happiest people find ways to give thanks for the little things too. Ponder these perspective-shifting points from an article I wrote a while back:
- You are alive.
- You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
- You didn’t go to sleep outside.
- You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning.
- You haven’t spent a minute in fear for your life.
- You know someone who loves you.
- You have access to clean drinking water.
- You have access to medical care.
- You have access to the Internet.
- You can read.
Be honest: when was the last time you were grateful for simply being alive, or going to sleep with a full belly? More specifically, think of all the little things you experience — the smell of a home-cooked meal, hearing your favorite song when it randomly comes on the radio, seeing a marvelous sunset, etc. Pay attention, and be grateful.
Truly, the richest human isn’t the one who has the most, but the one who needs less. Wealth is a mindset. Want less and appreciate more today. And remember, the best time to focus on being grateful is when you don’t feel like it. Because that’s when doing so can make the biggest difference.
If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily.
My sister had been ill, so I called to see how she was doing. My ten-year-old niece answered the phone.
“Hello,” she whispered. “Hi, Honey. How’s your mother doing?” I asked.
“She’s sleeping,” she answered, again in a whisper.
“Did she go to the doctor?” I asked.
“Yes. She got some medicine,” my niece said softly.
“Well, don’t wake her. Just tell her I called. What are you doing, by the way?”
Again in a soft whisper, she answered, “Practicing my trumpet.”
One is not rich by what one owns, but more by what one is able to do without with dignity.
“Do you remember first meeting your wife?” asks Ed.
“Sure,” says Jim. “I found her lying face down in the gutter. I lifted her up to her feet & promised her that if she agreed to marry me, she would begin a new life & I’d never allow her near the gutter again.”
“Wow! I hope she appreciates what you did for her!”
“Not really. She hated to give up bowling!”
After you’ve heard two eyewitness accounts of an auto accident it makes you wonder about history.
“George is so forgetful,” the sales manager complained to his secretary. “It’s a wonder he can sell and I’m not sure he’ll even remember to come back.”
Just then the door flew open, and in bounced George. “You’ll never guess what happened!” he shouted. “While I was at lunch, I met Old Man Brown, who hasn’t bought anything from us for five years. Well, we got to talking and he gave me this half-million dollar order!”
“See,” sighed the sales manager to his secretary. “I told you he’d forget the sandwiches.”
When asked by his Boss why he only worked 4 days a week the employee replied, “Because I can’t manage on 3 days a week.”
To make it possible for everyone to attend church on Sunday, we are proposing to have a special “No Excuse Sunday.”
- Cots will be placed in the foyer for those who say, “But, Sunday is my *only* day to sleep in.”
- They will have steel helmets for those who say, “The roof will cave in if I ever came to church.”
- Blankets will be furnished for those who say it is too cold and fans will be furnished for those who say it is too hot.
- 4.There will be hearing aids for those who say, “The pastor speaks too softly,” and cotton for those who say, “He preaches too loudly.”
- Scorecards will be available for those who wish to list the hypocrites present.
- Some relatives will be in attendance for those who like to go visiting on Sunday.
- There will be TV dinners for those who can’t go to church and cook dinner too.
- Golf clubs will be available for practice swings for those who like to golf on Sunday.
“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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