You’ll never find peace of mind until you listen to your heart.
Here we are the second week in March and the beginning of my return to a more active life. While there are still a few medical issues to resolve, I can walk, I can see, and look forward to leaving my easy chair. Reality is setting in and I find there are somethings I can’t do anymore and the truth is I am also realizing there are some things I don’t look forward to doing anymore.
One of my hardest issues is figuring out what I can do with my Kiwanis club. I have been a member for about forty years; I was one of the club’s charter members. I have sponsored many great members and have made friends with hundreds of others in both my club and clubs in the U.S. and abroad.
My club is very active and does many great things for our community with a special focus on children. The problem I have is that recently I have not been able to do much to help my fellow members in their service efforts. I am even having trouble finding the enthusiasm I should have to do more. While I value the friends I have in the club and appreciate the fellowship that accompanies our Thursday morning meetings I find the guilt of my lack of participation to be a heavy burden. I may have to resign my membership if the guilt load does not lighten.
So you can see why these thoughts I extracted from an article by Marc Cher have meaning right now.
Ways to maintain peace of mind in tough times:
See the difference between who YOU are and what you’re going through.
You are more than whatever is troubling you. A very real part of you exists beyond your worries, beyond your doubts, independent from the troubles and frustrations of the present moment. Step back and observe yourself as you experience each moment. Be present. Watch yourself as you think, as you take action, as you experience emotions. Your body may experience pain, and yet that pain is not you.
Open up to someone you trust.
You aren’t alone. Let someone special in when you’re in a dark place. You know who this person is. Don’t expect them to solve your problems; just allow them to face your problems with you. Give them permission to stand beside you. They won’t necessarily be able to pull you out of the dark place you’re in, but the light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is.
Ease your expectations and be present with life’s lessons.
Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect. Whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you’re expecting. Don’t miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.
You must see and accept things as they are instead of as you hoped, wished, or expected them to be. Just because it didn’t turn out like you had envisioned, doesn’t mean it isn’t teaching you exactly what you need to know to get to where you ultimately want to go.
Move TOWARDS something instead of AWAY.
“Don’t think about eating that chocolate cookie!” What are you thinking about now? Eating that chocolate cookie, right? When you concentrate on not thinking about something, you end up thinking about it.
The same philosophy holds true when it comes to freeing your mind from a negative past. By persistently trying to move away from what you don’t want, you are forced to think about it so much that you end up carrying it’s weight along with you. But if you instead choose to focus your energy on moving toward something you do want, you naturally leave the negative weight behind as you progress forward.
Give yourself time.
Take all the time you need. Emotional healing is a process; don’t rush yourself through it. Don’t let others force you through it either. Moving on doesn’t take a day; it takes lots of little steps to be able to break free of your broken past and your wounded self.
Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.
A lawyer was trying to console a weeping widow. Her husband had passed away without a will. “Did the deceased have any last words?” asked the lawyer.
“You mean right before he died?” sobbed the widow.
“Yes,” replied the lawyer. “They might be helpful if it’s not too painful for you to recall.”
“Well,” she began, “he said ‘Don’t try to scare me! You couldn’t hit the broad side of a barn with that gun.'”
You don’t just luck into things…You build step by step, whether it’s friendships or opportunities.
President Obama was very curious about how the Jewish people knew everything before he did. So he called the CIA and FBI and asked them to figure it out. A week later they came back and said, “Mr. President, the Jews have something called Shabbat, and they meet each other at the synagogue, and there is a code.
They sit, they pray, and there is a word that is the key to this secret is “Nu?” When one says to other, “Nu?” the other tells him everything…..every bit of news.”
This Obama wanted to see for himself. The secret service dressed him like a Hassid, and taught him to read from the right to the left of the Siddur (prayer book ).
Obama arrived at a Brooklyn synagogue on Shabbat, and sat beside another religious man. He waited for a moment, and Bush said, “Nu?”
The man continued praying and answered… “Shh, Obama is coming to Brooklyn!”
“Necessity is the mother of taking chances.”
There once was a blind man who decided to visit Texas. When he arrived on the plane, he felt the seats and said, “Wow, these seats are big!”
The person next to him answered, “Everything is big in Texas.”
When he finally arrived in Texas, he decided to visit a bar. Upon arriving in the bar, he ordered a beer and got a mug placed between his hands. He exclaimed, “Wow these mugs are big!”
The bartender replied, “Everything is big in Texas.”
After a couple of beers, the blind man asked the bartender where the bathroom was located.
The bartender replied, “Second door to the right.” The blind man headed for the bathroom, but accidentally entered the third door, which lead to the swimming pool and fell into the pool by accident.
Scared to death, the blind man started shouting, “Don’t flush, don’t flush!”
“If genius is one percent inspiration and 99 percent perspiration, I wind up sharing elevators with a lot of bright people.”
One Christmas, a parent decreed that she was no longer going to remind her children of their thank-you note duties. As a result their grandmother never received acknowledgments of the generous checks she had given. The next year things were different, however.
“The children came over in person to thank me,” the grandparent told a friend triumphantly.
“How wonderful!” the friend exclaimed. “What do you think caused the change in behavior?”
“Oh, that’s easy,” the grandmother replied. “This year I didn’t sign the checks.”
Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.
St. Francis de Sales
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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