There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.
This has not been an easy week. An old friend and neighbor passed away, a former colleague from my computer days also died, and I learned that a good friend’s health has taken a turn for the worse. But worst of all was the passing of my oldest daughter’s mother-in-law; she was a special lady, quick to smile even in the worst of times, she was our friend and I am going to miss her.
It didn’t get any better when I had to put my wife in the hospital, fortunately they solved the problem, at least temporally and she is back home. At the same time I was notified that my bank accounts had been hacked and that the bank was able to thwart an attempt to transfer $800 from my account to an unknown account. All the accounts are now closed and new security measures have been taken.
All in all a week I hope that is never repeated. I grieve for the loss of my friends. I am never good at communicating my sorrow when someone I care about passes, words just never seems to be enough.
Here are some thoughts I picked up of the internet for dealing with grief that help; I hope you don’t mind my sharing them with you.
Living with Grief
- Coping with death is vital to your mental health. It is only natural to experience grief when a loved one dies. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. There are many ways to cope effectively with your pain.
- Seek out caring people. Find relatives and friends who can understand your feelings of loss.
- Express your feelings. Tell others how you are feeling; it will help you to work through the grieving process.
- Take care of your health. Maintain regular contact with your family physician and be sure to eat well and get plenty of rest. Be aware of the danger of developing a dependence on medication or alcohol to deal with your grief.
- Accept that life is for the living. It takes effort to begin to live again in the present and not dwell on the past.
- Be patient. It can take months or even years to absorb a major loss and accept your changed life.
- Seek outside help when necessary. If your grief seems like it is too much to bear, seek professional assistance to help work through your grief. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness, to seek help.
Helping Others Grieve
- If someone you care about has lost a loved one, you can help them through the grieving process.
- Share the sorrow. Allow them — even encourage them — to talk about their feelings of loss and share memories of the deceased.
- Don’t offer false comfort. It doesn’t help the grieving person when you say “it was for the best” or “you’ll get over it in time.” Instead, offer a simple expression of sorrow and take time to listen.
- Offer practical help. Baby-sitting, cooking and running errands are all ways to help someone who is in the midst of grieving.
- Be patient. Remember that it can take a long time to recover from a major loss. Make yourself available to talk.
The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing… not healing, not curing… that is a friend who cares.
While we grieve life must go on!
Heard on the field
- Our offensive line was so good that even our backs couldn’t get through it.
- Football is a game of inches, and that’s how some teams move the ball.
- We play in a dome stadium. We always prefer to kick with the air-conditioning at our backs.
- Football is a game when 22 big, strong players run around like crazy for two hours while 50,000 people who really need the exercise sit in the stands and watch them.
- The coach says his favorite play is the one where one of our players pitches the ball back to the official after he has scored a touchdown.
- We have so many players on the disabled list the team bus can park in a handicapped space.
- This year I can assure you that we are going to move the ball. I just hope that it’s forward.
“The real winners in life are the people who look at every situation with an expectation that they can make it work or make it better”
Two elderly sisters donated $5 to a charity and, to their surprise, won tickets to a football game. Since they had never seen a live football game before, Madge thought the free tickets would provide an excellent opportunity for doing so.
“I think so, too,” said Mabel. “Let’s go!”
They soon found themselves high in a noisy stadium overlooking a large, grassy expanse. They watched the kickoff and the seemingly endless back-and-forth struggles that comprised the scoreless first half.
They enjoyed the band music and cheerleader performance that followed. Then came the second half. When the teams lined up for the second-half kickoff, Madge nudged her sister.
“I guess we can go home now, Mabel,” she said. “This is where we came in.”
“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age. ”
My Spell Checker
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“If I can see pain in your eyes then share with me your tears.
If I can see joy in your eyes then share with me your smile.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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