Look up and not down; look forward and not back; look out and not in; and lend a hand.
Here we are at last. May has arrived bringing its flowers and warmth to my part of the world. The spring weather is an elixir that helps to cure the blahs that sometimes linger after a hard winter. I have learned that it is more than the seasons that can take us down. At my time of life I spend much of my time dealing with the passing of friends and acquaintances.
Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for my long life and especially grateful for the many friends I have made over the years. I did not always realize that the people who offered me their friendship were giving me the best gifts I would ever receive. I really miss the ones no longer with us and appreciate even more those who are still here,
There are many setbacks in life as we age, illness, loneliness the loss of friends and loved ones all take their toll, yet life goes on. How it goes on depends on how well we move on from the challenges we face. Here is an article that can help us learn how to deal with loss and then move on.
How to Handle the Difficult Times
BY LEO BABAUTA
Sometimes, life just wallops us against the head, deals us with such a blow that it takes our breath away. A loved one dies, you lose a job, someone you care about gets sick, your car gets totaled, or hopelessness hits you.
What do we do when the world around us crumbles, when we can’t seem to find a way out?
The times when things are falling apart are exactly the best times to practice mindfulness and compassion. These are the times we’re preparing for, in a way, when we meditate regularly with mindfulness and compassion, during the non-traumatic times.
The times when the world is collapsing are the richest areas of exploration, and when we need the tools most.
So the way to work with these times is this:
Stay with the pain. Don’t run from it, don’t try to do anything about it, but face it with courage.
Stay with the bodily feeling, dropping below your story, and smile at it, be friendly with it, have the braveness to just be with it like you would with a friend who’s hurting.
Do it in small doses if that’s all you can handle. Do it with patience, noticing that your mind wants to run. Keep coming back, and you’ll earn trust in yourself to stay with the hard feelings.
Eventually, you see that the feelings aren’t so bad, that you can stay with them and the world won’t end, that they’ll go away like a passing cloud, that these feelings and thoughts aren’t you but just passing phenomena. You’ll start to take them less seriously, see that they’re No Big Deal, hold them lightly, give them space in your mind.
We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.
Barbara de Angelis
Think About This!
* Laughter is like changing a baby’s diaper: It doesn’t permanently solve any problems, but it makes thing more acceptable for awhile.
* Live as you wish your kids would.
* Living on Earth is expensive, but it does include a free trip around the sun every year.
* Love is like a rose. You have to see past the thorns to appreciate its beauty.
* Middle age is when broadness of the mind and narrowness of the waist change places.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
* Support bacteria–they’re the only culture some people have.
* The pessimist may be right in the long run, but the optimist has a better time during the trip.
To err is human—to blame it on a computer is even more so.
While attending his high school class reunion, a fellow approached a woman he thought he recognized. “You look like Helen Brown” he said.
Without hesitation she shot back. “Oh yeah? Well let me tell you that you don’t look so damned good in blue either.”
We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise we harden.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Jill: Mary, what exactly is an “oxymoron”?
Mary: It’s a phrase made up of contradictory terms, like “deafening silence.”
Jill: Oh, I get it. Like “Mr. Perfect”!
“We spend the first six years teaching our children to walk and talk, and the next 15 telling them to shut up and sit down.”
A man was being proselytized by group of friends:
“Come join our study group. We want to discuss mankind’s relationship to God.”
“I’m married; I learned long ago that my opinions don’t matter.”
“But, when you die, will you go to heaven or to hell?”
“Wherever my wife tells me to.”
One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody, everything, every night before you go to bed.
Bernard M. Baruch
This woman is rushed to the hospital in critical condition. Her husband waits patiently in the waiting room.
After a few minutes, the doctor comes out and asks her assistant for a wrench, which understandably concerns the husband.
Then, after a couple more moments, the doctor re-enters the room this time asking for a screwdriver.
The man grows worried and begins to pace in circles. Then, a little later, the doctor bursts through the doors screaming for a hammer.
At that, the husband, in a state of frenzied terror, runs up to the surgeon and asks, ”Doctor, what the heck is wrong with my wife?”
“I don’t know,” replies the flustered doctor, “I can’t get my darn bag open.”
Look not mournfully into the past, it comes not back again. Wisely improve the present, it is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future without fear and with a manly heart.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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