I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.
Those of you who know me know I am a big advocate of choosing happiness. I really believe it is a choice that is made whenever we encounter events in our lives. We can either take what happens as something we can deal with or something that will take us down.
I have found that stopping to spend time agonizing over something gone wrong serves no useful purpose. Time moves on and we can move with it allowing us new opportunities for things too improve.
I recently read an article by Marc Chernoff which included a section on wholeness versus focusing exclusively on happiness. I think what he says makes sense so I wanted to share his observations with you, here they are:
The secret to a fulfilling life is wholeness, not happiness
Pursuing wholeness comes down to accepting and embracing all aspects of life – sadness, frustration, pain, failure and happiness, as well as realizing that all these things are equally as important for a balanced, fulfilling and truly happy experience. It’s about understanding that life is not just a bowl of cherries, and that in order to grow and learn, we rely on the harsh realities of life.
In fact, even though it’s hard, we need to be grateful for these things. Rather than trying to hide from adversities, we need to embrace them…Because we know that they will make us stronger, more passionate, motivated, versatile, confident, resilient, capable and ultimately more whole as individuals – as well as adding more meaning and deeper fulfillment to our lives.
How to strive for wholeness
In order to get the most out of your pursuit for wholeness, the following are some key things to do in your daily life:
- Embrace rather than avoid life’s adversities. Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them. Joke about your troubles and gather strength from them. Have fun with the challenges you face and then conquer them.
- Rather than shutting out or suppressing negative emotions, allow yourself to really feel them, so you can deal with them. Take full, unhindered control of your emotions, so your emotions do not control you behind your back.
- Find peace with yourself and your past. Rather than remaining angry or hurt throughout your life, choose to forgive yourself and others, and try to actually appreciate the experiences for what they have taught you.
- Proactively identify knowledge gaps in your life experience and take steps to fill them, even if it requires you to stretch your comfort zone.
- Shift some of your attention away from what you want, and refocus it on what others need.
Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.
There are two polite people having dinner together. On the table there is a dish with one big piece of fish and one small piece of fish.
They politely say to each other: “You may choose first.”
“No, you may choose first.” And this goes on for a while.
Then the first person says: “OK, I’ll take first.” And he takes the BIG piece of fish.
The second person: “Why did you take the big piece? That’s not polite!”
The first person says: “Which piece would *you* have taken?”
The second person replies: “Why, I would have taken the SMALL piece, of course.”
The first person says: “Well, that’s what you have now!”
The beaten path is the safest, but the traffic’s terrible.
The class was studying state capitals. The teacher asked one of her pupils, “What’s the nation’s capital?”
Little Johnny replied, “Washington DC”
She then asked, “What does the ‘DC’ stand for?”
Little Johnny added, “Oh, I know that! Dot com.”
Why does mineral water that ‘has trickled through mountains for centuries have a ‘use by’ date?
How To Tell If You’re In New York……..
Your doorman is Russian, your grocer is Korean, your deli man is Israeli, your building super is Italian, your laundry guy is Chinese, your favorite bartender is Irish, your favorite diner owner is Greek, the watch seller on your corner is Senegalese, your last cabbie was Pakistani, your newsstand guy is Indian, and your favorite falafel guy is Egyptian.
What do people in China call their good plates?
Ten Things a Mom Doesn’t Want to Hear
- I swallowed a goldfish.
- Your lipstick works better than crayons.
- Does grape juice leave a stain?
- The principal called…
- But DAD says that word all the time.
- What’s it cost to fix a window?
- Has anyone seen my earthworms?
- I painted your shoes pretty, huh Mommy?
- The dog doesn’t like dressing up in your clothes.
- I’m moving out.
For as long as I can remember I’ve had amnesia.
An Arab diplomat visiting the US for the first time was being wined and dined by the State Department.
The Grand Emir was unused to the salt in American foods (French fries, cheeses, salami, anchovies, etc.) and was constantly sending his manservant, Abdul, to fetch him a glass of water. Time and again, Abdul would scamper off and return with a glass of water, but then came the time when he returned empty-handed.
“Abdul, you son of an ugly camel, where is my water?” demanded the Grand Emir.
“A thousand pardons, O Illustrious One,” stammered the wretched Abdul, “but a man is sitting on the well.”
He’s the kind of person you can tell if he’s lying by looking him in the eyes. If they’re open, he’s lying.
Myron Cohen said his mother was very resourceful. For instance, he recalled that when their table cloth became frayed she would cut it up into smaller pieces and make napkins. When they became frayed she cut them up into handkerchiefs. And when they became frayed, she sewed them all together and made another tablecloth.
“In the long run – everyone is different, but we are all human. Everyone deserves love no matter what they look like, everyone needs faith in their life, hope in their heart, and love to give for otherwise life will be terrible. Everyone makes mistakes, NO ONE is perfect (yes that means YOU reading this and it means ME as well). I believe we all need to be more accepting, less judgmental, more loving, less bitter, and more willing to look past the flaws at the person inside.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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