The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.
As you know I have lately had to make some life adjustments. I find it is not easy doing as much as I use to do and I often feel guilty that I am not doing more. Part of my reluctance to commit to too much has been my unreliability. I have decided that it does little good to agonize over my new reality so I was pleased to find a helpful piece published by Marc Chernoff, here it is in part:
Good Decisions You Have Waited Too Long to Make
As you’re moving at the speed of life, it’s easy to overlook the basics – the simple, good decisions that make life sweeter. It’s time to…
Be present. – Being completely present is extremely important – being actively in the ‘here and now’ for yourself and for the ones you love. Fortunately, doing so is an easy thing to accomplish. It’s enough to simply take a few deep breaths, pay attention, and let go of thinking and planning for every other time and place. Just come back to where you are, breathe in, breathe out, and smile. You are right here, right now in this moment we call life, which is in itself a miracle worth paying attention to.
Leave the past behind you. – You act like it’s you against the world, but it’s really just you against yourself. You become a prisoner in your own mind when you cling to the pains of the past. Instead, be free and cling no more. If you’re brave enough to say “goodbye,” life will always reward you with a new “hello.
Make conscious choices. –You’ve learned many things from the path you’ve walked in the past. What do you wish to learn today? What are the possibilities that most interest you now? Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens because of you – it’s what you choose to think, do, and create in each moment.
Start DOING. – Don’t let what you can’t do stop you from what you can do. Do what you can with what you have right now. Stop over-thinking and start DOING!
Give yourself more credit. – What if you started giving yourself more credit? What if, for today, you choose to believe that you have enough, you are enough, and that you’ve come far enough to be worthy? What if, for today, you choose to believe that you’re strong enough, wise enough, kind enough, and loved enough to move forward?
Appreciate the good life you have. – The secret to a good life is to pay more attention to the beginnings than the endings. So many people say they want a new life, but then they take the new one they get every morning for granted. Don’t do this. Don’t wait until your life is almost over to realize how great it has been. The good life begins right now, when you stop wanting a better one.
“Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.”
How to move a computer
- Bone up on your cursing. You will need it later.
- Pick a *good* spot to locate your computer. Don’t be too picky; you will regret having started on this venture soon enough.
- Disconnect all cables, cords, power sources, umbilical cords and plumbing. Look at the black, gray & white spaghetti mess on the floor and sob. Refer to number 1. While you’re at it, it helps to focus on cursing Bill Gates and Steve Jobs for making all this possible.
- Be sure to dust machine off, since it’s been sitting for months in one spot, gathering a dust mound the size of Mt. Rainier. This is especially essential if you have asthma.
- Now that you’ve picked a *good* spot, it’s time to replace all the cables, cords, etc. Make sure it’s in a dark, hard-to-reach location.
- New computers have color-coded plugs and plugins to make assembly easier. This has no bearing on you since your computer is in a dark, hard-to-reach location and they’re all the same color: gray. See number 1.
- Get a flashlight. Look for new batteries for flashlight you’ve left in the junk drawer for months. Go to store to buy new flashlight batteries since you don’t have any. Rule number 1 is coming in handy now.
- While inserting various cords and cables, be sure to drop at least one on the floor behind the desk, where it will take a contortionist to retrieve it.
- Find out that your printer cable is now not long enough to reach the computer (see number 1). Oh well, you didn’t use it that much anyway.
- Once you have all the cables, etc. back in place, turn computer back on.
- Sit, puzzled why computer isn’t working.
- Plug monitor in.
- Ponder why keyboard and mouse don’t work.
- Switch keyboard and mouse plugins.
- Call spouse in to admire your handiwork.
- Spouse informs you that he/she liked it better where it was, and to move it back.
- When asked why you’re banging your head on the monitor, don’t reply. It would only confuse him/her.
There is more to life than increasing its speed.
Two blondes were talking over coffee one morning about men. Susan said, “I can’t understand why men are so afraid of commitment.”
Debbie replied, “Tell me about it! I dated one guy for a year and a half, and I finally had to give him an ultimatum.
“What did you say?” Susan asked
“I just told him, ‘Look, either you tell me your last name, or it’s over!'”
At my age, I’ve begun to regret the sins I did NOT commit.
The telephone solicitor selling basement waterproofing must have thought she’d died and gone to heaven when she reached my very polite and patient son on the phone. At the end of her long sales pitch, she asked, “Do you mind if we send out someone to give you an estimate?”
“Not at all,” my son said.
“When would be a good time?” she asked.
My son answered, “Just as soon as I dig a basement.”
Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.
Robert Louis Stevenson
A guy goes up to this girl in a bar and says, “Would you like to dance?”
The girl says, “I don’t like this song, but even if I did, I wouldn’t dance with you.”
The guy says, “I’m sorry, you must have misunderstood me, I said you look fat in those pants.”
“Did you ever stop to think, and forget to start again?”
Milne (Winnie the Pooh)
Young son: Pop, did you know Mommy thinks you’re perfect?
Father: She does? Wow! How do you know?
Young son: I heard her say it to Mrs. Smith.
Father: When was that?
Young son: Just before she used the word idiot.
“If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.”
Roy T. Bennett
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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