“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
If you have been reading the Daily over the years you then know how distressed I get over how many people I know who are so much better than they think they are. Today I want to share with you some thoughts penned by Carmen Jacob that I wish my friends would read. How we feel about ourselves is really up to us.
The three pillars of self-esteem
Accept yourself as you are.
Therefore, the measurement of your value should come from inside you and not to the standards of others. See yourself as a piece of a puzzle. With some people, you will be a perfect fit, with other people you will never fit no matter how hard you try. This fact has nothing to do with who you are, and it has nothing to do with how great, smart and good you are. It’s simply the fact that each of us is a perfect fit in one picture or more, but not in all the pictures.
In what pictures you want to fit?
In what puzzles your best is enough?
Who are the people you’re a perfect fit for?
Ask yourself these questions because a big part of what gives you your true value, lies in the answers to these questions. So, first, accept yourself as you are. You are a perfect fit for many people and many situations. Find your perfect place and expand when you feel like it, not when other people are asking you to do it.
You are the person who’s defining your personal image.
Build a strong positive ego which means to know who you are and who you’re not. Value your abilities, your skills, your talents and your potential. Whenever you doubt yourself, remember, you are a unique individual and like any other unique thing in this world, you are invaluable. There are things that no one else knows to do better than you do. And, if you still doubt yourself, do it anyway because you’re growing more through your actions and behaviors rather than through what you believe and what you think about yourself.
Learn to give up.
Have you ever heard the saying: ”don’t ever give up!”? Yes! Probably we all did. And we have adopted into our life like it’s a universal truth. Then, we go on and on and on doing something even if we clearly see “this is not going well” until it hurts so bad that someone or something from outside has to intervene to say STOP! Just Stop!
Give up on trying to satisfy everybody.
Give up on those dreams that turned into nightmares.
Give up on the people for whom you feel you’re never enough.
Give up on everything and everyone that stops you achieving the best you.
“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
My friend Ken sent me some humor for where the old folks reside. Here is what he sent.
- I changed my car horn to gunshot sounds. People get out of the way much faster now.
- Gone are the days when girls used to cook like their mothers. Now they drink like their fathers.
- I didn’t make it to the gym today. That makes five years in a row.
- I decided to change calling the bathroom the John and renamed it the Jim. I feel so much better saying I went to the Jim this morning.
- Last year I joined a support group for procrastinators. We haven’t met yet.
- When I was a child I thought Nap Time was a punishment. Now, as a grownup, it feels like a small vacation.
- The biggest lie I tell myself is, “I don’t need to write that down, I’ll remember it.”
- If God wanted me to touch my toes, he would’ve put them on my knees.
- Why do I have to press one for English when you’re just going to transfer me to someone I can’t understand anyway?
- Of course I talk to myself; sometimes I need expert advice.
- At my age “Getting lucky” means walking into a room and remembering what I came in there for.
Hypochondriac’s headstone epitaph: “See?”
A group of Americans was traveling by tour bus through Holland. As they stopped at a cheese farm, a young guide led them through a process of cheese making, explaining that goats’ milk was used. She showed the group a lively hillside where many goats were grazing.
These, she explained, were the older goats put out to pasture when they no longer produced. She then asked, “What do you do in America with your older goats?”
A spry old gentleman answered, “They send us on bus tours.”
CONSCIOUSNESS; THAT ANNOYING TIME BETWEEN NAPS.
A woman was at home with her children when the telephone rang. In going to answer it, she tripped on a rug, grabbed for something to hold on to and seized the telephone table. It fell over with a crash, jarring the receiver off the hook.
As it fell, it hit the family dog, which leaped up, howling and barking. The woman’s three-year-old son, startled by this noise, broke into loud screams. The woman mumbled some colorful words. She finally managed to pick up the receiver and lift it to her ear, just in time to hear her husband’s voice on the other end say, “Nobody’s said hello yet, but it certainly sounds as if I have the right number.”
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
When a teenage girl smiles at a boy, he tries to decide what makes him so sexy.
When a young lady smiles at a man in his fifties, he turns around to see who’s the handsome dude behind him.
But when a female of any age smiles at a man of 80, he looks down to see if he’s unzipped.
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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