Good, better, best. Never let it rest. ‘Til your good is better and your better is best.
The long holiday weekend is over. Many of the planned Independence celebrations in our city were canceled or postponed due to rain. The bad news was that the inclement weather did not stop me from over eating and since I even skipped my exercises I suffered from weight loss reversal.
The only positive note on this slovenly behavior now that I hit bottom I can work my way back up. So it is a new day and a new beginning. So I am off to start exercising and moving to smaller healthier plates. I know I can do better if I quit excusing myself from doing what is good for me.
I heavily edited the following article to reduce the space, I hope the author will forgive me for eliminating many of her attributions. Since it offers personal barrier busters I thought you might like it as well.
5 Habits To Get Over Self-Limiting Beliefs
By Gwen Moran
Sometimes the biggest thing holding you back from greater success is something you might not even be aware of. They’re called “iceberg beliefs,” and they could be major obstacles that you don’t even realize. To root out these beliefs and get rid of them, try these five steps.
Check your language
A big warning sign that you have an iceberg is when you say things like, “That’s impossible” or “I have to.” When you’re feeling fear or resistance about something, it could be a sign that you have an underlying belief that is triggering those reactions.
Look for Roadblocks
Where do you feel “stuck” in your life? Where do you overreact emotionally? Exploring areas with which you are dissatisfied and looking at why you don’t make changes can be a good way to identify self-limiting beliefs. Icebergs typically fall into three categories:
Achievement. This is where you believe you have to get everything right and perform perfectly, or that you have to do everything yourself. Neither of those beliefs are possible to achieve. Social. Beliefs here are often about a duty to make others happy or to perform certain roles for others. You may feel that you have to subvert your own needs to make others happy. Control. Here, the beliefs are typically chasing after impossible levels of control in your life and believing life will be better when you achieve them. You spend energy trying to achieve the impossible.
Your icebergs may have been formed when you were a child, so they could be pretty well-entrenched and hard to shake. But once you find them, you need to give them a rest, even for brief periods, by suspending your disbelief that you can get beyond them. Once you’ve silenced the belief, ask yourself how you can do the thing that you want to do but feel you can’t.
“If you say, ‘How would I?’ your brain will go to work and find all the information that would back that up, and so that puts you in the position of where you can, or at least you can find the solution to, whatever you’re facing.”
Set a stretch goal
Once you’ve started mapping out a way to get to where you want to go, the next step is to set a stretch goal toward what you want to achieve. Choose a goal that will help move you in the direction of your overall objective, but make sure it’s slightly out of your comfort zone. You may not achieve it at first, but the more you work toward them, the more confidence you will build—and confidence is the enemy of self-limiting beliefs.
Get used to being off autopilot
Walking around with self-limiting beliefs is like being on autopilot, letting some other force tell you how to maneuver in the world. When you start to identify and eliminate those beliefs, it can be very liberating.
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
A Texan was taking a taxi tour of London and was in a hurry.
As they went by the Tower of London the cabbie explained what it was and that construction of it started in 1346 and was completed in 1412.
The Texan replied, “Shoot, a little ol’ tower like that? In Houston we’d have that thing up in two weeks!”
Next they passed the House of Parliament – started in 1544 and completed in 1618.
“Well, boy, we put up a bigger one than that in Dallas and it only took a year!”
As they passed Westminster Abbey the cabbie was silent.
“Whoa! What’s that over there?” asked the Texan.
Replies the cabbie, scratching his head. . . .
“Now that, I don’t know; it sure wasn’t there yesterday!”
“It’s not me who can’t keep a secret; it’s the people I tell that can’t.”
A kind-hearted Air Force Sgt. saw a man struggling to change a tire alongside 76/378 near Sumter, and pulled over to see whether he could help. The man had a very red face, and a dark smear across it where he’d wiped off sweat with dirty hands. His tie was undone and his shirt collar askew, and it was clear he had also wiped his hands on his once-white shirt.
Close to him stood an immaculately neat woman who was speaking in highly agitated tones. “Hello, there,” said the motorist. “Say, I’ve changed a lot of tires maybe I can help you.”
“You sure can,” the man with the flat tire replied wearily.
“My wife, Marilyn, is an expert, too. If you will just take care of arguing with her about how this tire ought to be changed, I will concentrate on the dirty work and get the job done.”
Ours is a world where people don’t know what they want and are willing to go through hell to get it.
Teacher: According to science, what happens when a body is immersed in water?
Student: Usually the phone rings.
It’s never crowded along the extra mile.
Mr. Smith was a traveling salesman and frequent flyer, so he was always very, VERY careful to mark his luggage so that no one would mistakenly take his bags. He always did this with bright ribbons and tape, so he was quite surprised to see his bags grabbed by a well dressed man when he got to the luggage carousel.
Mr. Smith walked over to the fellow and pointed out the colored ribbons tied to the handle, and the fluorescent tape on the sides.
“I believe that luggage is mine. Were your bags marked like this?” he asked.
“Actually,” the man replied, “I was wondering who did this to my luggage.”
Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterward.
When Brandon’s mother found out she was pregnant, she told the good news to anyone who would listen. But Little Brandon overheard some of his parents’ private conversations.
One day, when Brandon and his mother were shopping, a woman asked the little boy if he was excited about the new baby.
“Yes!” Brandon answered, “and I know what we’re gonna name it, too. If it’s a girl, we’re going to call her Christina, and if it’s another boy we’re going to call it quits!”
“Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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