“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
As you know I get concerned about folks who don’t give themselves enough credit. We all need to like ourselves and quit putting ourselves down. Here are some ideas we all could use to boost our self-appreciation. I got them from a post entitled How to find the good in yourself published on the Positively Present blog.
THINK DIFFERENTLY. Unfortunately, it’s sometimes easier to be hard on yourself than it is to lift yourself up, but if you want to love yourself, you have to change your mindset. You have to believe that you’re worthy of love, and you have to actively seek out good things about who you are. Changing the way you think about yourself is the first (and most essential!) step to finding the good in yourself.
APPRECIATE THE PAST. One of the hardest parts of self-love is not beating yourself up for things you’ve done, said, been in the past. We all have things we’re not super proud of, but clinging to these things can get in the way of finding the good in the present moment. If you struggle to embrace your past, remember this: everything that happened in the past made you the person you am today. That, in itself, is a reason to appreciate it.
GIVE IN TO YOUR DESIRES. Of course, not every desire should be indulged, but, when it comes to finding the good in yourself, it’s important to treat yourself to the things in life that make you happy. Consider what inspires you, delights you, or fills you with excitement. These are the things you love, and recognizing these can give you insight into who you are — and show you what you deserve to indulge in.
SET YOUR GUILT FREE. We all make mistakes — that’s a part of life. Looking at them (and overanalyzing them) can really make you cringe, so why dabble in that negativity? Instead, recognize what you’ve done wrong, resolve to change your behavior in the future, and move forward with the knowledge that you are a self-aware and thoughtful person. Guilt is a huge waste of time, and the less of it you have in your life, the more self-love you’ll cultivate. (Another way to avoid guilt: ask yourself before you do something you’re unsure about, “Will I feel guilty about this later?”)
BE PROUD OF YOURSELF. It can be tough to be proud of yourself without feeling as if you’re boastful, but it’s okay to remind yourself how awesome you are every once and awhile. It’s okay to admit that you did an amazing job on something or accomplished something you never thought you could. When you celebrate yourself and your achievements, you’re focusing on the really good things about you — and that’s going to make self-love a lot easier!
Finding the good in yourself can be an uphill battle at times, but never, ever give up on the idea of self-love. When you love, appreciate, and respect who you are, everything in your life changes for the better. Your relationships are stronger. Your work is more brilliant. You feel braver and better and more in love with simply being you, just as you are.
“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”
Michel de Montaigne
Phil and Jill had been married for many years but now were in divorce court. The judge asked, “Phil, is it true that the last three years of your marriage, you did not speak to Jill?”
Phil replies, “Yes Judge, that is correct.”
“And how do you explain this unusual conduct?” the judge inquires.
Phil replies, “I didn’t want to interrupt her, Your Honor. Momma always said that’s impolite!”
A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.
A farmer and his hired man were eating breakfast at a local diner. Thinking of all the work they had to get done that day, and that stopping for meals wasted time, the farmer told the hired hand that he might as well go ahead and eat his dinner here, too. The hired man didn’t say a word, but gladly filled his plate a second time and proceeded to eat. After awhile, the farmer said, “You know, we’ve got so much work to do today, you might as well eat your supper now, too.” Again, the hired man didn’t respond, but refilled his plate a third time and continued eating. Finally, after finishing his third plate of food, the hired man pushed back his chair and began to take off his shoes. “Hey, what are doing?” the farmer asked. The hired man replied, “I don’t work after supper.”
Another good thing about being poor is that when you are seventy your children will not have you declared legally insane in order to gain control of your estate.
You may have heard the old joke about Shirley, the Jewish mother in NYC, who brought her 6 year old boy to the psychoanalyst, who diagnosed: “Nothing much wrong with your son, just a slight Oedipus complex.
Said Shirley the mom… “Oedipus, schmedipus, the important thing is that he loves his mother”
A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.
The Wizard to the Tin Man
On their 50th wedding anniversary, the couple summed up the reason for their long and happy marriage.
The husband said, “I have tried never to be selfish. After all, there is no “I” in the word ‘marriage.'”‘
The wife said, “For my part, I have never corrected my husband’s spelling.”
All people smile in the same language.
Tammy was waiting with the cart, browsing in the small appliances aisle, while Doug gathered a few last-minute items. When Doug returned, Tammy was facing the opposite direction, so Doug silently approached and gave her a playful pat on the fanny.
Without turning around she said, “That had better be my husband but if it’s not, I shop here every Tuesday.”
There are worse things than getting a call for a wrong number at 4 AM.
It could be a right number. Think about this…
A C-141 cargo plane was preparing for departure from Thule Air Base in Greenland, and they were waiting for the truck to arrive to pump out the aircraft’s sewage holding tank.
The aircraft commander was in a hurry, the truck was late in arriving, and the airman performing the job was extremely slow in getting the tank pumped out.
When the commander berated the airman for his slowness and promised punishment, the airman responded, “Sir, I have no stripes, it is 20 below zero, I’m stationed in Thule, and I’m pumping sewage out of airplanes. Just what are you going to do to punish me?”
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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