“Choosing to live your life by your own choice is the greatest freedom you will ever have.”
I am still trying to get back up to speed. I am at the point in my life where I can’t do everything I want to do. I also have difficulty doing everything others want me to do. And I find that my body is demanding more rest time. My quandary is to cull the list of things I might do to a list of things I would like to do and can do. That means to eliminate those that are not going to get done and get them off my to-do list. It is easier than it sounds for I have a hard time giving up much of my past and bringing realism into my future.
I recently found an article written by Christy Tennery-Spalding that at least helps me to deal with my opportunities. Here in part is what she wrote.
The Joy of Doing Less: Ways to Reclaim Your Time
Honestly look at what you’re already committed to.
None of this works if you aren’t honest about what’s already in your schedule. From major work commitments to how much time you’re choosing to be on Facebook, keep a candid journal on where your time goes. Watch this for a little while. Try not to judge yourself, but look at what you’re prioritizing, consciously or unconsciously.
Once you see what you’re committed to and how you’re spending your time, you can start to edit. Does what’s on your schedule line up with your values and goals? Or is it time to start shift?
Follow the “three thing” rule.
It’s like the old saying, “If everything is a priority, then nothing is.” Choose three things that are the real priorities in your life. Start small. What are the three things you want to accomplish today? Start with those as the skeleton of your day, and build everything else around them.
I’ve noticed that this “three thing” rule is also a good boundary for understanding when I’ve done “enough.” As someone who has a hard time switching off sometimes, using the three thing rule as a guidepost can help me to know when to call it a day.
Start saying no.
This one is pretty simple. If it’s not supporting your values, your priorities, your “three things” or your inner well-being, it has to be a no.
The ability to craft elegant boundaries and a good rubric for new commitments can be a process. But over time, you’ll learn to trust your intuition. In the meantime, get some practice in confidently saying no. People in your life will also learn how to hear your no, and respect it.
Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.
After the birth of their child, an Episcopal priest, wearing his clerical collar, visited his wife in the hospital. He greeted her with a hug and a kiss, and gave her another hug and kiss when he left.
Later, the wife’s roommate commented, “Your pastor is sure friendlier than mine.”
I don’t mean to brag, but…… I finished my 14-day diet in 3 hours and 20 minutes.
Our minister announced that admission to a church social event would be six dollars per person. “However, if you’re over 65,” he said, “the price will be only $5.50.”
From the back of the congregation, a woman’s voice rang out, “Do you really think I’d give you that information for only 50 cents?”
When I eventually met Mr. Right, I had no idea that his first name was Always.
I was casting kids in our church for our annual Christmas play, and I was giving out choices, such as Shepherd, Lamb, Villager. One 5-year-old couldn’t decide, so I said, “Luke, you can be a Villager.” He said, “OK,” and ran over to his parents. Very excited, he said to them, “Guess what! I get to be a mini-van!”
Regardless of how much patience we have, we would prefer never to use any of it.
Have you seen this nifty little thing in the stores? It’s a small square wooden block. They call it the “Exercise Block.” The directions say to set the block on the floor. Walk around it twice. Now sit down & rest.
Congratulations! You have just walked around the block twice! Who says exercise has to be exhausting? Keep this up and you’ll be down 20 pounds by Christmas! Check with your doctor if you want to try this. Then head on over to your local Walgreen’s…that’s where I got mine. Now excuse me, while I go walk around the block.
The man says to his hair stylist, “My hair is falling out. What can I use to keep it in?”
The stylist replies, “Might I suggest a shoebox?”
At the senior center– Friday night dance
A very elderly gentleman (nineties), very well dressed, hair well-groomed, great-looking suit, flower in his lapel, smelling slightly of a good after-shave, presenting a well looked after image, walks into the “cocktail lounge” section at the senior center.
Seated at the bar is an attractive elderly looking lady (mid-eighties).
The gentleman walks over, sits alongside her, orders a drink, takes a sip, turns to her and says, “So tell me, do I come here often?”
“I’ve lived a long life and seen a lot of hard times… most of which never happened.”
A college student has been thrown out of his apartment for not paying his rent, so he sends an e-mail to his father.
“Please send money. I’m in the street.”
The father replies, “Have no money. Watch out for cars.”
“A psychologist once said that we know little about the conscience except that it is soluble in alcohol.”
Even though I was an engineering student at the University of Maryland, chemistry was a required course in my day. The professor, on the first day of class, asked everyone to name the most outstanding contribution chemistry had made to society.
When my turn came, I answered, “Blondes!”
Your life lies before you like a path of driven snow, be careful how you tread it cause every step will show.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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