“No road is long with good company.”
Note: There will be no Daily tomorrow or Wednesday, I have to go for tests.
I have learned, as I am sure many of you have, that real happiness comes from the quality of our relationships and not from the things we collect over our lifetime. It is our loved ones and our friends who provide us the setting where we can find hope, happiness and even serenity. It is a shame that it takes many of us so long to appreciate those around us.
Here are excerpts of an article written by Candy Sagon that is worth reading. Remember you really don’t have to wait until old age to appreciate the gifts others give you.
What’s the Secret to a Happy Life? It’s Not What You Think
When you’re in your 20s and just starting out, money and fame may seem the key to a happy life. But as you age, that viewpoint changes considerably. The real secret, according to a Harvard study that’s been going on since the 1930s, has nothing to do with your bank account or your career.
“The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period,” the study’s current director, Robert Waldinger, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, said in a recent TED Talk that’s been viewed more than 7 million times.
The research doesn’t prove that happier relationships cause better health. It could be that those who are happier and healthier are more likely to make and maintain satisfying relationships, while those struggling with health problems are more likely to become isolated and depressed.
Keep making friends after you retire. Those who were the happiest in retirement were the people who had actively worked to replace workplace friends and colleagues with new friends.
Social connections are really good for us, and loneliness kills. “People who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community, are happier, physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected,” Waldinger said. People who are more isolated are less happy and have shorter lives.
It’s the quality of your close relationships that matters. “High-conflict marriages, for example, without much affection, turn out to be very bad for our health, perhaps worse than getting divorced,” he said. Having good, warm relationships was protective of our health.
A secure relationship helps your brain. Those in relationships where they felt they could count on the other person in time of need had memories that stayed sharper longer. Even the octogenarian couples who bickered daily remained sharp “as long as they felt that they could really count on the other one when the going got tough,” said Waldinger.
“Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.”
Two old guys are pushing their carts around Wal-Mart when they collide. The first old guy says to the second guy, “Sorry about that. I’m looking for my wife, and I guess I wasn’t paying attention to where I was going.”
The second old guy says, “That’s OK, It’s a coincidence. I’m looking for my wife, too. I can’t find her and I’m getting a little desperate.”
The first old guy says, “Well, maybe I can help you find her. What does she look like?”
The second old guy says, “Well, she is 27 yrs. old, tall, with red hair, blue eyes, long legs, big busted, and is wearing short shorts. What does your wife look like?”
To which the first old guy says, “Doesn’t matter, — let’s look for yours.”
“There are souls in this world which have the gift of finding joy everywhere and of leaving it behind them when they go.”
Frederick William Faber
These two couples play golf together regularly at their club, and on the sixth hole, a par four, the second shot to the green must carry 80 yards over water.
One of the women, Mrs. Smith, for over a year, could never carry the water, and would always hit into it, totally psyched out by the presence of the water.
Her friend in the group suggested that she might want to see a hypnotherapist to overcome her anxiety near the water. So the woman went to a hypnotherapist for four sessions. In those sessions, the woman was hypnotized and the therapist would “plant suggestions” that when playing the second shot on the sixth hole, she would not see water, but rather a plush green fairway leading all the way up to the green.
About six months later, a woman at the club asked whatever happened to Mrs. Smith, that she hadn’t seen her playing golf at the club for almost four months now.
She was informed that five months earlier, Mrs. Smith had *drowned* at the first leg of the sixth hole!!
If you cannot hear a pin drop, you are a lousy bowler.
A child asks his mother, “Do all fairy tales begin with, ‘Once upon a time?’ ”
His mother answers, “No, dear. Once in a while they begin with ‘I’ll be working late at the office tonight.'”
“Does Daddy tell you fairy tales like that ?”
“He used to.”
“What made him stop ?”
“One day he told me he’d be working late, and I said, ‘Can I depend on that ?'”
Success, for some people, depends on becoming well known; for others, it depends on never being found out.
An absent-minded husband thought he had conquered his problem of trying to remember his wife’s birthday and their anniversary. He opened an account with a florist, provided that florist with the dates and instructions to send flowers to his wife on these dates along with an appropriate note signed,
“Your loving husband.”
His wife was thrilled by this new display of attention and all went well until next year, on their anniversary, when he came home, kissed his wife and said off-handedly, “Nice flowers, honey. Where’d you get them?”
Some people eat from the three basic food groups – canned, frozen and take out.
Some members of a health club were having their first meeting.
The director of the group said, “Now, I’d like each of you to give the facts of your daily routine.”
Several people spoke, admitting their excesses, and then one obviously overweight member said, “I eat moderately, I drink moderately, and I exercise frequently.”
“Hmm?” said the manager. “And are you sure you having nothing else to add?”
“Well, yes,” said the member. “I lie extensively.”
It is no use waiting for your ship to come in unless you have sent one out.
A certain little girl, when asked her name, would reply, “I’m Mr. Sugarbrown’s daughter.”
Her mother told her this was wrong, she must say, “I’m Jane Sugarbrown.”
The Minister spoke to her in Sunday School and said, “Aren’t you Mr. Sugarbrown’s daughter?”
She replied, “I thought was, but mother says I’m not.”
“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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