“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
I have a busier than normal day today. I am going to do one of my favorite things; I get to check out a new restaurant that just opened nearby. It is open for breakfast, lunch and dinner and the menu looks great to me.
I also will be joining a large group of special people for a volunteer appreciation luncheon. These folks are members of OASIS and are responsible for enriching the lives of hundreds of Indianapolis children and older adults.
Oh and I will be transmitting my Pacemaker information to a computer in Minnesota where they will process the data a send it to my hear doc verifying that I am still breathing, I am glad I still am.
Rather than leave you with nothing I am including an article written by Justin Criner that I just received:
The 5 Myths of Happiness (you wont be happy till you understand these!)
Everyone believes in happiness, but your beliefs may actually be false. Happiness has many false beliefs. I will outline some of the most prevalent so that you can see them in your life. Once you realize these are myths then you can begin to eliminate them, becoming more happy.
Happiness is time based
Are you waiting for happiness to happen to you? Is there a future time that you will be happy? Will it be after you retire? When you get a new job? When you get married or perhaps divorced? Will it be the WEEKEND, or after 5:00 Pm today? Will it be when you are in a relationship, when you lose weight, make more money, or any other future event? People are waiting for happiness to happen to them. They battle against the bad things in life and they hope that eventually happiness will come. Happiness does not come in the future! Happiness is not time based. There is no amount of time that will create happiness. If you are on this earth for a hundred, or a thousand, or a million years you will not be happy. If you are thinking that at some point in the future you will become happy this is a myth. You can be happy now, but you can not be happy some day, for some day never comes. Happiness is not predicated on time. It happens only in the now.
Happiness is event based
If I asked you “what would make you happy” you might respond with some event. Something happening to you that would create happiness in your life. Events come and go, but they don’t bring happiness with them. Marriage, jobs, vacations, are all events, but will they really make you happy? Have you ever been unhappy in any of these? If you have, this proves that happiness comes from somewhere other than an event.
Happiness is related to “stuff”
Material things are nice. They make life more comfortable. They can be fun, but they don’t bring happiness. Now we probably all know this to some degree, but most of us still live our life as if it is true. You might say “money does not bring happiness” but deep down, in your core, you probably still feel that some degree of happiness comes from money. The truth is that if you are unhappy now, you will be unhappy when you have more stuff. When you have more stuff there will be more taxes, more bills, more insurance, more things breaking, more problems. Happiness and stuff are mutually exclusive. They are not related.
Happiness comes from external sources
You may have noticed that the first 3 myths are external “things.” They are things that are outside of you, or yourself. While external things can help you to achieve happiness, true happiness comes from inside. Its true that a good relationship can seem to bring happiness, but first you must be happy inside. If you are an unhappy person then the good relationship will only carry you so far. Have you ever been with a good person and been unhappy? I know I have. I have had inner turmoil when in a great relationship. Even families can be a source of unhappiness. In other words, if the happiness is not first coming from inside of you, then you can’t receive it from external things. So you must have happiness internally. If you are looking for some external source to make you happy, or to bring happiness in your life then you will never find it for any lasting amount of time.
Fighting BAD creates happiness
“Bad” things happen every day in life. Most people fight against them. This means that they get upset, stress, hate the situation, talk bad about it, and resist it with their heart or soul. You can fight “bad things” as much as you want, but fighting bad does not create good. Said another way – dwelling on the bad does not create happiness. So your life has difficult things in it. So what! Every life does, but your life also has great things in it. Happiness is appreciated by dwelling in the good things. You have a choice. You can chose to dwell on what sucks, or dwell on what’s amazing. Its up to you. Usually when we dwell on what sucks we are fighting against it. We are talking about why it sucks, why we don’t like it, and how rotten it is. This does not create happiness. This creates more misery. Its called complaining, and complaining does not create happiness. So why fight bad, just enjoy the good.
“To be kind to all, to like many and love a few, to be needed and wanted by those we love, is certainly the nearest we can come to happiness.”
The new Supermarket near our house has an automatic water mister to keep the produce fresh. Just before it goes on, you hear the sound of distant thunder and the smell of fresh rain. When you approach the milk cases, you hear cows mooing and witness the scent of fresh hay. When you approach the egg case, you hear hens cluck and cackle and the air is filled with the pleasing aroma of bacon and eggs frying. The veggie department features the smell of fresh buttered corn.
I don’t buy toilet paper there any more.
Two Wrongs Don’t Make A Right, But Three Lefts Do.
- As I let go of my feelings of guilt, I am in touch with my inner sociopath.
- I have the power to channel my imagination into ever-soaring levels of suspicion and paranoia.
- I assume full responsibility for my actions, except the ones that are someone else’s fault.
- I no longer need to punish, deceive, or compromise myself, unless I want to stay employed.
- In some cultures what I do would be considered normal.
- Having control over myself is almost as good as having control over others.
- My intuition nearly makes up for my lack of self-judgment.
- I honor my personality flaws for without them I would have no personality at all.
- I am grateful that I am not as judgmental as all those censorious, self-righteous people around me.
- I am willing to make the mistakes if someone else is willing to learn from them.
Goodness is a special kind of truth and beauty. It is truth and beauty in human behavior.
It doesn’t make sense. You’re flying at 500 m.p.h., 30,000 feet in the air, and the pilot tells you to feel free to roam around the plane. But when you’re on the ground taxiing to the gate at 1 m.p.h., he tells you to remain seated for your own safety.
Jill: I had to take the bus the other day, and a gentleman asked his young son to give up his seat “for the lady” – ME!
Mary: Well, that was just common courtesy, right?
Jill: I don’t know. The boy was sitting on his father’s lap!
I know what men want. Men want to be really, really close to someone who will leave them alone.
In a software design meeting, we were using typical technical jargon to discuss a data exchange interface with a vendor. One co-worker said the programming we had ordered was delayed because the vendor was suffering from a “severe nonlinear waterfowl issue.” Curious, the team leader raised his eyebrows and asked, “What exactly is that?”
The programmer replied, “They don’t have all their ducks in a row.”
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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