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Ray’s Resting

“My goal is no longer to get more done, but rather to have less to do.”

Francine Jay

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I enjoyed my day of relaxation so much yesterday that I am going to devote another day to doing nothing more than having a very early breakfast with an old friends. In the meantime here is the Daily I published twelve years ago.

Ray’s Daily first published on July 15, 2004

I know I complained some these last few days and in reality I should be glad for how lucky I really am. I am saddened by the loss of an old friend and Indianapolis Icon; for days the newspapers have been filled with the death of my friend Charles. He was only in his mid-fifties and had two agonizing years fighting prostate cancer. We first met more than 30 years ago when he was just starting his lifelong journey in his constant effort to help others.

When all is said and done we really have it pretty good. What helps me is messages like the one I just received from one of our friends. He said:

I hope you continue to feel better and better.  Reading your daily is a real pick-me-up and a great way to start the day with a smile.  It helps keep everything in perspective.  It was a real blessing during April, May, and June when my mother was dying of lung cancer (She died on June 8th) and I just hope that the medicine that you have been dispensing to all of us is also of benefit to you.  May God continue to bless you and may your health continue to improve.

That kind of makes everything worthwhile.

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No one gets out of this world alive, so the time to live, learn, care, share, celebrate, and love is now.

Leo Buscaglia

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Doctor Bloom who was known for miraculous cures for arthritis had a waiting room full of people when a little old lady, completely bent over in half, shuffled in slowly, leaning on her cane. When her turn came, she went into the doctor’s office, and, amazingly, emerged within half an hour walking completely erect with her head held high.

A woman in the waiting room who had seen all this walked up to the little old lady and said, “It’s a miracle! You walked in bent in half and now you’re walking erect. What did that doctor do?”

She answered, “Miracle, shmiracle . . .  he gave me a longer cane.”

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A life with Love will have some thorns. But a life without Love will have no Roses.

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I don’t remember who sent this to me years ago, she does not sound happy.

She said: We start to “bud” in our blouses at 9 or 10 years old only to find anything that comes in contact with those tender, blooming buds hurts so bad it brings us to tears. Enter the almighty, uncomfortable training bra contraption the boys in school will snap until we have calluses on our backs.

Next, we get our periods in our early to mid-teens (or sooner). Along with those budding boobs, we now bloat, we cramp, we get the hormone crankies, have to wear little mattresses between our legs or insert tubular, packed cotton rods in places we didn’t even know we had.

Our next little rite of passage (premarital or not) is having sex for the first time, which is about as much fun as having a ramrod push your uterus through your nostrils (IF he did it right and didn’t end up with his little cart before his horse), leaving us to wonder what all the fuss was about.

Then it’s off to Motherhood where we learn to live on dry crackers and water for a few months so we don’t spend the entire day leaning over Brother John. Of course, amazing creatures that we are (and we are), we learn to live with the growing little angels inside us steadily kicking our innards night and day, making us wonder if we’re having Rosemary’s Baby. Our once flat bellies now look like we swallowed a watermelon whole and we pee our pants every time we sneeze. (The latter condition never goes away, either…lots of times, neither does the former.)

When the big moment arrives, the dam in our blessed Nether Regions will invariably burst right in the middle of the mall and we’ll waddle with our big cartoon feet, moaning in pain all the way to the ER. Then it’s huff and puff and beg to die while the OB says, “Please stop screaming, Mrs. Hearmeroar. Calm down and push. Just one or (or 10) good push,” warranting a strong, well-deserved impulse to punch the bastard (and hubby) square in the nose for making us cram a wiggling, mushroom-headed 10 lb. bowing ball through a keyhole.

After that, it’s time to raise those angels, only to find that when all that “cute” wears off, the beautiful little darlings morph into walking, jabbering, wet, gooey, snot-blowing, life-sucking little poop machines.

The teen years. Need I say more?

The kids are almost grown now and we women hit our voracious sexual prime in our mid-30’s to early 40’s while hubby had his somewhere around his 18th birthday (which just happens to be the reason all that early, hot, man sex got you pregnant in the first place).

Now we hit the grand finale: Menopause. The Grandmother of all womanhood. It’s either take the HRT and chance cancer in those now seasoned “buds” or the aforementioned Nether Regions, or sweat like a hog in July, wash your sheets and pillowcases daily and bite the head off of anything that moves.

Now, you ask WHY women seem to be more spiteful than men when men get off so easy INCLUDING the icing on life’s cake: Being able to pee in the woods without soaking their socks…

Now, I love being a woman but “Womanhood” would make the Great Ghandi a tad crabby.

Women are the weaker sex? Yeah, right. Bite me.

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Shoot first and call whatever you hit the target.

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Nina and Rosey shared the chores and on this day Nina went to the grocery store. In addition to the healthful items on their carefully prepared shopping list, she returned with a box of sugar- laden cookies.

Nina noticed Rosey’s glare and said, “This box of cookies has one-third fewer calories than usual.”

“Oh really?? Why is that?” Rosey asked.

“I ate a third of the cookies on the way home,” Nina replied.

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Ever wonder what the speed of lightning would be if it didn’t zigzag?

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Ron and John were building a house. John was on a ladder, nailing. He’d reach into his nail pouch, pull out a nail, look at it, and either toss it over his shoulder or proceed to nail it into the wood.

Ron couldn’t stand it any longer and yelled, “Why are you throwing some of the nails away?”

John explained, “When I pull it out of my nail pouch. If it’s pointed toward me, I throw it away. If it’s pointed toward the house, then I can use it!”

Ron replied, “Don’t throw away the nails that are pointed toward you! They’re for the other side of the house.”

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God gave us memories that we might have roses in December.

James M. Barrie

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She said: A bricklayer at my husband’s construction job routinely complained about the contents of his lunch box. “I’m sick and tired of getting the same old thing!” he shouted one day. “Tonight I’ll set my wife straight.”

The next day the men could hardly wait until lunch time to hear what happened.

“You bet I told her off,” the bricklayer boasted. “I said, ‘No more of the same old stuff. Be creative!’ We had one heck of a fight, but I got my point across.”

He had indeed. In front of an admiring audience, he opened his lunch box to find that his wife had packed a coconut- and a hammer.

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“Next time you think you’re perfect, try walking on water.”

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When my friend was pregnant, she was having a hard time with the weight she’d gained. One day her husband persuaded her to go to the beach for the day. “There I sat, with my bulges and potbelly,” she told me later, “and this gorgeous girl, about 18 years old, walked by in a fluorescent pink micro bikini. And I started to cry.”

“When my husband asked what was wrong,” she continued, “I said, ‘Just look at that beautiful teenager. My body will never look like that again”

“He rolled over and glanced at the girl in pink, and–here’s how I know I’ve married a special man–he took my hand and kissed it. “You know what, Honey?” he said. Neither will hers.”

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A people that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both.

Dwight D. Eisenhower

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

I’m Resting

“Ah! There is nothing like staying at home, for real comfort.”

Jane Austen

Relax

I decided that today I am not going to think too much, do more that I have to do and just devote the time to being my wife’s companion. Of course I will do what must be done, after all we have to eat and I may even dream some but not too much. So I am just going to send you a poem that offers insight on how we can live happier lives rather than my usual blurb.

       Outlook

By Priscilla Leonard

 

Forget each kindness that you do

As soon as you have done it.

Forget the praise that falls to you

The moment you have won it.

Forget the slander that you hear

Before you can repeat it.

Forget each slight, each spite, each sheer

Wherever you may meet it.

 

Remember every kindness done

To you, whate’er its measure.

Remember praise by others won

And pass it on with pleasure.

Remember every promise made

And keep it to the letter.

Remember those who lend you aid

And be a grateful debtor.

 

Remember all the happiness

That comes your way in living.

Forget each worry and distress;

Be hopeful and forgiving.

Remember good, remember truth,

Remember Heaven’s above you,

And you will find, through age and youth,

True joys and hearts to love you. 

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We will be more successful in all our endeavors if we can let go of the habit of running all the time, and take little pauses to relax and re-center ourselves. And we’ll also have a lot more joy in living.

Thich Nhat Hanh

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A small polar bear and his dad were walking along the ice cap when the son poked his dad and asked, “Dad, are you a real polar bear?”

“Yes son, I’m a real polar bear.”

They proceeded across the ice cap and before long the son again poked his dad and asked, “Dad, I mean are you a real polar bear?”

His dad responded, “Yes! I’m a real polar bear!”

They again started across the ice cap and about 15 minutes later the small polar bear poked his dad and asked, “Is Mom a real polar bear?”

His dad a bit puzzled answered, “Yes son, your mother’s a real polar bear!”

And again they began walking across the polar ice. Well, after a short time the small bear again poked his dad once again and asked, “Dad, are you sure Mom’s a real polar bear; I mean she doesn’t have any mixed bear in her, or anything?”

Dad, a bit aggravated said, “Your Mom is a real polar bear, and that’s it. Why do you keep asking me these questions about us being real polar bears?”

With that the small polar bear shyly looked up at his Dad and said, “Because I’m cold!”

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“The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.”

Plutarch

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Some Classic Lines from Dear Abby’s syndicated newspaper advice column…

  • Dear Abby, I was married to Bill for three months and I didn’t know he drank until one night he came home sober.
  • Dear Abby, I suspected that my husband had been fooling around, and when I confronted him with the evidence he denied everything and said it would never happen again.
  • Dear Abby, I have a man I never could trust. He cheats so much on me I’m not even sure this baby I’m carrying is his.
  • Dear Abby, I joined the Navy to see the world. I’ve seen it. Now how do I get out?
  • Dear Abby, Our son was married in January. Five months later his wife had a ten-pound baby girl. They said the baby was premature. Tell me, can a baby this big be that early? Signed, Wondering. – Dear Wondering. The baby was on time, the wedding was late. Forget it.
  • Dear Abby, I have always wanted to have my family history traced, but I can’t afford to spend a lot of money to do it. Any suggestions? Signed, Sam – Dear Sam, Yes. Run for public office.

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People say that hard work never killed anybody, but did you ever know anybody who rested to death?

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George Burns told a story about cheating on his wife once during their marriage.  He kept it to himself, but he felt so bad that he bought Gracie a beautiful diamond bracelet.  Finally, after several years had gone by, he confessed to Gracie about his indiscretion.

She said, “I know.  I was hoping you’d do it again.  I wanted a ring to match.”

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Kids today don’t know how easy they have it.  When I was young, I had to walk 9 feet through shag carpeting to change the TV channel.

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Every morning for years, at about 11:30, the telephone operator in a small Sierra-Nevada town received a call from a man asking the exact time. One day the operator summed up nerve enough to ask him why the regularity.

“I’m foreman of the local sawmill,” he explained. “Every day I have to blow the whistle at noon so I call you to get the exact time.”

The operator giggled, “That’s really funny,” she said. “All this time we’ve been setting our clock by your whistle.

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“Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will no withdraw from us.”

Maya Angelou

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

How’s your day?

Every day is a good day to be alive, whether the sun’s shining or not.

Marty Robbins

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I had breakfast with an old friend yesterday who is about to embark on a path many wish they would. She has decided to spend the next six months pursuing her interests instead of fulfilling obligations. She has withdrawn from her employment as well as organizations that required her to commit to regular duties. Her husband is an active retiree who enjoys an adventurous life as well. As an example they will soon leave on a trip that will include exploring Alaskan wilderness and more.

My friend has many interests and has been a community activist for worthy causes. She plans to spend some of the time in the months ahead exploring new roles she might play. She has a lot to offer, our community and we are lucky to have her with us. I look forward to staying abreast of her activities.

As you know I don’t like to dwell to long on the occasional adversities that life throws my way. That is one of the reasons I enjoy Henrik’s writings on the Positivity Blog. Today I would like to share with you a piece he wrote on dealing with bad days,

Having a bad day?

On some days everything seems to just go wrong. And sometimes it is not just days we’re talking about. But a week or months when things feel tough and rough and you just want go home and give up. I’ve had many such days and periods but over the years I have also become a lot better at handling them and not letting them drag me down. So today I’d like to share 3 things to remember when your whole day, week or month(s) seems to go wrong. I hope they’ll be as helpful for you as they have been for me.

There is a brand new day tomorrow.

Just because this day or the last week didn’t go well doesn’t mean that there is not a brand new day tomorrow. A day when you can start anew. With taking action to move towards what you want, likely having a bit more luck and when it will be easier to see that this difficult time is only temporary and not permanent (even if it might feel that way right now).

I have handled tough situations in the past.

When you are standing in the middle of things going wrong then you might get a bit panicky. And lose faith in yourself and your abilities. Then look to the past for a bit of strength and confidence in what you can do. Doing this helps me to feel like I am standing on firmer ground again. And sometimes I can even find a solution I used for another challenge in the past that I can reuse or readjust to get me out of this situation too.

What is going well in my life though?

It is very easy to get stuck in focusing on the negative things and so they drag you further and further down into self-criticism and negativity. But don’t forget that there are still things that are going well in your life. It may be small things. Or things you often take for granted like a roof over your head, clean

water or three steady meals every day. I find that zooming out in this way helps me a lot to snap out of destructive thought patterns and to feel more level-headed again.

Have a wonderful Sunday and week ahead!

Henrik

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Every day is a good day, some are just a little better than others.

Jeff Garthwaite

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A doctor said to his patient: “You have a slight heart condition, but I wouldn’t worry about it.”

“Really, Doc?” the patient replied. “Well, if you had a slight heart condition I wouldn’t worry about it either.”

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We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world.

Helen Keller

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She said:

I have five siblings; three sisters and two brothers.

One night I was chatting with my Mom about how she had changed as a mother from the first born child to the last.

She told me she had mellowed a lot over the years:

“When your oldest sister coughed or sneezed, I called 911 all the time!

But when your youngest brother swallowed a dime? heh heh, I just told him it was coming  out of his allowance.”

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Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.

John Quincy Adams

~~~

The third grade class was being given a course in first aid. The question was asked,

“What would you do if you had a younger sibling who swallowed a house key?”

After a pause, one of the students answered,

“Easy! I’d climb through the window!”

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The best way out is always through.

Robert Frost:

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The Laws Of Golf:

LAW 1: No matter how bad your last shot was, the worst is yet to come. This law does not expire on the 18th hole, since it has the supernatural tendency to extend over the course of a tournament, a summer and, eventually, a life-time.

LAW 2: Your best round of golf will be followed almost immediately by your worst round ever. The probability of the latter increases with the number of people you tell about the former.

LAW 3: Brand new golf balls are water-magnetic. Though this cannot be proven in the lab, it is a known fact that the more expensive the golf ball, the greater its attraction to water.

LAW 4: Golf balls from the same “sleeve” tend to follow one another, particularly out of bounds or into the water (see law three).

LAW 5: Golf balls never bounce off the trees back into play. If one does, the tree is breaking a law of the universe and should be cut down.

LAW 6: No matter what causes a golfer to muff a shot, all his playing partners must solemnly chant ‘You looked up’ or invoke the wrath of the universe.

LAW 7: The higher a golfers handicap, the more qualified he deems himself as an instructor.

LAW 8: The person you would most hate to lose too will always be the one who beats you.

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Optimism is essential to achievement and it is also the foundation of courage and of true progress.

Nicholas Murray Butler

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Jon was walking in the city, when he was accosted by a particularly dirty and shabby-looking bum who asked him for a couple of dollars for dinner. Jon took out his wallet, extracted two dollars and asked, “If I gave you this money, will you take it and buy whiskey?”

“No, I stopped drinking years ago,” the bum said.

“Will you use it to gamble?”

“I don’t gamble. I need everything I can get just to stay alive.”

“Will you spend the money on greens fees at a golf course?”

“Are you NUTS! I haven’t played golf in 20 years!”

Jon said, “Well, I’m not going to give you two dollars. Instead, I’m going to take you to my home for a terrific dinner cooked by my wife.”

The bum was astounded. “Won’t your wife be furious with you for doing that? I know I’m dirty, and I probably smell pretty bad.”

“Hey, man, that’s OK!” Jon responded, “I just want her to see what a man looks like who’s given up drinking, gambling, and golf!”

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Every single day is a good day no matter how bright or dark it is, because it always brings an opportunity to start a positive beginning in your life.    

Edmond Mbiaka

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Enjoy your life

“Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness.”

Frank Tyger

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One of things that comes with retirement is more time to reflect on our choices. I don’t mean just the “what am I going to today” choices but also how do I chose to see my world.

Lately I have not been as involved in the activities open to me as I once was. I miss the action but more importantly I miss the fellowship that comes with sharing experiences with friends and acquaintances. I plan to reengage as my health improves but I know I will never be able to do all the things I use to do.

I know that I do not have to sacrifice happiness because of lifestyle changes, I just have stay aware of what makes me happy. As I thought about my options remembered a piece written by Marc Chernoff that dealt with happiness opportunities and as usual I found his thoughts to be useful. Here are excerpts from his article that you might find interesting

Habits of Highly Happy People

Be a Part of Something You Believe In – This could be anything.  People may take an active role in their local city council, find refuge in religious faith, join a social club supporting causes they believe in, or find passion in their careers.  In each case the physiological outcome is the same.  They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in.  This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives.

Share Time with Friends and Family – A happy life is a life shared with friends and family.  The stronger the personal relationships are and the higher the frequency of interaction, the happier a person will be.

Reflect on the Good – Quite often people concentrate too much of their attention on negative outcomes and leave no time to positively reflect on their successes.  A continuous general awareness of your daily successes can have a noticeably positive affect on your overall emotional happiness.

Exploit the Resources You DO Have Access To – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness.  How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy?  The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have.  Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it.

Use Personal Strengths to Get Things Done – Everyone possesses unique personal strengths.  We all have different talents and skill sets.  Emotional happiness comes naturally to those who use their strengths to get things done. 

Savor the Natural Joy of Simple Pleasures – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free.  They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times.  It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love.  Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.

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Every now and then, when the world sits just right,

a gentle breath of heaven  fills my soul with delight…

Hazelmarie “Mattie” Elliott

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Bubba and Billy Bob, who are from Tennessee, travel to Kentucky to visit a relative.  They are walking along the street, and they see a sign on a store which reads, “Suits $5.00 each, shirts $2.00 each, trousers $2.50 per pair.”

Bubba says to his pal, “Billy Bob, “Look here!  We could buy a whole gob of these, take ’em back to Tennessee, sell ’em to our friends, and make a fortune.  Now when we go in there, you be quiet, okay? Just let me do the talkin’ ’cause if they hear your accent, they might think we’re ignorant, and not wanna sell that stuff to us. Now, I’ll talk in a slow Kentucky drawl so’s they don’t know.”

They go in and Bubba says with his best fake Kentucky drawl, “I’ll take 50 of them suits at $5.00 each, 100 of them there shirts at $2.00 each, and 50 pairs of them there trousers at $2.50 each. I’ll back up my pickup and …….”

The owner of the shop interrupts, “Ya’ll are from Tennessee, ain’t yah?”

“Well…yeah,” says a surprised Bubba………  “How come you know that?”

The owner says, “Because this is a dry-cleaners.”

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“There’s an old saying – There’s No Place Like Home. Well, I went in the house next door, and it was very similar.”

Geoffrey Parfitt

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A young man called his mother and announced excitedly that he had just met the woman of his dreams.  He asked her about what he should do next. His mother had an idea:

“Why don’t you send her flowers, and on the card invite her to your place for a home-cooked meal?”

He thought this was a great strategy and arranged a date for a week later. His mother called the day after the big date to see how things had gone.

“Oh, mom, the evening was a disaster,” he moaned.

“Why…….didn’t she come over?” asked his mother.

“Oh, she came over alright………but she refused to cook…”

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Why are a wise man and a wise guy opposites?

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An employment interviewer for a big company in New York was talking to an attractive young woman applying for a job. Looking over the application form, the interviewer noticed that the girl had not answered one important question concerning transportation to and from work.

“What about your bus line?” the interviewer asked her.

“I don’t believe I mentioned it,” came the pleased reply, “but it’s a 36C.”

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“Live your life and forget your age.”

Norman Vincent Peale

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A couple with their four-year-old son was dining at one of San Francisco’s sophisticated restaurants.  “What do you suggest for a little boy who likes nothing but hamburgers, hot dogs, and tacos?” asked the mother.

“Los Angeles or San Diego,” sniffed the waiter.

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Of all the people I have met, you are certainly one.

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An aspiring young actor asked a young lady’s father if he could have his daughter’s hand in marriage. The father said, “I would never let my daughter marry an actor.”

The actor said, “Sir, I think you may change your mind if you see me perform. Won’t you at least come and see the play?”

So the father went to see the play, and the next day he called the actor, “You were right. I did change my mind. Go ahead and marry my daughter. You’re no actor.”

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A government which robs Peter to pay Paul can always depend on the support of Paul.

George Bernard Shaw

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Esther broke-up with her boyfriend. She asked her Mother’s advice about returning the gifts he’d given her.

Without a pause, her Mother replied: “Send back the stuffed animals and letters, but keep the jewelry for sentimental reasons.”

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“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.”

Lao Tzu

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

If you’re happy clap your hands

Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.

William Feather

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I hope you had a good week last week. There was so much strife in the news last week along with tragic events that impacted on the lives of far too many that those of us that had good days should rejoice.

At my age I like many spend more time observing life around us than we do living active lives. Too many of us concentrate on our aches and pains as well as rant against things we can’t control. I find that if I focus on counting my blessings there is little room for negative thoughts.

Here is a piece by Betty Killebrew that I appreciate, she sounds like my kind of gal.

If you’re happy and you know it…

Most of us are really great at being miserable and noticing it. Our backs ache, our feet hurt, someone was cross with us and put us in a bad mood—there are many, many levels of knowing you’re not very pleased with life.  What most of us are not good at is noticing—and rejoicing at—those moments when all is well.

Little kids in Sunday school often sing, “If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands.” They all clap their hands and sing with unbounded enthusiasm.  Isn’t it great that their genuine happiness can be expressed so freely?

Years ago there was a period of time when I was miserable.  It was not a long period of time and I no longer know what I thought was so terrible in my life; but I remember sitting in my rocking chair rocking my little boy and being depressed.  Then for some reason I found myself analyzing how I felt and comparing it to how I felt a few days before. I have never forgotten the illumination that dawned on me. I realized I had gone through a relatively long period when I was basically happy and content but I hadn’t even thought about that wonderful state and I hadn’t really even enjoyed it.  I vowed if I ever felt happy again I would make the most of it. A couple of days later the tides of time did return me to happiness and I did remember to realize it.

I was young back then and now I’m old but I still make a fool out of myself enjoying my happy days. I smile, I chatter, I hum, sing and whistle and most of all, I’m happy and I know it.

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My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it’s on your plate.

Thornton Wilder

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A tourist was admiring the necklace worn by a Seminole Indian on one of the local Florida reservation tours.

“What is it made of?” she asked. “Alligator’s teeth,” the Indian replied. “I suppose,” She said patronizingly, “that they mean as much to you as pearls do to us.”

“Well no, not really” he objected. “Anybody can open an oyster.”

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“We do not see things as they are; we see things as we are.”

Talmud

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I was self-conscious about going to the gym, because I thought the pounds I had put on would make me stand out among the spandex-clad regulars. I chose a treadmill in the corner so I’d be inconspicuous.

However, as I exercised, my worst fears came true. At least a dozen people turned to stare at me periodically. I thought it might be my imagination, but then one woman even squinted to get a better look.

Mortified, I stepped off the machine to leave. When I turned around, I realized that the gym’s only wall clock had been hanging just inches above my head.

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Hlade’s Law: “If you have a difficult task, give it to a lazy person — they will find an easier way to do it.”

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He said: Tiring of the same old buzz cut from the base barber at Fort Dix, New Jersey, I went into town to get my haircut. The hairdresser noticed my accent and asked where I was from.

“Trinidad,” I said.

“Is that in Arabia?”

“The Caribbean.”

She laughed, “Sorry, I never was very good at geometry.”

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You know that little indestructible black box that is used on planes, why can’t they make the whole plane out of the same stuff?

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A story concerns itself with a wholesaler in New York who sent a letter to the postmaster of a small mid-western town. He asked for the name of a honest lawyer who would take a collection case against a local debtor who had refused to pay for a shipment of the wholesaler’s goods. He got this reply:

“Dear Sir:

I am the postmaster of this village and received your letter. I am also an honest lawyer and ordinarily would be pleased to accept a case against a local debtor. In this case, however, I also happen to be the person you sold those crummy goods to. I received your demand to pay and refused to honor it. I am also the banker you sent the draft to draw on the merchant, and I sent that back with a note stating that the merchant had refused to pay. And if I were not, for the time being, substituting for the pastor of our local church, I would tell you just what I thought of your claim.”

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Ever notice that people who spend money on beer, cigarettes, and lottery tickets are always complaining about being broke and not feeling well?

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He said: When I worked for the security department of a large retail store, my duties included responding to fire and burglar alarms. A side door of the building was wired with a security alarm, because it was not supposed to be used by customers. Nevertheless they found the convenience of the exit tempting. Even a sign with large red letters, warning “Alarm will sound if opened,” failed to deter people from using it.

One day, after attending to a number of shrieking alarms, I placed a small handmade sign on the door that totally eliminated the problem: “Wet paint.”

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Never trust a man who says he’s the boss at home. He probably lies about other things too.

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A kind-hearted fellow was walking through Central Park in New York and was astonished to see an old man, fishing rod in hand, fishing over a beautiful bed of lilies. “Tsk Tsk!” said the passerby to himself. “What a sad sight. That poor old man is fishing over a bed of flowers. I’ll see if I can help.”

So the kind fellow walked up to the old man and asked, “What are you doing, my friend?” “Fishin’, sir.” “Fishin’, eh. Well how would you like to come have a drink with me?” The old man stood put his rod away and followed the kind stranger to the corner bar. He ordered a large glass of beer and a fine cigar. His host, the kind fellow, felt good about helping the old man, and he asked, “Tell me, old friend, how many did you catch this morning?” The old fellow took a long drag on the cigar, blew a careful smoke ring and replied, “You are the sixth today, sir!”

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We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.

Frederick Keonig

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

A fresh start

“You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life’.”

Wayne Dyer

Fresh-Start

I had a big day yesterday with another in the works for today. So I will again leave you with a Daily from yesteryear.

Ray’s Daily first published on July 8, 2008

Lately a few of our readers have told me how hard it is to walk away from the burdens they carry. I wonder sometimes if we just are conditioned to feel like every minute must be filled with duty, responsibility and reflection. I also find that many of the people I spend time with are locked into their world and just don’t know how to break out of it, unfortunately many of these good people are unhappy and if the truth be known are lonely as well. Well today I have some good news I found the following piece written by Scott Young a university student who writes about productivity, habits and self-improvement. He reminds us that it is perfectly alright to devote some of our time to what he suggests are unproductive pursuits. I don’t totally agree with the unproductive label for I think what he is offering to us is the opportunity to devote some vital time to our effort to recharge and enjoy life. Here is what he wrote:

The Art of Laziness – How to Be Happily Unproductive

  1. Get a Hobby – Pick up a creative activity that doesn’t have any goals attached. This is something that you enjoy doing, but doesn’t have the looming deadlines, schedule or to-do lists that is common to your workplace. I know corporate executives that manage to squeeze twenty minutes a day into their hobby and love it.
  2. Learn a Skill – Learning can be incredibly enjoyable when there is no GPA, performance evaluations or letter grades. Try learning a new language, take up martial arts or learn public speaking.
  3. Store Opportunities – How often do you see a flyer for an event or activity, but dismiss it because you don’t have the time? My suggestion is to save those interesting activities so that you can apply them when you do have time. Prepare opportunities for your time off in advance.
  4. Write Your Book – I’ve heard statistics that say 8 out of 10 people would like to write a book in their lifetime. Perhaps now is the time to start working on the first draft. I’ve found personal projects like these can be an enjoyable diversion from the externally imposed goals of work or school.
  5. Exercise – If you don’t like running or going to the gym, don’t force yourself. But there are many different interesting sports and activities that can move your body. Exercising can releases hormones in your brain which improve your mood.
  6. Always Have a Book – Unsatisfied with channel flipping? Having a book (not just reading blogs) requires you to use your brain. Light reading can be a great way to stay engaged without burning yourself out.
  7. Use Your Social Circle – Conversing with friends is actually a fairly complex mental task, requiring you to read signals and body language, think fast and respond to comments.
  8. Games – Games have been around long before Nintendo came around. The prevalence of games in most cultures is probably because playing games is a challenging mental task that produces a state of flow. Learning and playing a game can provide an engaging environment without the stress.
  9. Create Something – Creativity is often seen as having good ideas. But if you look at the root word of creativity, create, then creativity can be seen as simply building something new. Pick something small, but meaningful, to create. Spending an hour or two working building something can be incredibly rewarding and enjoyable.
  10. Appreciate – I’m sure I’m not alone in that I like listening to music to relax. Improving upon this would be trying to go deeper into the music you are listening or the art you are looking at. Try to appreciate how different elements work together and build on each other. This can be a more engaging experience than simply building off your first impression.
  11. Be in the Now – Focus on whatever you are experiencing in the moment. This sounds trivial at first, but it is actually incredibly difficult to sustain. Being in the now is what Eckhart Tolle believes to be the secret to happiness. Concentrating on your muscles, senses or the environment around you takes mental effort when buffeted by distracting thoughts.
  12. Work on Yourself – I’m sure few of us can claim that 100% of our time is used exactly how we would like it to be. Commitments with work, family and school can mean that a sizable portion of your time is working on goals that aren’t entirely your own. Spending your free time working on yourself, your habits, your goals and your projects can take more energy but can ultimately make your free time more rewarding.

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“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.”

Alan Cohen

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A grandmother was pushing her grandchild around Wal-Mart in a buggy. Each time she put something in the basket, she would say, “And here’s something for you, Diploma” or, “This will make a cute little outfit for you, Diploma” and so on.

Eventually, a bewildered shopper who had heard all this, finally asked, “Why do you keep calling your grandchild Diploma?”

The grandmother replied, “I sent my daughter to college and this is what she came home with!”

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“People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves, they have the first secret of success.”

Norman Vincent Peale

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My wife was in labor with our first child. Things were going pretty well when suddenly, she began to shout, “Shouldn’t, couldn’t, wouldn’t, didn’t, can’t!”

“Doctor, what’s wrong with my wife?!”

“Nothing. She’s just having contractions.”

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A bill collector came to my house the other day, so I gave him a huge stack of old bills.

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A gentleman was having some physical problems and his doctor told him that he had to drink warm water with Epsom salts one hour before breakfast. At the end of a week he returned and the doctor asked if he was feeling better. The man said that he actually felt worse.

“Did you drink warm salt water an hour before breakfast each day?” the Doc asked.

“No,” replied the man somberly, letting out a sigh. “I could only do about 15 minutes!”

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Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.

Carol Burnett

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After a trial had been going on for three days, Finley, the man accused of committing the crimes, stood up and approached the judge’s bench.  “Your Honor, I would like to change my plea from ‘innocent’ to ‘guilty’ of the charges.”

The judge angrily banged his fist on the desk. “If you’re guilty, why didn’t you say so in the first place and save this court a lot of time and inconvenience?” he demanded.

Finley looked up wide-eyed and stated, “Well, when the trial started I thought I was innocent, but that was before I heard all the evidence against me.”

~~~

To know the road ahead, ask those coming back.

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Because my mother had a habit of losing her cordless phone, I bought her a phone with a clip on it, so she could attach it directly to her belt.

A few days later, I walked into my mother’s home and found her standing in the middle of the living room, halfway dressed. That didn’t strike me as odd so much as the fact that she was holding her pants to the side of her head and speaking into them.

“Don’t look at me that way,” she yelled. “The phone started ringing and I couldn’t figure out how to undo this stupid clip!”

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I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.

J.B. Priestly

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Live Fully

I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.

Walt Disney

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Those of you who know me know I am a big advocate of choosing happiness. I really believe it is a choice that is made whenever we encounter events in our lives. We can either take what happens as something we can deal with or something that will take us down.

I have found that stopping to spend time agonizing over something gone wrong serves no useful purpose. Time moves on and we can move with it allowing us new opportunities for things too improve.

I recently read an article by Marc Chernoff which included a section on wholeness versus focusing exclusively on happiness. I think what he says makes sense so I wanted to share his observations with you, here they are:

The secret to a fulfilling life is wholeness, not happiness

Pursuing wholeness comes down to accepting and embracing all aspects of life – sadness, frustration, pain, failure and happiness, as well as realizing that all these things are equally as important for a balanced, fulfilling and truly happy experience. It’s about understanding that life is not just a bowl of cherries, and that in order to grow and learn, we rely on the harsh realities of life.

In fact, even though it’s hard, we need to be grateful for these things. Rather than trying to hide from adversities, we need to embrace them…Because we know that they will make us stronger, more passionate, motivated, versatile, confident, resilient, capable and ultimately more whole as individuals – as well as adding more meaning and deeper fulfillment to our lives.

How to strive for wholeness

In order to get the most out of your pursuit for wholeness, the following are some key things to do in your daily life:

  • Embrace rather than avoid life’s adversities. Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them.  Joke about your troubles and gather strength from them.  Have fun with the challenges you face and then conquer them.
  • Rather than shutting out or suppressing negative emotions, allow yourself to really feel them, so you can deal with them. Take full, unhindered control of your emotions, so your emotions do not control you behind your back.
  • Find peace with yourself and your past. Rather than remaining angry or hurt throughout your life, choose to forgive yourself and others, and try to actually appreciate the experiences for what they have taught you.
  • Proactively identify knowledge gaps in your life experience and take steps to fill them, even if it requires you to stretch your comfort zone.
  • Shift some of your attention away from what you want, and refocus it on what others need.

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Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.

Marilu Henner

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There are two polite people having dinner together. On the table there is a dish with one big piece of fish and one small piece of fish.

They politely say to each other: “You may choose first.”

“No, you may choose first.” And this goes on for a while.

Then the first person says: “OK, I’ll take first.” And he takes the BIG piece of fish.

The second person: “Why did you take the big piece? That’s not polite!”

The first person says: “Which piece would *you* have taken?”

The second person replies: “Why, I would have taken the SMALL piece, of course.”

The first person says: “Well, that’s what you have now!”

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The beaten path is the safest, but the traffic’s terrible.

Jeff Taylor

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The class was studying state capitals. The teacher asked one of her pupils, “What’s the nation’s capital?”

Little Johnny replied, “Washington DC”

She then asked, “What does the ‘DC’ stand for?”

Little Johnny added, “Oh, I know that!  Dot com.”

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Why does mineral water that ‘has trickled through mountains for centuries have a ‘use by’ date?

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How To Tell If You’re In New York……..

Your doorman is Russian, your grocer is Korean, your deli man is Israeli, your building super is Italian, your laundry guy is Chinese, your favorite bartender is Irish, your favorite diner owner is Greek, the watch seller on your corner is Senegalese, your last cabbie was Pakistani, your newsstand guy is Indian, and your favorite falafel guy is Egyptian.

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What do people in China call their good plates?

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Ten Things a Mom Doesn’t Want to Hear

  1. I swallowed a goldfish.
  2. Your lipstick works better than crayons.
  3. Does grape juice leave a stain?
  4. The principal called…
  5. But DAD says that word all the time.
  6. What’s it cost to fix a window?
  7. Has anyone seen my earthworms?
  8. I painted your shoes pretty, huh Mommy?
  9. The dog doesn’t like dressing up in your clothes.
  10. I’m moving out.

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For as long as I can remember I’ve had amnesia.

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An Arab diplomat visiting the US for the first time was being wined and dined by the State Department.

The Grand Emir was unused to the salt in American foods (French fries, cheeses, salami, anchovies, etc.) and was constantly sending his manservant, Abdul, to fetch him a glass of water. Time and again, Abdul would scamper off and return with a glass of water, but then came the time when he returned empty-handed.

“Abdul, you son of an ugly camel, where is my water?” demanded the Grand Emir.

“A thousand pardons, O Illustrious One,” stammered the wretched Abdul, “but a man is sitting on the well.”

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He’s the kind of person you can tell if he’s lying by looking him in the eyes. If they’re open, he’s lying.

Lawrence

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Myron Cohen said his mother was very resourceful.  For instance, he recalled that when their table cloth became frayed she would cut it up into smaller pieces and make napkins.  When they became frayed she cut them up into handkerchiefs.  And when they became frayed, she sewed them all together and made another tablecloth.

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“In the long run – everyone is different, but we are all human. Everyone deserves love no matter what they look like, everyone needs faith in their life, hope in their heart, and love to give for otherwise life will be terrible. Everyone makes mistakes, NO ONE is perfect (yes that means YOU reading this and it means ME as well). I believe we all need to be more accepting, less judgmental, more loving, less bitter, and more willing to look past the flaws at the person inside.”

Megan Wilson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Things are looking pretty good

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.

Willie Nelson

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Yesterday I again realized that despite all the polarization we see around us these days, some of it bordering on hate, things are really OK close to home. The weekend showers brought us a cool morning surrounded by a rainbow of flowers. When I got to the gym for my morning workout I was encircled by friendly good people. Then it was on to the store and more smiling faces.

All in all it was a pleasant change from disturbing global events. It is not easy sometimes these days to stay positive, but if we don’t we become part of the problem. Too many folks concentrate so much on finding fault that they miss what the world has to offer them every day. What about you? If you need appreciation help read the following.

Find a Release

by: K.C. Leong

Open your eyes. What do you see? Do you see the crowds of people walking around? Look at their faces. Curious looks, snobs, anger, expressionless looks, looks of concentration. Did you notice the person that was smiling at you? Look again. See the trees waving to you in greetings?

Concentrate now on your hearing. What do you hear? Traffic? Discussions on the latest gossip? People on the cellular phones that are trying to compete with the noise? Cursing and swearing? Or the radio / television of your neighbors? But do you hear the songs of praises the birds in the day sings for you, or the lullaby the insects orchestrate for you in the night?

Now smell the air. Exhausts? Odors you feel repulsive? Smell again. Concentrate this time. You will find the fragrance of the perfect blossom.

Focus your senses to your skin. Feel the heat? The humidity? But did you not also notice the breeze that is gently trying to cool you? Feel the frost of the winter, biting through all your insulation. Again feel the warmth that the sun is wrapping around you in a warm embrace. And the warmth that is already within you that your heart is circulating.

There is always comfort around us if you know where to look. There is too much distractions in this society. Focus your senses in the correct way and you will find a release.

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You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.

Joyce Meyer

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I was in the airport VIP lounge en route to Seattle a couple of weeks ago. While in there, I noticed Bill Gates sitting comfortably in the corner, enjoying a drink. I was meeting a very important client who was also flying to Seattle, but she was running a little bit late.

Well, being a straightforward kind of guy, I approached the Microsoft chairman, introduced myself, and said, “Mr. Gates, I wonder if you would do me a favour.”

“Yes?”

“I’m sitting right over there,” pointing to my seat at the bar, “and I’m waiting on a very important client. Would you be so kind when she arrives as to come walk by and just say, ‘Hi, Rubin,’?”

“Sure.”

I shook his hand and thanked him and went back to my seat. About ten minutes later, my client showed up. We ordered a drink and started to talk business. A couple of minutes later, I felt a tap on my shoulder. It was Bill Gates.

“Hi, Rubin,” he said.

I replied, “Bug off, Gates, I’m in an important meeting.”

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Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. It comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve learned something from yesterday.

John Wayne

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For their anniversary, a couple went out for a romantic dinner. Their teenage daughters said they would fix a dessert and leave it waiting. When they got home, they saw that the dining room table was beautifully set with china, crystal and candles, and there was a note that read:

“Your dessert is in the refrigerator. We are staying with friends, so go ahead and do something we wouldn’t do!”

“I suppose,” the husband responded dryly, “we could clean the house.”

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The best is yet to be.

Robert Browning

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My friend’s sister was to be married on short notice but still wanted an elaborate wedding. The invitations were ready to be mailed when someone noticed that there were no inserted cards inviting guests to the reception. Undaunted, the mother of the bride typed up a note, made 280 copies and enclosed one with each formal invitation.

Family and friends were surprised to read: “Conception immediately following the ceremony in the grand Ballroom of the Holiday Inn. “Everyone is invited.”

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Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.

Benjamin Franklin

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Morris Siegel, the owner of a small kosher New York deli, was being questioned by an IRS agent about his tax return. He had reported a net profit of $60,000 for the year.

“Why don’t you people leave me alone?” the deli owner said. “I work like a dog, everyone in my family helps out, the place is only closed three days a year. And you want to know how I made $60,000?”

“It’s not your income that bothers us,” the agent said. “It’s these business travel deductions of $125,000. You listed ten trips to Israel for you and your wife.”

“Oh, that?” the owner said smiling. “Well….we also deliver.”

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A good heart is better than all the heads in the world.

Edward Bulwer-Lytton:

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The Hebrew school teacher was describing how Lot’s wife looked back and turned into a pillar of salt, when little David interrupted.

“My Mommy looked back once while she was DRIVING,” he announced triumphantly, “and she turned into a telephone pole!”

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Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up.

Allen Klein

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

Here I go again

Good, better, best. Never let it rest. ‘Til your good is better and your better is best.

St. Jerome

Do-better

The long holiday weekend is over. Many of the planned Independence celebrations in our city were canceled or postponed due to rain. The bad news was that the inclement weather did not stop me from over eating and since I even skipped my exercises I suffered from weight loss reversal.

The only positive note on this slovenly behavior now that I hit bottom I can work my way back up. So it is a new day and a new beginning. So I am off to start exercising and moving to smaller healthier plates. I know I can do better if I quit excusing myself from doing what is good for me.

I heavily edited the following article to reduce the space, I hope the author will forgive me for eliminating many of her attributions. Since it offers personal barrier busters I thought you might like it as well.

5 Habits To Get Over Self-Limiting Beliefs

By Gwen Moran

Sometimes the biggest thing holding you back from greater success is something you might not even be aware of. They’re called “iceberg beliefs,” and they could be major obstacles that you don’t even realize. To root out these beliefs and get rid of them, try these five steps.

Check your language

A big warning sign that you have an iceberg is when you say things like, “That’s impossible” or “I have to.” When you’re feeling fear or resistance about something, it could be a sign that you have an underlying belief that is triggering those reactions.

Look for Roadblocks

Where do you feel “stuck” in your life? Where do you overreact emotionally? Exploring areas with which you are dissatisfied and looking at why you don’t make changes can be a good way to identify self-limiting beliefs. Icebergs typically fall into three categories:

Achievement. This is where you believe you have to get everything right and perform perfectly, or that you have to do everything yourself. Neither of those beliefs are possible to achieve. Social. Beliefs here are often about a duty to make others happy or to perform certain roles for others. You may feel that you have to subvert your own needs to make others happy. Control. Here, the beliefs are typically chasing after impossible levels of control in your life and believing life will be better when you achieve them. You spend energy trying to achieve the impossible.

Suspend disbelief

Your icebergs may have been formed when you were a child, so they could be pretty well-entrenched and hard to shake. But once you find them, you need to give them a rest, even for brief periods, by suspending your disbelief that you can get beyond them. Once you’ve silenced the belief, ask yourself how you can do the thing that you want to do but feel you can’t.

“If you say, ‘How would I?’ your brain will go to work and find all the information that would back that up, and so that puts you in the position of where you can, or at least you can find the solution to, whatever you’re facing.”

Set a stretch goal

Once you’ve started mapping out a way to get to where you want to go, the next step is to set a stretch goal toward what you want to achieve. Choose a goal that will help move you in the direction of your overall objective, but make sure it’s slightly out of your comfort zone. You may not achieve it at first, but the more you work toward them, the more confidence you will build—and confidence is the enemy of self-limiting beliefs.

Get used to being off autopilot

Walking around with self-limiting beliefs is like being on autopilot, letting some other force tell you how to maneuver in the world. When you start to identify and eliminate those beliefs, it can be very liberating.

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Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.

Samuel Beckett

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A Texan was taking a taxi tour of London and was in a hurry.

As they went by the Tower of London the cabbie explained what it was and that construction of it started in 1346 and was completed in 1412.

The Texan replied, “Shoot, a little ol’ tower like that?  In Houston we’d have that thing up in two weeks!”

Next they passed the House of Parliament – started in 1544 and completed in 1618.

“Well, boy, we put up a bigger one than that in Dallas and it only took a year!”

As they passed Westminster Abbey the cabbie was silent.

“Whoa!  What’s that over there?” asked the Texan.

Replies the cabbie, scratching his head. . . .

“Now that, I don’t know; it sure wasn’t there yesterday!”

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“It’s not me who can’t keep a secret; it’s the people I tell that can’t.”

Abraham Lincoln.

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A kind-hearted Air Force Sgt. saw a man struggling to change a tire alongside 76/378 near Sumter, and pulled over to see whether he could help. The man had a very red face, and a dark smear across it where he’d wiped off sweat with dirty hands. His tie was undone and his shirt collar askew, and it was clear he had also wiped his hands on his once-white shirt.

Close to him stood an immaculately neat woman who was speaking in highly agitated tones. “Hello, there,” said the motorist. “Say, I’ve changed a lot of tires maybe I can help you.”

“You sure can,” the man with the flat tire replied wearily.

“My wife, Marilyn, is an expert, too. If you will just take care of arguing with her about how this tire ought to be changed, I will concentrate on the dirty work and get the job done.”

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Ours is a world where people don’t know what they want and are willing to go through hell to get it.

Don Marquis

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Teacher:  According to science, what happens when a body is immersed in water?

Student:  Usually the phone rings.

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It’s never crowded along the extra mile.

Wayne Dyer

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Mr. Smith was a traveling salesman and frequent flyer, so he was always very, VERY careful to mark his luggage so that no one would mistakenly take his bags. He always did this with bright ribbons and tape, so he was quite surprised to see his bags grabbed by a well dressed man when he got to the luggage carousel.

Mr. Smith walked over to the fellow and pointed out the colored ribbons tied to the handle, and the fluorescent tape on the sides.

“I believe that luggage is mine. Were your bags marked like this?” he asked.

“Actually,” the man replied, “I was wondering who did this to my luggage.”

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Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterward.

Vernon Law

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When Brandon’s mother found out she was pregnant, she told the good news to anyone who would listen. But Little Brandon overheard some of his parents’ private conversations.

One day, when Brandon and his mother were shopping, a woman asked the little boy if he was excited about the new baby.

“Yes!” Brandon answered, “and I know what we’re gonna name it, too. If it’s a girl, we’re going to call her Christina, and if it’s another boy we’re going to call it quits!”

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“Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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Enjoy

Live today, for tomorrow it will all be history.

Happy Puppy

My goodness it is July already and the year is already half over. I don’t know about you but I am glad there is still time to get my act together before 2016 ends. I am doing better although after yesterday you wouldn’t think so. I slept past the time I needed to get up for an early meeting, I did not make it to my weekly Kiwanis meeting and had to be home with a cleaning service so I missed my daily exercise.

At least it should be easy to do better today. I have an early appointment with my pulmonologist where I will have the opportunity to demonstrate my breathing skills; they also will check my continuous positive air pressure (CPAP) machine to read my usage history over the last six months. I have been using it religiously, even for naps so I do not expect any punishment.

After that I will be free to begin the preparation for our three day holiday weekend, you see next Monday is our national Independence Day holiday. I do plan on exercising that morning but I am giving Ray’s Daily’s computer the day off so I will not be with you again until July 5th enjoy your weekend.

As you know I am always looking for ways that you and I can do better in our lives so here is a self-help piece that can help us both.

If a dog was your teacher, these are some of the lessons you might learn

  • When loved ones come home, always run to greet them
  • Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride
  • Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face, to be pure ecstasy
  • When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience
  • Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory
  • Take naps and stretch before rising
  • Run romp and play daily
  • Thrive on attention and let people touch you
  • On warm days stop to lie on your back on the grass
  • On hot days drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree
  • When you’re happy dance around and wag your entire body
  • No matter how often you’re scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout,  run right back and make friends
  • Delight in the simple joy of a long walk
  • Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough
  • Be loyal
  • Never pretend to be something you’re not
  • When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.

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Take wrong turns. Talk to strangers. Open unmarked doors. And if you see a group of people in a field, go find out what they are doing. Do things without always knowing how they’ll turn out.

Randall Munroe

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Laws you should know

“The Law of Volunteering” If you dance with a grizzly bear, you had better let him lead.

“The Law of Reality” Never get into fights with ugly people, they have nothing to lose.

“The Law of Motivation” Creativity is great, but plagiarism is faster.

“Boob’s Law” You always find something in the last place you look.

“Weiler’s Law” Nothing is impossible for the man who doesn’t have to do it himself.

“Law of Volunteer Labor” People are always available for work in the past tense.

“Law of Cybernetic Entomology” There is always one more bug.

“Osborne’s Law” Variables won’t; constants aren’t.

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We the people have much to enjoy, share, love, ponder, appreciate, learn, celebrate, anticipate, admire and contribute. Gets you to wondering why we squander so much time and energy on fighting, cheating, killing, envying, hating, torturing and killing each other.

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She said: I returned to my parents’ home to attend a funeral.  At the chapel, my mother led me to a man who looked vaguely familiar.  “Barbara, remember Rabbi Green?” she asked as she left me in his company.

I frantically tried to place him, and suddenly it came to me.  He was the kind man who, five years earlier, had officiated at my grandmother’s funeral.  “It’s good to see you again, Rabbi,” I said.  “Though I wish it weren’t always under such tragic circumstances.”

The rabbi looked perplexed but uttered some words of consolation before he was called away.  A few minutes later, I rejoined my mother. “Imagine,” she whispered, “after all this time, to run into the rabbi who performed your first wedding!”

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He said: I was getting my hair cut at a neighborhood shop, and I asked the barber when would be the best time to bring in my two-year-old son. Without hesitation, the barber answered, “When he’s four.”

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He was advised that a small plane would be waiting to fly him over the fire. The photographer arrived at the airstrip just an hour before sundown. Sure enough, a small Cessna airplane was waiting. He jumped in with his equipment and shouted, ”Let’s go!”

The tense man sitting in the pilot’s seat swung the plane into the wind and soon they were in the air, though flying erratically. ”Fly over the north side of the fire,” said the photographer, ”and make several low-level passes.”

”Why?” asked the nervous pilot.

”Because I’m going to take pictures!” yelled the photographer. ”I’m a photographer, and photographers take pictures.” The pilot replied, ”You mean you’re not the flight instructor?”

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A husband is a man who wishes he had as much fun when he goes on business trips as his wife thinks he does.

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A man was showing his friend a new set of matching golf clubs he had just bought.

“Doctor’s orders,” the man told his friend. “My wife and I have been gaining too much weight and we went to see the doctor about it. He said we needed more exercise, so I joined the country club and bought myself this set of golf clubs.”

“What did you buy your wife?” the friend asked.

The man said, “A new lawn mower.”

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At the mall, women get excited, thrilled, and overjoyed by purchasing the perfect item.

Men experience the same feelings just by finding a close parking space.

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A young man drove his minibike in to a gas station and dismounted. “I’ll need about a pint of gas,” he said to the attendant, “and a few ounces of oil for the motor.”

“Certainly sir,” the attendant said, “And would you also like me to cough into your tires?”

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The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.

Sydney J. Harris

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A concerned Father asked his daughter if her latest beau was serious about their relationship.

“I’ll say he is Daddy,” she replied… “Why just last night  he asked me how much you make, what kind of meals Mom serves, and if you guys are easy to get along with.”

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Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, you ought to set up a life you don’t need to escape from.

Seth Godin

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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